November 2012 - What are your New Year's resolutions for your baby?

[StuntNun]

Previous thread: www.mumsnet.com/Talk/postnatal_clubs/1937565-November-2012-The-run-up-to-our-babies-first-proper-Christmas

They seem well, yes they are staying here and I don't know for how long. At least until next Thursday I think.

Excellent end of thread vq

I had a bad night. I couldn't sleep.

Chin up PR, just got to put a brave face on it and mutter vague insults under your breath in English so they won't know quite what you're saying.

My attempt to go low contact with the ILs will be tested today as DH got an email this morning that his DB and DNiece are arriving this morning. Naturally his DSis, DBIL and DNephew are leaving this morning - they never manage to all show up at the same time despite how much it would mean to their mum. My DS1 and DS2 will be keen to see their cousin so I'll probably have to suck it up. I have been reading up about boundaries which has helped put into words what I feel about being emotionally trampled on and having my personal space invaded over Christmas. I'm hoping by going low contact I can reestablish proper boundaries with DH's parents. I'm going to have to ask for our door key back from them which might ruffle some feathers.

J's sleep seems to be back to normal - i.e. one or two wake ups a night - which should make everything a bit more manageable.

What are people's plans for New Year's Eve? We have a bottle of champagne and I need to think of a lovely not turkey-based meal to have for dinner that night. I wonder what goes with champagne?

I'm going to play monopoly with chasing on nye through Skype. I think ours is the best plan. You can't top it.

stunt hope it goes well. Get that key back! When are you going to poas?

PR same really. And I love one of your resolutions.

fruit do you think it was sort of a jokey remark to an over-nosy question or what he really thinks? Good luck with the convo.

Lots of nice resolutions to read. Weddings and learning to drive seem to feature prominently in the quiche!

S's resolutions
-sleep through the night occasionally
-allow shoes to be put on his feet
-develop vocab beyond "uh uh uh" which DD and I have to interpret (her with infinitely more success)

Mine
-be nicer to DH
-change unhealthy lifestyle and lose weight as a result
-change overspending habits

Those two are inexorably linked and the only real chaos in my life - am a massive control freak about almost everything else but can't exercise control over those. 2014 will be the year this changes permanently.

Sounds great lily

I'm home alone with DC as DH working (chef). They will go to bed then I will have something nice from M&S and a bottle of prosecco!

stunt if you need to ruffle feathers now to make things better in the future then so be it. I hope it goes well.

lily and chasing what a fab idea! I haven't played monopoly in ages, I am royally shit at it. Might see if dp wants a game.

zamboni I hope so, we haven't really spoken about a second, he is one of 7 so I thought he would want more than one, but his family is a bit messed up and not at all close so maybe that's put him off, who knows. Guess I'll find out soon!

Dp asked me to get 2 tickets for our local the other day for New Year's Eve just in case we wanted to go out. I looked at him and asked him what exactly he planned on doing with S, his face was a picture, he said, oh my god I completely forgot about her or a second hmmmm maybe a second isn't such a good idea after all!

Lily and Chasing that sounds brilliant. Buy the orange properties - they're the best ones!

fab idea lily and chasing

Stunt we have gone nc with ils. Albeit they love in a different country and have been blanking us but it was surprisingly easy. get dh on side. And poas

New Years we are going to a neighbours house party and my mum is having m overnight. If it's crap we will come home and take a bottle of champagne down to the pier.

I am going to look at a new build house today. I have decided that this house has too many bad memories and I want to move somewhere that I own that will make me happy. My landlord has really upset me over a number of issues I probably shouldn't discuss online and I think our friendship is probably over. (D)p has agreed in principle that I will buy a house in my name with a legal contract drawn up that he is not entitled to a share of it and we will both plough 65% of our incomes (enough to cover all bills) into a joint account so we are both contributing equally. Seems reasonable enough.

Either way my biggest New Years resolution is to move somewhere that will make me happier in the next year.

Oh hello Auntie Flo, nice of you to show up at last.

Hello stunts flo. Gosh you will have a house full again today with her turning up unannounced too! we are Venison For New Year. stunt

I am hoping it will just be us two cosy by the fire. DH is taking day off, (well that is what he said the other night so I hope he remembers) and te boys will be in nursery so am hoping to keep it quiet.

Morning quiche

I am very much looking forward to my New Years date. Shall we drink wine too Lily?

I forgot to add a couple of other New Years resolutions: Oscar will learn how to self settle and I will be off antidepressants by the end of the year.

Stunt, I really think you deserve a relaxing break after what you have endured this Christmas. You're a superstar.

Thinking of you PR - hope the inlaws aren't being too hellish.

Wine (red) or champaigne or whiskey . Nothing else is in stock in my pantry.

Hello quiche x

Hello Flo, good to see you. Poor Mummy Stunt has enough to cope with at the moment, so keep visiting for a while eh?

Chasing and Lily you are sensible lasses arranging to do that on NYE. Not too much alcohol though, as it is a depressant (lecture over).

One of my most memorable NYEs was with my BFF and her cat. We were both single and at the stroke of midnight we looked at each other, then at the cat. The cat looked very worried and scarpered. That was the year where both our lives completely transformed. Sadly it meant we ended up in different countries, but we both have families and are both very happy. I hope 2014 is a wonderful year of new beginnings for Lily and Chasing, and also Evil. Big hugs girlies x

Ooh misslaugh that's exciting - are you hopeful?

New year resolution in common with lots of you - lose weight and start ttc #2. Want to minimise my chance of getting GD again so I need to crack on with the first part. once I've eaten these chocolate coins off the tree

L's resolutions are to just keep being his funny little self.

I survived the visit. So glad we stayed with friends as it was so intense at MILs. DH managed to have drunken chats with his best mate and he even got up with J this morning. He has never ever done that. Ever. The visit was very special for MIL and the girls had a way of really facing things head on, like calling her Shrek, congratulating her for peeing on her potty etc. They both had a lot of snuggles for her, which melted her, understandably. DSIL will be scrubbing her precious table and chairs and cursing us no doubt. But she did pass on a lovely bag that she had for Christmas and didn't like. It is the best bag ever for me.

On our way home now. All three kids asleep. I am letting DH drive which shows how rough I feel. He thinks I should go to Dr but I am fine. I have been much much worse. I sometimes wonder if he sees me.

My pal had her baby yesterday. She was pg with us, but lost it at around 9 weeks. She now has a little girl, a scratch under 6lb. Emergency section. I had written to her about a month ago and sent a section pack up just in case. She was very grateful as she had never even considered it might be an option. I am just so glad they are both ok, and the baby is scrummy I am glad I have been tied off as I could get broody again.

Afternoon ladies!

Great thread ending vq. It sounds like the visit was good in the end if intense. Your DH appears to see you but in a blur - only occasionally are you in sharp focus. Maybe this trip has sharpened his focus? Either way, just because you have been worse doesn't mean you shouldn't see the doc if this cough isn't shifting.

I love the monopoly plans chasing and lily! Love a bit of monopoly. We have no plans. We may or may not have a pal round - up to him if he fancies it. Last year we gave p her medicine at just before midnight then took her into the garden to see the fireworks at the castle. Then we all went to bed.

Oh, I took p to the doc yesterday. Both ears red and sore inside but no infection. Throat red and sore but no infection. So generally just totally wabbit from a stinking cough. Through her generosity with dummy sharing I now have it but she is well on the mend. Her temp was below 37 this morning which is the lowest it has been in days. It seemed to keep randomly peaking - just suddenly she would get very upset and be red and hot. Anyway, she is snoozing soundly now as is DH and aging pussy.

Resolutions. Hmm.
Personally:
I need to move schools. Things have changed there and so have I. Ships are safe in harbour but that is not where ships are supposed to be!
Organise this shit tip of a house! It is not a home the way it is right now. I don't want to be in it. This has to change.

For P. I hope she continues to be full of fun and giggles and curiosity. I do wish she would stop with the fascination with the cat's litter tray!!

What a year you have had pp. I hope 2014 brings a turn of fortune for you all.

Thanks mummy VQ x

I completely forgot about ending the thread

Pass, I think you are right about DH seeing me but only in a blur. I guess it works the other way too. I love your comment about boats and harbours. I need to cast off and travel to distant shores in my work life. Good luck with sorting the house. I am looking forward to selling lots of baby kit, or passing it on.

Red alert! The gaslighting has begun here! Will fill you all in later... Am v relaxed about it all.

Thank you, Pass this time last year dp was learning how to walk again while surrounded by desperately frail old men hooked up to catheter bags being fed gloop from sippy cups. It could have been so much worse. 2014 will be better.

I've had a lovely morning (he's at work) with a friend who rushed back to her country a week before Christmas to attend her mum's funeral. Hopefully I've distracted her a bit (she didn't want to talk about it)

R has napped 1:25-1:40 and 1:50-2:05 and just grizzled himself back down. Naughty mummy let him play with his little buddy instead of insisting on sleep

Nope, mumping again

Ooh I love a bit of gaslighting PR. I know it's an awful thing when you're the victim but IMO it's quite another thing when you know full well what is going on and you can simply observe the patheticness of it all, while remaining cool and aloof. It's like watching a toddler have a tantrum.

Gah, attempting to post from swishy new tab, but for a computer mostly illiterate buffoon tis hard, and slow!

pp what a year. But great that dh continues to improve.

Argh, slow.

Off out for a walk, laters.

Oh, and I'm going indoor skydiving this evening. As you do.

You get used to it, BP I'm slowly losing my ability to touch type since switching

Chasing ignores fear of heights

Hurrah, he's been down 40 solid ish minutes, I've tidied and prepped the veg for dinner