Nasty & spiteful Daughter in law

[Ifonlyihadknown79]

Please tell me I'm not alone in disliking Dil!

It’s hard to tell as you’ve been fairly brief
But
If your DS was a decent father, he wouldn’t allow her to stop him seeing his kids. He’s the only one responsible for that.

She is not a DIL . She is a girlfriend.

Ohalrightthen what does dfod stand for?

It sounds like everyone needs to grow up and put the children's needs first.
And learn to spell.
Life isn't a soap opera.

Santapranki does it matter that I put Dil??

Your poor son at the mercy of this terrible woman. Did he step in to defend you?

Did you raise him to make his own choices?

Sounds like your son has really ballsed this one up. Terrible that he isn't seeing his children and has moved someone into his house at the expense of being able to offer his children a proper place to stay. Have you tried talking to him and getting him to step up?

Life can be a soap opera.

What is normal?

Just say you are not tolerating that behaviour. If she can't behave, she can't visit .

Sorry OP but sounds like your Son has an awful lot of responsibility for this situation. He decides when to see his children, not the new girlfriend. He should be the one communicating with his ex, not the new girlfriend, he is the one that says yes or no to her moving in/changing bedrooms around. So it sounds like perhaps you have some rose tinted glasses on about who is in the wrong here - he is either a total wet lettuce or is quite happy with how things are going

I don’t think you have a daughter in law problem....you have a son problem!

He should be being a man and supporting his children, not dumping them for a new girlfriend like a rat!

Gosh, your poor son. Its almost like he has no thoughts or opinions of his own and has unwittingly allowed a relationship with this woman to take priority over his own kids.

Oooh er!

My MIL used to love me until her daughter (SIL) started being a pain in the a55 and we went NC with her. MIL probably doesn’t like me much anymore but only because we stood up to SIL and said we wanted nothing to do with her. She blames me even though her son hates his sister too.

My MiL doesn’t like me. I know her son rewrites the truth and I have decided not to correct it. He is and always will be right in her eyes so I just let her think I am a monster - I do however avoid her as much as possible which clearly makes her like me even less.

Wow, your son sounds absolutely awful. What kind of man moves in a new girlfriend and her kids while not seeing his own? That's shocking. If that were my son I'd be so ashamed.

Not really @Ifonlyihadknown79 .

She has no "legal " link to your son though.

Just stand your ground. You will not tolerate it . She's not welcome.

Surely it's your son's decision not to see his children? I wouldn't ever entertain anyone who made my relationship with my children difficult so he has a large part to play here! She might be a difficult personality but him not seeing his kids is on him

Your son picks shit women, maybe the focus should be on why he is failing his kids, rather than his latest shag, eh?

Sorry op but your ds has put his new gf first because having sex and frolics is more fun than parenting his dc.
I’d be wondering what sort of man I’d raised.

This is what I can't understand him not seeing the kids he was a devoted dad! Its like he's been brain washed and its heartbreaking to sit back and watch...
I am totally embarrassed and ashamed by his behaviour but the new G.F is not helping the situation at all.

OP why are you by blaming your son for these things?

19:43Oreservoir totally agree with you! Have told him to stop thinking with his dick!

She got pregnant after 3 months together.. New baby was born 5 months ago. Now she is using the new baby as an excuse for him not to see his other children.

Auntydolly no he didn't.