Nasty & spiteful Daughter in law

[Ifonlyihadknown79]

Please tell me I'm not alone in disliking Dil!

Wow, your son sounds absolutely awful. What a useless, shit father. Those poor kids

So she got pregnant by herself? Wow, that’s an achievement.

And your son is the only one to blame for abandoning his children. Shame on you both.

I think you need to have words with your son . A relationship takes 2 same as making a baby. She didn’t magically just get pregnant! He was involved too.

He needs to man up and be the dad he should be.

Hi OP it does sound as though she's being very difficult but ultimately it is your own sons responsibility to see his kids. Nothing in the world would have kept me from my kids so I don't understand why he isn't seeing them.

Are you maintaining a relationship with your grandkids? You don't have to entertain your sons girlfriend at your house you know.

So you don't see your son's new baby as one of your grandkids because they aren't from the relationship between your son and his ex, you think him and his ex were getting on great (except they had mysteriously broken up) and that all this is coming from new gf? And you obviously don't like the poor girlfriend because she's not the ex. I'd be shouting at you too.
Wow, your son has you wrapped around his little finger, doesn't he?

You must be so ashamed of your son - so weak, so spineless and incapable of sustaining a commitment to his children, so easily manipulated. Is his own dad equally dead beat?

Shinygreenelephant totally agree with you... New g.f doesn't want him anywhere near ex g.f. Ex.g.f doesn't want the kids near new g.f. posses me off none of them are thinking about the kids! Just themselves.

@Ifonlyihadknown79

Please tell me I'm not alone in disliking Dil!

She probably doesn't much like you, and with good reason if you start a thread on here to bitch about her.

Untilyournexthairbrainedscheme I was a single parent.. but believe me he wasn't brought up to behave like this.

@Ifonlyihadknown79

Please tell me I'm not alone in disliking Dil!

I don't even know her.

If your son doesn't see his kids that's his fault. Nobody else's.

@UntilYourNextHairBrainedScheme

You must be so ashamed of your son - so weak, so spineless and incapable of sustaining a commitment to his children, so easily manipulated. Is his own dad equally dead beat?

This! The new girlfriend is not the problem here!

Popping potatoes she has made it very clear she doesn't like me as stuck up for the kids and not put her 1st.

Of course your son has been brainwashed. After all, it's not as if he's an adult who makes his own decisions, is it?

@Ifonlyihadknown79

Son's ex partner left him after 8 years together and 2 children. Ex Dil and Son were perfectly fine getting on, all good. New girl comes along after a few months of them separating then all relationship starts to break down. Son doesn't see children. Ex and new g.f are at each other throats I'm stuck in the middle trying to keep the peace. New G.F clears the children's bedrooms out for her kids, this after a couple of months being together and moves in with him. New g.f does something horrendous to ex g.f which I was disgusted at but kept my mouth shut. Police have been called numerous times by both of them ex and N.G! N.G causes and starts all the problems then say it wasn't her! Grandkids not seeing there dad who they idolise and who idlosed them for over a year. New G.f told me I was ex G.F side, told her the only side I was on were my grandkids! Sorry waffling on a bit

You have a son problem.

HE is at fault.
He is being a shit Dad

AcornsVsb

@Ifonlyihadknown79

This is what I can't understand him not seeing the kids he was a devoted dad! Its like he's been brain washed and its heartbreaking to sit back and watch... I am totally embarrassed and ashamed by his behaviour but the new G.F is not helping the situation at all.

By his dick.

Your son's girlfriend is nasty for shouting at you. However, firstly your son never married the mother of his 2first children. This shows his character. Then he gets with another woman who has children. He moves the new family into his home after a very short amount of time. This shows his character further He allows her children to use his own children's bedrooms as their own. Again, a nasty thing to do. The new girlfriend moved her children in with a virtual stranger who isn't their dad. Tells you everything you need to know about her.

I feel sorry for all the kids to be honest.

And yes, actually, it does matter that you used the phrase daughter in law. It affords your son a level of maturity and responsibility which he clearly doesn't have.

Your son needs to grow some balls and do the right thing for all of his kids. It’s that simple.

Change the title to how many people hate their mil and see the response. Btw me and inlaw get on great

Quakershaker can't even have a conversation with him without her butting in and saying what she thinks... everyone who knows him is completely shocked at the way he has behaved.

I hope you hate your son as much as his girlfriend- because they sound equally culpable tbh.

So they've been together 18 months? 5 month old baby, 9 month pregnancy, pregnant after 4 months. So not really new. How long then since he's seen his kids? Have you told him what an utter disgrace he is and how shamed you are?

So your son has:

• moved a new woman in to his home and allowed her to clear out his kids' rooms
• stopped seeing the kids that you claim he was devoted to (he obviously wasn't that devoted)
• got his new GF pregnant after just 3 mths, when he barely knows her and doesn't even see the kids he already has

And you think she's the main problem?

My MIL is really difficult despite my best efforts, and believe me I have tried.

But have come to the conclusion that DH needs to manage the relationship with his own mother, and I need to stay out of it.