Nasty & spiteful Daughter in law

[Ifonlyihadknown79]

Please tell me I'm not alone in disliking Dil!

@Ifonlyihadknown79

Untilyournexthairbrainedscheme I was a single parent.. but believe me he wasn't brought up to behave like this.

It isn't your fault, OP, and I understand your distress at the situation. However moving a new family in is a terrible thing, and in the kids old bedrooms too.

Yes, but it was the son that did it. It's his house - it could only happen with his full agreement.

@Christmasfairy2020

Change the title to how many people hate their mil and see the response. Btw me and inlaw get on great

The venue was booked she walked out 6 months before they were due to get married. He thought they would be together for ever, totally broken by it all. Then all of a sudden the new G.F has moved in with her child cleared the house of all the kids stuff bedrooms etc. Nothing left of the kids stuff. Raised my concern with my son and the g.f said " well they can't stay empty waiting for them to come round.

@Ifonlyihadknown79

I did like her to start off with but the more I get to know her..... well let's say, she just not a nice person to get on with!! It all come to a head on Christmas when she spoke ( shouted and calling me names)to me like I was a teenage girl in a School playground.

I've never come across people behaving like that, you sound like a right shower.

Do you not place any blame at your sons door at all?

You seem to think things just “happen” to him without him having any input or thoughts.

I am not difficult at all She didn't like it as i said the only side I am on is the kids as they didn't asked to be brought in to this mess.
And her reply was ' your never seeing your grandchild, so say goodbye .

Shower?

Was your son having an affair with this lady? Is that why his wife left him?

It's very unusual for the primary carer to leave the family home with the kids and for the non resident parent to stay there. How come it was her and the kids that left?

They weren't married - I assume the house was in his name only.

Which says even more about him tbh

Which "DiL" are you talking about here?

I'm afraid I agree with the "complete shower" comment.

Sounds like the new gf and your son are both to blame.

She could be awful but unfortunately there’s not a lot you can do as it’s your son’s choice to be with her. And the more negative you are about her it will only push them closer together.

Most relationships that are that rushed don’t last so just try and bite your tongue until it’s over. In the meantime reach out to the old gf and see the grandkids as much as you can.

She does sound vile OP. But your DS appears to be blind to her behaviour at the moment. You can go NC with her, but still have a relationship with your DS. Maybe you can make him see sense and step up when it comes to his DCs with his ex. Try talk some common sense into him. If he is half decent, he will eventually see his gf for what she is, and the relationship won’t last, but in the meantime he needs to maintain a relationship with his kids.

*Quakershaker

can't even have a conversation with him without her butting in and saying what she thinks... everyone who knows him is completely shocked at the way he has behaved.*

But if he wanted to speak to you (in person or by phone) without her there, then he could easily do that.

This really is a problem of your son's making, as so many people have said. He is an adult who is making decisions. They're just very bad ones, and so you want to blame them on someone else. I'm sorry.

No the ex was having the affair it was her choice to leave. He was paying her £600 a month in child support and and paying fir whatever the kids needed until the New G.F came alone.. She moved into a House our friend owned. Yes it was his house she never wanted to go on the Mortgage.

When he's a work i can talk to him and he agrees. But as soon as he's home he's a completely different person.

So he even stopped paying child support?

Your son really is a shit, sorry.

You can't get on with everyone. The issue here is your son. Your son has picked a woman over his children.

Honestly OP I don't think your son has been completely truthful with you. Try to take a step back and look at everything objectively.

And has knocked up that woman to boot!

I will ask again. Do you not blame your son at all?

Yeh, it's your son at fault here.

Your son is a dick. He has allowed all of this to happen. He sounds like a spineless feet.

Don't think much of the DIL but your son sounds horrific. You must be so ashamed of him.

You appear to be alike in some obvious ways.

Not sure why you’re blaming the girlfriend. No wonder she’s pissed at you. What a silly attitude to have. Your son is a grown man who is able to make his own decisions. He’s the only one at fault