AAAAAAGH! Brother and sister-in-law have first baby... doing it Gina-style!!!

[justnally]

Met new teeny tiny bundle yesterday. Very cute. Then they announced that they are following Gina Ford's book. I know I should respect their decision on how to look after their baby, but I felt like screaming "NO!" !!!

Tin hat. Popcorn.

(Might have to wait a while - it's school collection time.)

Well, I don't suppose they'd take that too well, but politely saying "See how you find that, and remember there are other ways of doing this" might be worthwhile...

can someone explain to me - what is it that Gina FOrd Suggests which is disliked so?

But you didn't say anything, did you?
Well done for not interfering.

It is my experience that those who follow a routine are far more likely to lecture you than the other way around.

Yes fabio, I thought about it for approx 2 seconds then gave up the idea.

Their baby, their method.

All of my friends parent differently to how I do, once again as long as it falls somewhere in the middle between neglect/smothering then it really doesn't make much difference.

Now, if they ASK you what you think about GF then that is a different story. Otherwise keep your opinions to yourself - as a AP type parent people sticking their noses in uninvited was very annoying and I am sure that people at the other end of the spectrum feel the same way.

Beanie - google it and you will see what is advocated...

I think a lot of people dislike the rigidity of her system because we are a bunch of slatterns and many people just can't leave their baby to cry or at least not until they are much older (dc's not Mn'ers)

Why on earth?

Not your business.

Be happy you are an aunt, not criticising their choices before the baby is even a day old!

wELL, LET THEM get on with it. I hope they have 'text book' baby. I had a 'spirited baby' and the next baby was 'even more bloody spirited' so neither of them would be "ginaforded' but good luck to them.

PSS this thread will self-destruct in about four minutes

MN will pull it!!

IME very few people follow any "gurus" slavishly but end up picking the bits that work for them. the only time to step in would be if they tell you they are struggling to deal with it. Quiet suggestion that they can do what they want to because they are teh parents now is all that is called for. Otherwise tightly buttoned lip is best.

well done for not grasping it to your bosom flinging it into a sling and running from the room shouting make eye contact with it you buggers [grin[]

Yes it could work well for them - which is more annoying. (Another like greenelizabeth with a 'spirited' baby).

Beanie steve, her methods just about possible with dc1, but with dc2, you need to leave the house!!! baby2 can not be in a darkened room if you have to drop dc1 off at playschool, pick him up, go shopping etc...

Possibly if you have a very placid easy going first born, could work well. But for subsequent children and 'spirited baby' as she herself calls them.... harder work.

I tend to make my opinions on the matter delicately felt

Roffles at M.Paper...

doh

('cos I do think it's VERY IMPORTANT for new parents to know that It Might Not Work and It Might Not Be The Best Thing For Your Family)

I usually start shrieking about 2 minutes into the discussion

I know, I know. I just wanted someone to tell me I should butt out. Luckily I did not say anything to them. (She is 2 weeks old).

Although I am surprised also.. last time I was on here, everyone was slagging Gina off, left right and centre! There was the prog on tv about her, mentioning mn's disapproval of her ways.... times have changed!

I am fearless because I don't have form unlike MP who is a big scaredy wuss.

he he he.... i will be back soon to see more... pmsl. loving MP xxx