It is our, society's business if they rely on benefits to raise 5 children.
You are being handed money that someone else has earned... It's meant to be a stop gap. Not an endless flow of money facilitating child 3, child 4, child 5, and getting the OP ever more further away from the world of work.
This woman knew child 1 was disabled. She knew child 2 was disabled. She knew child 3 was disabled... But she carried on having children requiring serious care and serious public taxpayer money to raise. Her husband also was involved so that's 2 adults churning out disabled children, knowingly.
Every birth the clock started ticking again from zero to the day she needed to go to the jobcentre... Back to 00.00.
She made her choices. Now she's poorer... But hardly starving. She's still getting thousands per month... She has a husband. They need to work out a plan. I'd advise contraception.
It's important the state helps people a bit, a blanket for a few months or years, but decades of huge payments to people who keep on churning out children whilst unable to pay for them is nuts. It's plain wrong. It's almost society being blackmailed where taxpayers have to keep on paying for feckless parents just so that the children don't suffer....
The OP needs a job. Now. Her benefits will drop as the kids age out, so whether she works now or later, she must work... Or be poor. Which a lot of working taxpayers and pensioners are today. Poor.
And yes, I don't care if she's poor in the future. I don't care if she has less money today. Tough. If a political party wants to cap the benefits in this scenario, yes, great. About time.
And no, she doesn't need any more enabling 'poor thing' treatment. She needs a cv, a bicycle and a mop and bucket. The husband can look after the kids whilst she's at work... It's only 3 with 2 at uni anyway, he can cope fgs. Might give them both a bit of dignity back :)