How can we manage financially as Universal Credit support reduces?

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We have 5 dc aged between 19 and 11 all with disabilities. Dh was a manager up until youngest was born, then he became unwell and had to take a massive pay cut. I'm a Sahm and get carers allowance. We get UC. Dc1 in his first year at uni, dc2 about to start in September.

We are just about managing at the moment but barely. In September we are going to lose the child element of universal credit for dc2 and I'm worried how we are going to manage. When the dc were younger I thought I would be working by now but I'm only getting 4 hours sleep a night and my 11 year old needs constant supervision when not at school so I don't know how I could fit work in. Dh has to work away about 15 weekends a year (from friday morning until late Sunday night) which leaves me completely exhausted each time. We spend 9 weekends a year picking up/dropping off/visiting dc1 and I imagine spending the same amount of time with dc2. There is no childcare for children my dc age with SN and they have to be picked up and dropped off at school. The dc have appointments about once a week on average and dc4 stays in hospital about 1 night a year when I don't get any sleep at all.

Realistically I can't think of any employer who would employ me with the amount of time off I would need and on so little sleep. At the moment I spend the time dc are at school doing the housework, cooking the dinner and trying to catch up on a bit of sleep.

I'm trying to think of anywhere we could save money but I can't think of anything. Dc1 doesn't cost any less money while he is at uni.

The data set you're linking to STILL doesn't reference the number of people fraudulently claiming becuase the DWP simply don't measure fraud in that way.

I'm not disputing the amounts (for the second time). I just take objection to you presenting your interpretation (ie - well if its £8bn that sounds like a lot of people doesn't it) as fact.

You are actually rude.

Oh it wasn't a humble brag babe. It was a fact. Loud and clear.

Ok and 2+2= 5, if you like..

Didn't make sense. I never mentioned either.

Would you kindly not bark at me. I was pointing out something factual. In response to someone else had said she did not have to pay rent on her property. And explaining that she may well have to do so.
Or it may be taxed. I offered no opinion on her situation. And got treated to a barrage.

She has explained before her husband had a breakdown. So has a reduced pay as is probably doing a job with less responsibilities. He works.

But whom else is there left to vote for?

Sorry, a loud and clear brag.

I’m a high earner too, but are perhaps 2 differences between us.

1. I don’t mind my “lots” of tax going towards supporting people who need it.
2. Just typing the words “I get paid lots and pay lots of tax” would give me the ick.

I may have it, but there’s more to life than money, and I certainly don’t see it as something to so outwardly pat myself on the back for.

Tacky, babe.

wow so parents of disabled kids are now expected not to have sex? Maybe sex helps them.to de stress at the end of a difficult day .Who knows? And frankly who cares. Their sex life is no ones business but their own.
But yes how dare they ? They shouldn't expect any sort of normal.life at all.
This thread is bonkers and v offensive on so many levels

What's the alternative though? Even with 1 or 2 disabled children it can still be impossible to work. I have 1 disabled child and can't work, being a carer to your disabled child isn't the same as being a SAHM.

well give it time and we will no.doubt have a Trump equivalent you.can vote for. Then we can properly start punishing disabled people ! Perhaps detention centres could be established and ICE style agents used to.terify them and ensure that disabled families are having no.fun ( or sex ) at all.

I have got abit of a humble brag for Northerncharm,

Benefit fraud as in outright fraud costs higher tax payers (that is people who earn over £50000 up to £125000 are you one of those lucky ones Northerncharm?) about £890 per year. £17 a week..imagine the life you could be living with that extra £890, yachts, holidays, designer brands, whatever you feel you are missing out on now.

Yeah of course £890 is not nothing but it just doesn't seem to make sense to me that you say millions of fraudulent claims when what you really mean is anyone claiming anything you don't think they should be entitled to.

So its the tax system you should be annoyed with not families with disabled children.

You don't understand. I wasn't bragging. You may see it as such, through your warped lens (I'm sorry about that). But there we are. Each to their own.

And?

I didn't ask you.

You are absolutely correct - it is the tax system that's wrong. Yes.

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Where have I been aggressive?

And nothing.

Sorry not you I was trying to respond to someone else. Too hot!

Bit of a pointless comment then.

Not really. Calling out rudeness might make you think more about the tone you’re using in future. I’m not the only person to have commented on it.

Sorry internet stranger, I won't pretend not to be autistic to make you feel more comfortable. Again, there's zero obligation to engage with me. I'd prefer not to be engaging with you since you have nothing of interest to add. So, like the other one, get your last bit of bile up and then never respond to me again.

Being rude to people is nothing to do with being autistic.

Very well said. We can’t afford to keep giving people money who could be working.
I have a relative who is 23 and has never had a job … he sits around playing computer games and going to the beach! He has no health issues at all. His girlfriend, a young single mum, doesn’t work either.
Taxes should be used to help support the elderly and those who are genuinely too sick to work.