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Where have all the men gone? thread 14

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ninah · 27/10/2009 20:21

it won't accept any more messages ladies. As you can see I decided it was time to get less picky.
Lou, I hope you didn't leave your phillips

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sincitylover · 28/10/2009 23:07

have just done that!! txt him saying that.

aseriouslyblondemoment · 28/10/2009 23:14

oh fgs are us divorcees all smokers lol
yes scl remember him from yonks ago and iirc he sounded quite intelligent and interesting tho i can't recall if he floated yer boat iyswim
but(sorry cynical head)if he's still about aft.all this time then doesn't it make you wonder why?

sincitylover · 28/10/2009 23:17

yes indeed

at least I have been away and come back again.

Samename1 's profile is still on there too. But he is just a serial shagger.

lou33 · 28/10/2009 23:18

same reason as us probably lol

maybe there is a group of men online asking where all the decent women have gone too?!

sincitylover · 28/10/2009 23:19

so did someone come on and pose as widowed dad - oh was that the one about marrying his SIL. Thought it rather strange.

sincitylover · 28/10/2009 23:21

fuckin exbf - it's like having drama queen/flounce convo with myself and it has to stop!

Betty79 · 28/10/2009 23:22

hehe lou that wud be funny! I'm not a proper smoker, just a social one when im pissed lol

FluffysBeenBittenByAVampire · 28/10/2009 23:27

There's more toxic men in the world then toxic women, this is why it's really hard to find a decent man!

lou33 · 28/10/2009 23:31

whats going on with exbf scl?

lb just called me on his way home from work, been there since before 8am

i told him to call me when he was home instead (no hands free)

aseriouslyblondemoment · 28/10/2009 23:39

yep scl that sick post creeped me from the off
do you think that samename has been active online since you've been seeing him?
lou was about to cheeky comment there lol..
meant to say how have things been left with batman?
he is aft all one of the fit thread's hotties icons

sincitylover · 28/10/2009 23:45

just going through usual phase of not answering texts etc, He has blown hot and cold like this since we rekindled contact in yes 2007!!!

This is the general pattern (yawn). Have just txted him saying 'am wasting my time, arent I?'

I know what I should be doing ie not contacting him at all
I know all the theory blah blah but I have to work out why I can't just leave it. I need to come to a place in my mind where I can see the situation for what it is and just leave it alone.

I will get there. I'm trying to goad him into some sort of reaction - ie I suppose I would like him to say he wants to cut contact but he won't do it.

sincitylover · 28/10/2009 23:55

asbm - meant the other samename the one I met for a one off date (!)

samename (the recent one) was online for some of the time. We did have a couple of convos about it.

Both are history!

lou33 · 28/10/2009 23:57

i think you should be telling him you are wasting your time not asking him scl

asbm you saucy minx you!

sincitylover · 29/10/2009 00:02

yes I agree. However find asking a question often elicits a response. IYKWIM

Am really going to try to leave it now. Can feel a shift and slightly more optimistic.

And I know from being on the other side a few times how unappealing it feels to have the 'upper hand'.

must go to bed have to be up early tomorrow as ds2 has SALt appt.

Thanks for chat. xx

lou33 · 29/10/2009 00:12

but you dont want a response if you are trying to draw a line under it

i know it's hard for you

aseriouslyblondemoment · 29/10/2009 00:39

gee thanks lou
scl had nearly forgotten about samename1 wasn't he the fella with the harem?!
god no answers for you here sadly as know it's not all clear cut with exbf, anyone else and i'd say straightout to tell him to go do one,but for as long as i've known you this has been a major part of your life
somehow this will all sort itself out and as i always say as long as it's the outcome which you want and feel right with then that's all that matters,put yourself first
best of luck with salt tomorrow..
nn everyone else x

Betty79 · 29/10/2009 08:07

Right ladies, no contact from footiebloke, have decided if i dont hear from him today im gonna see if i can bag a date with one or both of the other 2 ive been talking too!

thesouthsbelle · 29/10/2009 08:21

bag one anyways betty.

had a message last night at 11pm asking how my night was, am still to respond. (if at all!)

might take mum up on her offer - she's trying her hardest to set me up with a nice man who's a brother of her friend (he's 35 apparently) divorced with 2 kids. ho hum.

Betty79 · 29/10/2009 08:54

belle- was the message from gymboy? delete delete! and def let ur mum set u up u never know!

Yeah think ur right about bagging one anyway will let u know if i do!

LouIsAWeetbixKid · 29/10/2009 11:25

I have missed a lot. This thread moves quickly!
I am seeing (umm needs a name) the guy on Sunday. We can't see each other on weekdays due to my work hours which kinda sucks.

thesouthsbelle · 29/10/2009 11:39

lol. yep was gymboy plus 2 this am - one nice one saying 'hope you're night was ok' second one saying not sure if you're talking to me or not. then a ranting one cos he's pissed off, and now he's silent after I sent a shitty one back.

lets hope huh! (not gonna let mum set me up - really can't be arsed!)

sincitylover · 29/10/2009 12:09

why is he texting you sb? I've forgotten how you left things.

Had a rather frustrating morning - took ds2 to the SALT but they had mixed up the appts. Then took all my documents to the council re a claim for hb,

I felt sort of embarassed because on paper it looks as though my income is high but then so is my rent.

Rents in this area are absolutely ridiculous and it's just an average though quite interesting area but close the City and Canary Wharf so pushes up all the prices. All those wankers bankers getting their enormous bonuses

I initially subsidised the rent with equity but that's gone and now I am really struggling. Very irritating when someone at work was asking me about some extra money he was due as 'he wanted to buy another field' adjacent his country cottage' Don't work in finance either.

Ok rant over.

sincitylover · 29/10/2009 12:10

gymboy's texts sound a bit like mine to exbf start off polite but getting a bit ranty

thesouthsbelle · 29/10/2009 12:24

tbh i'm, pissed off, cos now i'm wound up - qwas already but i'm like how the fuck dare you! (plus there was no X's in his last ranting one either!)

was left on thursday night as 'prob see you on thurs/fri' - he was saying I mean my response was 'yeah whatever.' said in the sarcastic tone I seem to be able to do. plus one peck, but he did pull me in for a really big hug thou - didn't really reciprocate - I did the whole hard pat on the back pull yourself together man type of a hug.

you're finance as well are you? it's a bugger of a job. still not to worry.

re the benefit - if you're enttiled to it claim it I say. althou make sure they're not like ours and bugger it up!

thesouthsbelle · 29/10/2009 12:24

sorry left on tuesday night not thrus.

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