Where have all the men gone? thread 14

[ninah]

it won't accept any more messages ladies. As you can see I decided it was time to get less picky.
Lou, I hope you didn't leave your phillips

thats it though ninah - i actually dont care he's on pof again.

suppose that says it all.

rj he effing likes you
how far can you run? and why?
he is not your ex

tend to agree with ninah there. but we all know i'm a soft touch

respect to you being so decisive thou.

if it's what you want & makes you happy then do it.

ninah - he likes me... but he doesn't want a relationship with someone with kids.

liking me and accepting a package are 2 completely different things.

when i say serious. he isn't trying to talk me round. just discuss feelings iykwim. which i cant be arsed with

xposted
you don't care because you set yourself up to be prepared???
I don't know. If you honestly don't care move on. If I saw my exnm online I'd be frothing - but tbh I do think you have a v healthy approach to all this and will make the right decisions
there to listen always

rj men say these things and sometimes they haven't thought it out still
not like Moses and blocks of stone
I don't know him obv but if he has no experience of dc it might take time (more than a focus hour) to get head round
I think belle and I are the Cavaliers?

RJ - I like your style.

lol. think so ninah - why do u think i've put up with it from gymboy for so long!?!

ninah - it was only just shy 2 months. not enough time to develop feeling for me i'm afraid.... but then again whether or not i develop feelings is something i cant predict.

i've been seeing really great guys where i click for up to a year. and still walk away and ... nothing.

then others where i may only have seen them a few times and i'm torn to finish.and it actually pains me.

if i liked someone in same depth i believe you had for exnm i would probably be a bit gutted.

truth is.....i always had a feeling from first day this would be fun, but not permanent. he simply wasn't permanent material. harsh but true.

remember the

fun or responsible choice i had to make.

Hello, may I join you? I need a bit of hand-holding...

i dont view anyone as permanent tbh

i think the only one i have shed tears over was the bf who emigrated in april 2007

i'm not sure i can ever see that happening again either

hi mammya, welcome

no.. he thought about it.

initially his response was he was on new ground.

to me saying i didn't want to be stringed along, and could he imagine a proper relationship with me and dc, all living together.

the end result is today he says he def wouldn't want to give us a proper chance as thats not what he wants , and he'd never give us a proper chance

i made the right choice ladies.

left.

heart, head and sanity intact.

hiya mumma & welcome to the mix.

I also don't see anyone as long term - ie one person for everyone until I die type thing - after all thought that about XH so experience has shown it to be a folly.

Hi lou and everyone!

Hi Mammya - welcome

mammya what do we need to hold your hand throu.

lou - i cried over first ever bf when 16.
another at 19 (who is still talk to. fab guy)
one in cyprus when they died
all the way home from cyprus from another.
dc dad when he was being a prick. more jumping for joy than anything else when we left. i was so happy.

and you want the shocker. beachbum.

own up ladies. who do you remember crying for the most.

thats very small number to my total number

ok fair enough I'm projecting
respect xxx
glad you're ok
you do need someone worthy. Know what, my best friend emailed recently she was lp with dd and has now been married 1o years
tbb it pissed me off since the roses and champagnge was in response to my message re split - but there is light at the end of that tunnel for those dedicated enough
Me atm I'm happy with the notion of them all flying to Africa and returning when it's warmer

hell no i look at every relationship at long term.

if there isn't a future. whats the point in wasting months/years only for it to hurt like hell when you split.

OK, maybe I need to give you a bit of background...

Have been single for years, since I broke up with my dd's dad in 2001 . I've had a few one night stands since then but that didn't do it for me.

I've never done that dating thing, but I think I'd like to give it a go... The thing is, I'm finding it hard to meet suitable men (i.e, that are not married or in a relationship). I tried online dating a couple of years ago, was messaging a couple of men, but chickened out when it got to actually meeting them

I think I need to try the online dating thing again. I have just attempted to join POF, but floundered at the point where I had to describe myself. I'm still not convinced online dating is for me...

Are there any other ways to meet guys?

Thanks for making me feel welcome guys

Xpost again rj
you are right
OK cried most at dc's dad
never again, and trying to rebuild a family unit seems false for that very reason

you do seriously?

I find it hard thou if i'm unsure on someone to think how i'll feel in the long term. if i'm sure then there's no probs.

cried over - I think every one. (sad and girlie lol)

1st one cos I wasn't as upset as I thought I would be.
the deejay (first time around) cos he accused me of killing our child - twat.
erm.... then XH oh no there was one I cheated on XH with XH cos he nearly broke me in 2.
then the footie one (who to be fair that was one afternoon and he was forgotten!). more recently gymboy.

so is beachbum going to be back on the agenda then RJ?

As for crying, I'm a big cry baby so...

The most I cried was probably over my dd's dad, even though he was a complete arse.