Where have all the men gone? thread 14

[ninah]

it won't accept any more messages ladies. As you can see I decided it was time to get less picky.
Lou, I hope you didn't leave your phillips

ohh and there was silly old me thinking that us lone mums are minted..must be something i read in the daily mail lol

no I'm not in finance, sb.

Yes it is a myth - just took my son for a haircut and was reading the Sun - one of the headlines was 'lazy mums forced back to work' - a story about the govt forcing lps whose youngest reaches 10 to go on jobseekers. Tsk!!

Well I put figs into entitled to and it said I should get approx #250 per month which would cover some food bills. But I'll believe it when I see it tbh.

I am reluctant to move out to the suburbs where rental is marginally cheaper because my dcs are settled in schools here (this is the area they were born in) and I have a support network too (not family) and it's quite close to work.

it really does annoy me tbh it's like 'lets pick on the LP's week!' as if our job isn't hard enough as it is!

(however I do think to a degree if there's no reason not to work it should be encouraged once children are in school - but then again thou it's finding a nice flexible job & having a good support network ect which not everyone has)

belle i dont understand why you even care if he messages you at all now, let alone if he ends them with a x

why are you finding it so hard to put this one behind you?

based on what you have told us as to how he has treated you so far, your attachment to him seems rather unusual

this is said in puzzlement rather than accusatory/attacking btw

grrr.. don't get me started on the stereotypical lone mum's crap..
scl it's so hard to know what to do for the best really,but fair play to you for biting the bullet and allowing your dss the best schooling/upbringing you can despite all the financial struggles
believe me i'm sure that when they're adults they'll respect and thank you for it

yes I really
hope they do appreciate it.

If we moved elsewhere would know no-one and it would take longer to travel to work. Have lived in this area for about 15 years.

Don't want to move back to my hometown either as I left there 22 years ago.

Although we moved twice since split I wanted to keep some stability and familiarity during and after the split.

how is everyone tonight?

Evening ladies, feeling a bit crap here got little one's cold and cough!

Didnt hear from footiebloke so decided to text him, did get nice text back but no vibe and no mention of meeting up at weekend. So I sent him one saying he doesnt seem very keen to meet up again, which is fine, and hope he has fun with his dating, havent had text back so guess i thought right. You prob all think im being a bit impatient but im not into playing games so better to get on with it right?

So anyway have already moved on and sorted a date with the nice bloke leeds way, but he's working away for next 2 weeks so it'll be on hold. I can wait tho

Still chatting to another bloke who lives nearer me, but not sure if i get the vibe he wants to meet?

betty - go you!

Lou - I don't know it's totally irrational. ho hum. can't explain it at all.

Thanks belle so have u replied to any of gymboys texts? U really really are gonna be better off when u can move on!

I agree with other's on the LP thing, but also think in some ways it's good to encourage people back into work but now is a really bad time with hardly any jobs about!! I've always worked but have been lucky i earn enough(not lots) to get by. I might be applying for a full time post that has come up at work but part of me thinks i shudnt because i want to be around for the kids.

Hello again! Well I haven't had any messages yet on POF, so whoever (sorry I forget who it was) said that it's better to send a short message than to wait was right I guess!

The trouble is there's not many men that I want to message... There's always something wrong!

Also, what do you say in a first message?

argh, this is a minefield. Am getting cold feet again...

i'm gonna go round to your house belle and steal your phone, so when he messages you i will reply instead

that will put an end to it

come and steal mine too lou

wwyd/ text btw?

cos my finger's itching atm

mammya, try finding something in their profile to comment on, which will need them to explain, kind of thing

i will take yours too then

what i would say would depend on what their message said

i could have some fun tho

lou.

he rang earlier after a few texts this avo, said (was literally 30 second call) 'i'll ring u after running' ok then! running ended (typically) at 9 still nada. fuck him.

as for first messages - I usually go with hi how are u - v boring I know!

why are you still thinking this guy is anything but a waste of time?

well that's confirmed it....

a text - not a call! to say can we do it tomorrow. internet connection's down & want to sort it.

I rang it back - nada - fuck him...... cos he ain't shit.... hehehe

do you mean it this time tho?

yup. meant it every other time, but he's talked me around. no more miss nice girl. cos end of the day...

pros: - good in the sack - well at playing.
erm... he's a millionaire...
erm... he's good looking funny & we get on/have a giggle.

cons:- I don't trust him.
I don't believe a word he says
things he does are plain disrespectful.
can't count on him if the chips were down
(and this is aside from the DS issue)

key pointers thou - disbelief and distrust. key points.

fuck him.

ohh please give lou your phone
would be much needed entertainment and no more than he deserves

if asbm says you must give me the phone then i am afraid it is law

i dont care how much money he has or how good he is in bed , he still sounds like an arse who doesnt deserve another nanosecond of your time

the issue with your ds is reason enough to get rid, let alone the fact you dont trust him

and coming from a skint mum..
money means nothing really does it as long as you have enough to get by and live without worrying..am v turned off by flash gits rich men,would be a huge no no for me from the off tbh
would rather be with a regular hard working guy who loves and respects me..
not telling you here belle..BUT..
...are you going to issue the p45 or will one of us have to?!

i'm so pissed off at the minute.

i'm so tempted to text him & say you know what fuck off, and don't bother calling me tomorrow. infact u know what I think I just might do cos tbh I don't believe his internet is down (althou I know he's had probs with it) or at least he's not been on his FB.

ah pissed on my chips I guess- hasn't been on the dating sites at all since we had a major blow out over them on Sunday/monday. and actually his POF a/c had a right go about that on sunday with him cos it said last 7 days - today it's saying 30 days. (still not good granted - but he's been telling the truth after all then?!)