can you edit it at all to take her out?
you don't look like you have 3 kids.
hope you manage to sort that arse of an ex out, he sounds very scarey and i'm not surprised you're worried about going out etc & meeting someone new. stand up to him thou, see the police if need be, might be worth seeing if you can arrange a private rent as well. ex sounds unhinged a bit (and if I might say it doesn't like having the control taken away from him - you go girl!)