where the hell do u find a good man

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where have they all gone

I found out last night that the guy I met in a bar on Saturday is only 24!!!! I am seriously shocked I would have said he looked and sounded 35, even in his texts.

I said I was older than him, he asked by days, months or years and I said years.. his response was 'no way' I thought you were my age. I'm only 6 years older than him but I told him I'd have to try and get my head round him being younger than my little brother lol

I asked if he lived with his parents still but he doesn't, he asked if I lived with mine I said no I live with my dd.. his response was 'she's not older than me as well is she' which made me lol.

Going out tonight with bloke from last Wednesday, Saturday I'm going out with interent rugby bloke.

Sunday my ex wants to come round and spend time with dd and take us out to eat (WTF?!?!)

I'm incredibly grumpy today lol

gosh you all sound busy with all these dates

i dont seem to be able to do that dating

zippi - you date surely??

moh - you go girl! lol. the age difference isn't too bad, I guess it depends on how mature he is etc. I personally like older men, but I know lots of women like younger men! The issue for me thou has/is always if they live with their parents - was chatting to a chappy who is 23 for a while, which was great until he said do you fancy coming to mine for a DVD & take away - not only to me did that say he wanted sex, but also he then said 'my parents are away at the mo so it's ok' lol. when I said I wasn't comfortable with that, as i've always had my own front door since 17, he said oh well we can always go to yours then. (er no take the hint! lol)

lol DTM..

Zippi.. I never used to date really.. just kind of fall into relationships but after having dd I said I would always 'date' first.

Re. him being younger.. we'll see. I tend to go fpr men in their early 40's so really not sure I could change my mindset enough for a mid 20's lad.

Also had been drinking heavily (JD's all night with silly shot chasers) so really do need to check out his looks again (in the cold light of day). Shame as he is completely lovely to chat to and text, I think he is a teacher by day.

Had a date last night and it went very well...although to be honest I think I am going to have to put the dating on hold for the time being.

I found out my ex is moving halfway across the country to move in with her boyfriend. This will restrict the time my son has with me and almost totally cut off any time he has with the rest of his paternal family.

I am moving there too...my son needs a father. I'm not giving up on him.

Oh dear LD, that sounds awful.. is she allowed to do that if you are currently trying to sort out residancy?

also if you have joint custody won't she have to commit to meeting you half way to handover your ds?

There's no residency issue because he lives with her - neither of us have applied for an order. I don't intend to and she hasn't (yet, but nothing else will surprise me now).

We will be meeting halfway...but once a fortnight is not enough for him. He's being taken hundreds of miles from grandparents, cousins, aunts, uncles and his father. No doubt my ex wants a `clean break' (from me, presumably) - but it's not in his best interests.

Oh sorry, I thought you were still sorting out residency. my mistake.

no well what i meant was i have been out with 4 guys in 32 years..people on here have been out with 4 guys in a fortnight

lol Zippi

I had 2nd date last night but will start a new thread as feel like I've hijackedd this one (and all a bit me, me, me).

Where's Lou? how's it going her end?

Well thats me out, i'm sick of being sent messages by OAP's.

Have had no messages for days and then this morning, a message from a 64yr old.

Have had enough now, I give up, there is obviously something wrong with me that I have just failed to notice yet.

Oh no Nutty. Don't give up. Put something in your profile saying not to message if over xx age. That might stop some at least. Their is nothing wrong with you.

agreed don't give up nutty.

can we help you with your profile at all in describing you? i've found the more you write the more interest you seem to have - it does depend what you write thou as to what you get!

Thanks for the offer but I really don't think internet dating (or not in my case) is for me, I just end up feeling even more shitty about myself.

I have tried putting very little info in my profile, lots of info, just enough info, and I still get the same type of people reply every time, and when I message people I never get replies, so I am obviously aiming too high, hence the dissapointment in the type of people that message me.

When you think about it, xp was old compared to me, when I met him, so perhaps I just have a face that attracts old blokes. Plus before I met him, I hadn't dated anyone else ever, not properly so I shouldn't really be surprised at my situation now.

I need to try and make myself realise that I am not going to meet anyone and make myself become comfortable with that I suppose.

dont be silly nutty, of course you will find someone

just update your profile with "no old gimmers thanks"

tell them what you dont want

Have hidden POF for now, but have left Smooch one on, but changed my description of what I want.

Anyway, a bloke on smooch that I added to my faves so I could remember him, has sent me a message saying he'd like to chat but via txt as it's easier.

Well a) I can't afford to 'chat' via txt, and b) I don't want him having my number anyhow.

hey nutty - is bollocks about not meeting anyone. i used to date a woman with 3 kids who was older than me - never put me off. and more recently dated a woman with 2 kids who was 11 years younger.
so age and kids have nothing to do with it as i have 3 of me own.
just be honest about yourself and what youre wanting in someone - but do avoid the nutters and old blokes.
my last gf said i attract psychotic women so it could be worse, tho i havent been put off, am just more careful these days

nutty if it helps, i am in the same position as you, and the internet dating somehow depresses me even more.
i do catch blokes looking at me, but nobody ever chats me up, or if they do talk to me its always the ones i dont fancy.

i think i should just get it into my thick skull that i am meant to be on my own.

we can all be a bit thick - doesnt mean we're meant to be on our own. i know a woman who always moans on about her boyfriends turning out to be crap - tho she tends to meet them in bars when she's pissed up, tho she still doesnt get it.
as far as the net goes - theres no wonder fellas on pof et al are a bit dodgy. is better to look in the places you'd want a potential bf to be found.

That is a good point SO3, about looking in the place you'd like a potential bf to be found.

Hmm, will have to think about that. I can think where I wouldn't want to find one.

hopefully the decent kind of fella youd want wouldnt go anywhere near dodgy dating sites. so no point looking there. that said, you can only expect to find dodgy desperados if you do go looking - it works both ways for men or women.
just put all the qualities you want together, add a bit of character and figure out where he'd spend his free time.
and if it works tell me, as i have yet to figure it out. tho would rather go for a chance meeting in tesco than a well planned ad on pof.