where the hell do u find a good man

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where have they all gone

Well whatever you do, don't bother looking for one in a Casino. That's where I met my ex. I should have known really, shouldn't I.

I am beginning to think they are all taken :'( only the w@nkers left for me.
I'm hoping someone can tell me different!

Don't know, but let me know if you find one

At church with a white collar round their necks.

In nursing homes and at 82 finally seen the light.

In the arms of their boyfriend.

In the arms of the luckiest woman alive doting on the family.

In thailand with a shaved head and a vow of celibacy.

Good men are everywhere, they just wont let us have them.

very true in the arms of their boyfriend. Many a tiem I have said most of the good ones are gay!

There are lots. Don't give up hope. Found mine in a pub, but he doesn't drink (was chauffering his friends around because he is such a sweetheart). Seriously, look for the man who smiles all the time. He's the one.

I often wonder the same about finding a good woman...I often wonder if I would be enhancing my chances if I took drugs, got p**ed on a regular basis and had been in trouble with the law - because I'm not having much luck not doing any of them.

Instead I own my own house, am fit and not that bad looking, have a job and just wanted to be a husband and a father...

So obviously - I'm boring and that's why I'm single!

well, I started to think POF was a waste of time - but it's where i've met my current squeeze, it's going very well - he's totally unlike the other internet loons out there, (no offence LD!)

agree with LW the one who smiles all the time, & can take the micky out of himself.

there's some so bide your time stop looking and he'll come along. (i'd stopped looking btw - just wanted people (new friends) to chat to of a night when DS was a bed)

i was going to say its luck but perhaps it is hard work like finding a good job it doesnt just fall into your lap unless you are very lucky you have to focus on it and plan and make a few mistakes first

its hard to meet friends of the same sex too tho unless you try hard

i think all life is something you really have to put the slog in for

theres two opposite points of view then lolol

or maybe not we both found someone on pof then

lol. as always zip! when I was really looking (as I was tellin u and lou at xmas time) the man was a edgit. sexy as you like but edgit. current chappy is a fantastic all rounder!

pof for me has always been about men after one thing - but well this chappy is deffo a genuine caring guy.

well i must say i didnt intend to find one person i thought it would be fun to go on dates and meet new people..men..but it didnt really work out that way

so who is the one you are seeing not the one who was paranoid

paranoid? no don't think so, well he started out a bit but there's been a few of late (last few months I mean) - I was the same loads of first dates not interested in second ones (the only other one with second dates was well a total head case!) but this one's up to a month now - woohoo!

they don't exist.. running is the new sex (MOH repeats this on every thread she gets the chance)

Zippi.. how are you? how's it going in the house?

Agree very much with your point about it being difficult to for friendships/relationships with either sex.

i am ok moh in fact perhaps i shall start a new thread entirely about moi

and tell you

and you can tell me about you

davidtennantsmistress - lol!

I use POF and I get the feeling that every woman I speak to instantly assumes I am desperate to get into her knickers after she has responded to my first email...go on - tell me! What do I say to prove this isn't the case (it's after the third email, isn't it?)

lol. no iot's not LD - it's hard as theres so many out there who are like that, or who are total nut cases.

I was hooked by the man looking genuine, and what he wrote was genuine as well - we also chatted on cam (no funny business) quite a lot to begin with so we could see each other properly as pics can be old ones. but he loves dolphins as do I so what more is there to say!

was talking to a chap from a different site (who's actually now a fantastic mate - nothing more thou) and i've prob spoken to about 20-30 men, and out of that only about 3 have been genuine and not after 1 thing (he and new man are 2 of them) the one's who are after 1 thing for me, I only talk to them for a few hours then don't bother anymore, hence why there's so many! lol)

i think it is hard to get the balance of the knickers thing

if you dont flirt then you sound like you never would

i think the essential bit is having apoint of contact like the dolphins so that you have something to talk about and then you can start to build in a bit of dolphin innuendo once you have got a few messages under your belt

there are some people i have spoken to for ages and not maet in fact i only met two

the guy i am seeing we had such a non knickers date to start with that we both thought it was anon starter lol and it did take a while to say the least before we took any interest in each oither beyond an occasional email

i started a thread about me moh it will probably sit in unanswered nthreads

lol zip. I will find.

I've used POF after Zippi & Lou recommended but for me I just edned up with weirdo's are younger lads who seemed like they just wanted to get down to it. was it you LD? lol

At the moment someone would have to be very special to make me think about a date or relationship but in a few months time I@m seriously considering paying to join one of these 'proper' dating sites. maybe one aimed specifically at professionals (?)

I've heard about dating for parents but feel wary advertising my self with child as part of the bargain.. does anyone have any thoughts on this?

I've tried it MOH and met one man from it who was well not so good - after one thing! lol.

ther'es a few nice ones on there but all were a lot older than me.

I joined datingdirect.com as well (xmas pres form mum) which was actually very good, met my friend on there, then again thou the month goes by quickly and you have to pay again. had quite a few emails.

I do say I have a son form the start as well as I think it's best to be upfront, but then again anyone who shows too much interest in my son gets sacked off straight away. I do like the fact this chap has a son as he knows what being a single parent is all about.

i joined gurdian soulmates and found they were just guardian london centric men after one thing you may recall i had a few dates which i was excited about and then before i even went on them they were asking me to stay over

tho i do have one guy i still chat to from soulmates we managed to get past the knickers off thing tho have done quite a lot of flirting along the way but still never met he is back in turkey again now and i think it is petering out since i told him i had met someone

zippi..link purleease (to the thread)

I generally don't tell them I have a child until I've exchanged a few emails (but not to many). I kind of feel like I am not defined by my child and neither should they let my child define me iykwim.. I don't keep a secret if we start actualyl conversing I tell them I have a child but don't tell them much at all... not got to date stage so not sure what I'd do at that point. probably talk about her for a short while on the date just so they knew I wasn't 'keeping it a secret' but also that she isn't the only thing in my life that I have to talk about. if any of that garble makes sense.