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Right! Where do we find nice single men?!?!

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SnoopyLovesYou · 28/07/2013 16:03

Ok everybody! Where do us single parents meet attractive, nice, single men?

The local gym/ swimming pool?

Online dating?

Clubs & pubs?

Sports clubs?

Evening classes?

I know I've previously said Im happy being single and I am but I'm also young and red blooded and in need of male attention atm!

If we put our heads together, we might be able to find one or two between us?

;-)

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shanelle5 · 10/08/2013 07:41

I think I may spend the weekend making up an imaginary job that needs doing... say redecorating acroom,and call up as many workmen as poss in the area to come round for quotes.
Then just sit and wait for the stream of hunky men in ripped jeans with rippling muscle to ring my bell (ahem)
BUT knowing my luck, a gaggle of 50/60 plus wrinkleys would turn up. peppered with the odd skinny, just out of teenage years, in need of a wash scroat! Hmm
Ok back to the drawing board...

Foxy800 · 10/08/2013 08:43

Don't have time for most of the suggestions as very hit and miss as to when dd's Dad will have her, doesn't have her regularly!!! and have work etc. He never has her overnight either so its difficult to go out and socialise, although am going out tonight).

Back to the drawing board for me too shanelle5.

shanelle5 · 10/08/2013 11:39

Foxy it does seem to be a theme among is that we dont actually get to go out alone much and most of us usually have young DC in tow.
So difficult isnt it, I too wonder if I actually ever DID manage to meet anyone when/how the hell would I even manage a relationship Confused Enjoy your night out love and post details after of your best flirting moves etc! Good luck and enjoy Smile

makemineamalibuandpineapple · 10/08/2013 14:52

I met my boyfriend at my running club. We knew each other for a year before getting together and have been together about three months now. I have tried online dating before, POF/Match to name a few. I went out with one guy for 8 months but the rest of them either came to nothing or were odd. I think that clubs are a good way to meet people although I know that as a LP it can be difficult to join one. Apart from that one other bf, this is my only relationship since my divorce in 2008 so I know how hard it is.

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SnoopyLovesYou · 10/08/2013 15:54

SShanelle I HAVE a job that needs doing and I NEED quotes! You're a genius! ;-) (In my experience most workmen are utter dickheads but you never know!)

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shanelle5 · 10/08/2013 17:02

Oooh snoopy just book a load of different ones, the law of averages would hope one non dick head may arrive! Just dont answer the door like I have done before in trackie bottoms and a bit of crusty baby food on one shoulder! Ive been down the rubbish tip several times today, lots of men but all seemed to be doing "family" type jobs for her indoors. Plus bonding over the stench of household rubbish is probably not the best move. Grin NEXT!!!!!....

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SnoopyLovesYou · 10/08/2013 17:32

Haha!

Rubbish tip def a no-goer I'm afraid you're right.

:-)

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Foxy800 · 10/08/2013 17:53

Thanks Shanelle, doubt there will be opportunity to flirt as going out with work colleagues all a lot younger than me!!!Lol. Will post if I get chance to flirt though!!!!LOL

Foxy800 · 10/08/2013 17:56

Well Im now not going out so no chances to flirt!!!LOL. grandma has just had to cancel on me and there is no way I can get a babysitter before 730pm.So another night in front of the tv it is then!!!.

Foxy800 · 10/08/2013 17:57

Well Im now not going out so no chances to flirt!!!LOL. grandma has just had to cancel on me and there is no way I can get a babysitter before 730pm.So another night in front of the tv it is then!!!.

antimatter · 10/08/2013 18:41

they all must be in the gym :)

most men on POF/okcupid sites put in their profiles that they go to the gym regularly :)

unless we think that they are all married - then perhaps looking for a guy in my Leisure Center is the last places I should visit

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SnoopyLovesYou · 10/08/2013 19:16

Yeah the men on POF all put in their profiles that they go to the gym 5 times a week! They are also kind, caring, a great laugh, very successful, romantic and amazing in the kitchen. I never knew that my area was so full of Michelin-chef wannabes!! ;-)

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SnoopyLovesYou · 10/08/2013 19:21

That's where they all are! LOL! All the good ones are all bent over their baking guides puzzling over how to make a souflée that doesn't flop.

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antimatter · 10/08/2013 20:14

I sent v.short intro to 10 random guys within my search criteria on POF. only one bothered to reply thanks, but no thanks

It makes me wonder what others are there for LOL

shanelle5 · 10/08/2013 20:40

Oh foxy fucks sake Sad Id be gutted if that was me, but hey we can all hang out here this evening instead Smile
Im that sad that Ive got a candle lit to go with my one glass of wine and laptop! Thats my Saturday night Sad I really feel like getting blotto but stil BF 9 month old DS so 1 small glass max for me.
snoopy lol at your post, though im more interested in something else that doesnt flop, not the souffle Wink
I had a look on OK cupid, didnt look as bad as pof but some really pushy guy started messaging me on chat then asked to skpe, and tried to add me on FB! It was all too quick, I deleted and blocked him coz I was scared Blush

Foxy800 · 10/08/2013 20:45

I deleted one off of pof as they wanted mobile number and wouldn't stop asking shanelle5. Is okcupid free or are there costs to it?

Foxy800 · 10/08/2013 20:49

I don't drink so am sitting here enjoying pizza that I treated myself to as not going out.LOL.

shanelle5 · 10/08/2013 20:50

Its free and tbh not half as bad as some. A better class of Knobber if you like Grin
POF is just a meat market and I also me my ex there who turned out to be an arsehole Angry

Foxy800 · 10/08/2013 21:03

I might have a look at okcupid then but if I don't like that one will be going off dating sites completely.x

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SnoopyLovesYou · 13/08/2013 10:20

For lone parents, dating sites seem to make so much SENSE! However my experience is that, being a lone parent, we won't attract the types online that we would like to attract in real life. Also, having sometimes low self esteem already, I fear that online dating can be a minefield. I think I'll be single for a long time. At least now though I'm not wasting my free time talking to and meeting up with creeps, losers and just highly unsuitable (in every possible way) men. So that's my thing about online dating... :-)

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DiaryOfAWimpyMum · 13/08/2013 11:40

Ive been talking to a man who is quite a sensible age (for me) he was on a dating site but hated so came off, he seems nice, but don't they all at first.

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SnoopyLovesYou · 13/08/2013 21:42

Anyone can seem nice and normal online!

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antimatter · 14/08/2013 09:11

v. true SnoopyLovesYou :)

Foxy800 · 15/08/2013 08:28

Ive given up with the dating sites!!!