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Right! Where do we find nice single men?!?!

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SnoopyLovesYou · 28/07/2013 16:03

Ok everybody! Where do us single parents meet attractive, nice, single men?

The local gym/ swimming pool?

Online dating?

Clubs & pubs?

Sports clubs?

Evening classes?

I know I've previously said Im happy being single and I am but I'm also young and red blooded and in need of male attention atm!

If we put our heads together, we might be able to find one or two between us?

;-)

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SnoopyLovesYou · 03/08/2013 10:37

Haha Raenbow I was thinking the exact same thing re: cafes! Right Lostdad spill your theory!

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SnoopyLovesYou · 03/08/2013 10:38

Oh sorry I mixed your name up with another Dadsnet persona. I meant Singledad :-D

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SnoopyLovesYou · 03/08/2013 10:43

Oh sorry SingleDad you already did explain your theory (just recovering from my night out last night.) I don't know I think that it would be lovely for a man to start chatting to me in a cafe but I just don't see anybody doing that where I live... Oh I do know one cafe that could be good actually...

On my night out last night by the way I discovered that there are not too many guys I fancy although I did end up with a little kiss in a club so I must be heading in the right direction :-)

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Singledad5871 · 03/08/2013 10:51

Snoopy is there a bigger town/city near you? I'm only guessing that (like me) its quite a smallish place, but I head to the city - I found that the one close to home person I was with was the worst mistake in my life! Unfortunately - and lostdad made this point - it is a numbers game, you go on dates with a few people, but don't always judge on first date - I had a great first date once but it became evident other than physical, there was zero in common, whereas my DP and I had a very up and down first couple of dates before we totally opened up and clicked.

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SnoopyLovesYou · 03/08/2013 12:22

I usually find that I have to make the first step when out and about and interacting with guys. I must be intimidating or something :-)

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Lioninthesun · 03/08/2013 13:37

Funnily enough after posting about the few places/ways I can
actually meet anyone a guy started chatting to me on the way home from shopping this morning! I was pushing DD and a buggy full of shopping up our hill and he commented that it looked like hard work. I huffed 'Yup, who needs the gym, right?!' , he laughed and said 'Well precisely! You clearly don't need one especially after that!'. I smiled, said thanks and then ran out of things to say and breath and he walked off ahead of me up my road. He was stunning and I kicked myself a few times when I got home for not pouncing more. Not particularly thrilling compared to an actual night out, but it's made me wonder if I am just bad at starting conversations. The thought of being able to sit in a cafe reading would be lovely, but how do you do that with a toddler in tow?

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SnoopyLovesYou · 03/08/2013 17:30

Lion you have to get a childminder for a couple of hours to do your cafe reading.

Sounds good though re: your newfound ability to meet nice men doing the daily round. I too am finding that its kind of to do with the frame of mind. (There really are single men everywhere SingleDad its true!) And I too am REALLY rubbish at thinking of things to actually say, which is a conversation killer. Well... sometimes I get nervous and especially if I think the guy in question isn't interested. When I know he's interested, I can be quite relaxed and enjoy myself (and am beginning to differentiate between interested in ME and interested in getting the knickers off me. It's a fine line!) ;-)

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SnoopyLovesYou · 03/08/2013 17:34

By the way Lion, I think that £10 an hour is way too much for a babysitter per hour. I would half that for a good, reliable one but some people on here have said 3£ per hour!

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SnoopyLovesYou · 03/08/2013 17:35

It depends. If I were you I would place an ad or two on local sites like Gumtree, Netmums and ask around.

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Hamwidgeandcheps · 03/08/2013 18:19

I need to report this. I have just been at the park with the dds. Huge dog bounded up to dd1 and dropped a ball at her feet. I started to panic because she's scared of dogs. The owner came running after it. He was fit fit fit Grin I am hopelessly shy when I have the kids with me but I need to man up!

Overtheraenbow · 04/08/2013 18:11

Dog walkers ( but I know all the local ones here) and don't own a dog so could be tricky, thigh am dog ' sitting' this week!!
Starbucks was a washout , full of happy families with 2.4 kids and foreign exchange students.
I have just messaged a guy on OKC and said I'm thinking of going to a gallery in his city ( bold girl) this week AGHHHHH !!!

Overtheraenbow · 04/08/2013 18:19

ham maybe you should get a dog??

Hamwidgeandcheps · 04/08/2013 20:02

I'm desperate for a dog but job won't allow it. Anyway I walk my dc there anyway Grin

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SnoopyLovesYou · 04/08/2013 20:02

I'll happily take a foreign exchange student Overtheraenbow ;-)

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SnoopyLovesYou · 04/08/2013 20:08

Oh and I'm DELETING my POF this very week. Internet dating is decidedly not for me (and I really have given it a very good try.)

I have joined gym & pool though and I have to say I am very optimistic. The sauna was seriously steamy and great for striking up a conversation! ;-)

Chat up line: Is it hot in here or is it just me?

(You can all borrow that one if you like) ;-)

Going for a gym induction so we'll see about that. Bit nervous as I hate the gym!

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SnoopyLovesYou · 04/08/2013 20:10

Yeah Ham it's all about grabbing the bull by the proverbial... em... horns and flirting. I think we could start a whole new flipping thread on flirting!!!! I am DREADFUL at flirting!!!! How does one flirt????

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Overtheraenbow · 04/08/2013 22:11

Haha ! Snoopy they were all about 15 though .... And though I'm avoiding older man on pof tonight as I would like a younger man I don't want one THAT young!!
Hmm I'm thinking of hitting it on the head too Snoopy but I am chatting to a nice chap but he's off on hols with his daughter then my kids are back and he's not too local we could get together in about .... November!! The joys of single parenting/ dating.

Would be good if I could meet someone local who we could just say are you free for an hour tomorrow/ today/ next weekend; all this fitting in with schedules is complicated !!

I think the gym is out of the question ( unless no exercise is involved, hot and sweaty not a good look!)

And I'm rusty on flirting anyone got any tips?

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SnoopyLovesYou · 04/08/2013 22:18

Hot and sweaty isn't a good look but I'm not planning to get very hot and sweaty. Just use the minimal cardio things to 'tone' and check out the talent while looking very 'gym-bunny' -like

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SnoopyLovesYou · 04/08/2013 22:21

Sorry that was supposed to read 'minimal NON-cardio'

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Lioninthesun · 06/08/2013 19:52

Just caught up with thread. Yes, flirting tips would be great! I have found myself actually looking down when a man looks at me. I don't think I realised I did it until today! I think that stems back to a jealous boyfriend who used to comment if he thought I had made eye contact years ago, but not helpful if you are trying to initiate flirt mode!
Maybe running over toes and stopping to profusely apologise? Could lead to us dating a lot of self made cripples though I suppose Wink

Foxy800 · 07/08/2013 23:06

Ive bitten the bullet and joined pof tonight.Wish me luck.

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SnoopyLovesYou · 07/08/2013 23:08

I have deleted mine Foxy!

Good luck- you'll need it on there!

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Foxy800 · 07/08/2013 23:12

Oh I joined as a Mum I know is on it and she said it was really good. (shock)

Foxy800 · 09/08/2013 22:39

Ok Ive deleted my account, don't think dating sites are for me but am so fed up of being single!!!Don't get to socialise much so how am I meant to meet a partner!!!

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SnoopyLovesYou · 10/08/2013 07:15

Oh Foxy I feel for you!

No dating sites I don't feel are the way forward for me either.

Well this is what this thread is for! :-)

So so far we've got:

-Joining a gym or sports club/ swimming pool & sauna.

-Going out to places- bars, clubs- that usually attract the right kind of guy.

-Spending time reading books in coffee shops.

Any of these float your boat?

I think these have been fantastic suggestions so far. My local swimming pool (haven't tried the gym yet!) appears to be a great potential meeting place (especially since there's a sauna.) On my night out last week, there was lots of opportunity to meet someone. As for the coffee shop idea, (or park in nice weather?) I may give that a shot today actually as I might have some rare free time! :-)

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