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Right! Where do we find nice single men?!?!

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SnoopyLovesYou · 28/07/2013 16:03

Ok everybody! Where do us single parents meet attractive, nice, single men?

The local gym/ swimming pool?

Online dating?

Clubs & pubs?

Sports clubs?

Evening classes?

I know I've previously said Im happy being single and I am but I'm also young and red blooded and in need of male attention atm!

If we put our heads together, we might be able to find one or two between us?

;-)

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SnoopyLovesYou · 01/08/2013 00:44

Haha Pantone I totally got you wrong re: juice bar! I had visions of luxury gyms there. I see what you mean! I hope I can join my local gym on a trial basis (def the best one) because Im really quite anti-gym! Will see... No wonder my ex spent so much time at the gym with all this flirting going on! ;-)

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SnoopyLovesYou · 01/08/2013 00:45

Pantone you might be onto a winner with the sports clubs for my kids. I see an athletic future ahead of them. ;-)

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fackinell · 01/08/2013 00:46

Through a mate, though he's pissed me off tonight so have mine. PM me me your address and I'll mail him to you!! Angry

Pantone363 · 01/08/2013 00:47

God our gym is a hotbed of flirting. Unfortunately I find myself between gyms at the moment owing to some..um complications thereof.

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SnoopyLovesYou · 01/08/2013 00:50

Workmen at my house- mmm... I don't think workmen are my type? Oh! You've just reminded me though about a guy I go to (let's say a hairdresser although he's not a hairdresser) or at least I used to go to him and haven't been in a while! I did think at the time that he showed a slight interest... And he was definitely dateable...

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SnoopyLovesYou · 01/08/2013 00:53

You know I do really like living without a man though! Having my own space... You can all tell I don't know what it is I want exactly... ;-)

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SnoopyLovesYou · 01/08/2013 00:55

You've reminded me Fackinell how actually annoying men can be when trying to form relationship-type-thingies.

The jury is still out here as to whether or not any nice single ones might be left! :-)

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fackinell · 01/08/2013 01:20

Oh there will be, Snoopy. (He's mostly nice, just a twat tonight.) I think you should have a boyfriend recycling party. Although I wouldn't recommend many of mine!!! More baggage than bloody Heathrow by their 40s. Grin

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SnoopyLovesYou · 01/08/2013 11:05

Hmm more baggage than heathrow! Lol!

I do know some gorgeous older men. Yum. Ok I know one. He's divine. Otherwise though I think I should be looking for a very mature younger man. (I'm in early 30s) haha! I'm not sure if a mature man in his 20s exists!

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SnoopyLovesYou · 01/08/2013 11:08

Although this gorgeous older man (in his 50s!) makes me think I should be looking for someone older but you're right- most of the older ones are probably for the scrapyard!

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MoreThanWords · 01/08/2013 20:03

Hey Snoopy - I'm 46 - I'll have that gorgeous 50-something! Smile

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SnoopyLovesYou · 02/08/2013 00:14

Haha no you won't!

(I probably won't either!)

Anyone want to share how they manage to have one night stands as a single parent?! Babysitting logistics, funny stories...?!

Would be good to hear some tales. None of my lone parent friends have much of a sex life!

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Singledad5871 · 02/08/2013 07:44

Sleepovers with relatives or stay downstairs when kids are upstairs - doesnt HAVE to be on a bed??
Ladies - there are PLENTY of single guys out there - I wouldn't bother with the gym, Starbucks etc is a better option - the school is a good option too but single dads (I have my kids full time) who are that involved are a rarity. I would say go out to bars that have people the age that your looking for

Lioninthesun · 02/08/2013 10:14

Hello again Snoopy! We seem to be similar age and not sure what we are looking for. I am also filled with horror at the idea of going to a gym...but can manage swimming once or maybe twice a week with DD. I don't have a child minder and am too broke to go out on multiple dates just to check if the bloke is coherent in RL. The thought of clubbing and then having to get up at 5/6am for DD doesn't float my boat either. remembers recent nights home with friends and wine and that was quite bad enough!
I think I just want someone to play with on the weekends. To start with at least.

DD not at school age yet. I literally have opportunities to meet new people in one of the following areas:
Feeding ducks anywhere along local river
Shopping for food not shopping for anything else as I am not in the mood for a decent chat whilst struggling around an invariably small shop trying not to desposit badly thought out displays on their floors with a buggy and toddler who probably wants to get out and have me carry her
Parks
Swimming in the baby pool
Walking to any of the above

Its not looking likely tbh!
I know I want an older man, happy with slippers even, as long as he is toilet trained and preferably can cook and has somewhere for him to live (so he won't end up moving in with us ridiculously early like DD's father did, 'cos that worked REALLY well Hmm).
Are you in Kent Snoopy? Am interested in your older man knowledge Wink POF is depressing me. 28yo asked me out and I haven't even replied. I just don't want to spend £50 on a sitter to go out and meet a toyboy who won't want to get to serious because I have a kid. I can't take anyone younger than me seriously for what I am looking for, which may well be foolish I suppose.

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SnoopyLovesYou · 02/08/2013 11:27

Look none of you are having my supersexy older man! (Well he's mine in my dreams at least but not in the real world)

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SnoopyLovesYou · 02/08/2013 11:29

Hmm feeding the ducks and swimming in the baby pool... Stranger things have happened Lion!
;-)

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SnoopyLovesYou · 02/08/2013 11:32

Singledad I am still pondering the logistics of a one night stand... I think I'm too insecure to have one night stands. I think I want someone who really passionately loves me (I hear laughing in the background.) ;-)

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SnoopyLovesYou · 02/08/2013 11:36

Ps Lion how the heck does it cost 50£ for a babysitter for a date? Oh you mean a date that goes very well and you end up back at his place? ;-)

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Singledad5871 · 02/08/2013 15:50

And believe it or not, Snoopy, there are guys out there who want that too! I had years of misery with my XW and my first vow was to have fun! My first 6 months it was all about me and the kids then female friends dragged me out on nights out etc and in no time I was my old self again - in fact better! Doesn't happen straight away coz I reckon anybody who is 30+ who says they don't have baggage or damage is either lying or there's something wrong somewhere, but you get through that! Go out with cousins, family, work colleagues whoever - but have fun, honestly it worked for me - ok I did online dating under duress but way I see it, it's an online bar and you get all sorts wherever you look - turns out was the best thing I ever did!

lostdad · 02/08/2013 17:24

I met my other half on Plentyoffish. I worked on the principle that the more people I went out with the more likely I would find the right person.

I went on with dates with women I'd never want to see again, others who ended up as friends and one I married.

You'd have to ask her if I was a `nice single man' at the time although seeing as she proposed to me she's only got herself to blame. Grin

Overtheraenbow · 02/08/2013 20:47

I'm interested in your "Starbucks" theory dad do you think that's an option?? I really like coffee and I could work my way round Starbucks , costa, pret- a -manger , in town tomorrow. I may not sleep for a week but if I get lucky that may be an advantage !!! Brew Grin,

Lioninthesun · 02/08/2013 20:48

Snoopy maybe I have been asking the wrong people for babysitter prices but I was told about £10ph? Much the same as a cleaner which I sadly also can't afford!

Singledad5871 · 02/08/2013 23:17

Overtherainbow - absolutely! I often go to Starbucks on my own with a book and will often chat to complete strangers - lots of people do it, Borders the bookshop was great for it but alas it's no longer there! If you see somebody reading a book, and you are too - there's your opener :)
Way I see things - I love a good conversation and anything can happen from that Wink - I would avoid pret though its usually the married 50 something's that go there lol

Singledad5871 · 02/08/2013 23:26

Ps Snoopy - nothing wrong with a one night stand - sometimes that can lead to something more and if not, then it's a bit of fun :)

Hamwidgeandcheps · 02/08/2013 23:42

I remember the boyfriend recycling party on sex and the city. I would bring my best bloke mate who is v similar to Minty from eat tenders back along.

I can't see myself meeting anyone at the gym. I go all the time and I talk to old ladies about car insurance Grin

I might try out Starbucks though that's quite genius Grin

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