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Right! Where do we find nice single men?!?!

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SnoopyLovesYou · 28/07/2013 16:03

Ok everybody! Where do us single parents meet attractive, nice, single men?

The local gym/ swimming pool?

Online dating?

Clubs & pubs?

Sports clubs?

Evening classes?

I know I've previously said Im happy being single and I am but I'm also young and red blooded and in need of male attention atm!

If we put our heads together, we might be able to find one or two between us?

;-)

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Overtheraenbow · 29/07/2013 22:29

Move along that sofa ladies , room for one more?
I have a profile on pof and was seeing a nice chap for a few weeks, this week he said he just wanted to be friends... Hmmm do you go OD to find friends?? I think not! Oh well his loss!
But I agree its tough , I mean I don't need a man to validate me but it would be nice to have someone to chat to at the end of the day snog the face off and I am not at all desperate I am :)
Meet ups looks dreary and I heard it was full of women ( perhaps cos people keep recommending it on here!)
Not sure the gym is ready for a hot and sweaty Raenbow !! Friends of friends seems to be the way forward ( the work thing for me is not likely as also mainly female workforce)
Someone said cycling clubs , all that Lycra and sweat... Phew .... Now anyone got a bike I can borrow?? Grin

Overtheraenbow · 29/07/2013 22:40

Just looked at Meetups again : groups for ;
Over 50's , non mothers, widows, German speakers and web developers!!
Hmm as I am none of the above could be tricky!!

Hamwidgeandcheps · 29/07/2013 22:58

Just looked at guardian soul mates. My married neighbour is in there. I nearly puked.

sillymummy11 · 29/07/2013 23:19

hamwidgeandcheps brilliant!!! Hope I haven't been out with him Hmm

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SnoopyLovesYou · 29/07/2013 23:52

Meet ups I have looked at but it seems to be yes a bit dreary and yes all women and old desperate pervs ;-)

Might check one out though (after I've scrolled down the list to see who's going hee hee!)

Guardian soulmates I may give that a go as I have a thing for the older left wing professor thing. All slippers and divorcees and the like. Me first! No me! I'm having him! Etc etc ;-) (I'm actually only half joking. Love the older men!!!)

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SnoopyLovesYou · 29/07/2013 23:56

There is a bar near me which is very well known and a lot of couples I know met in there. I usually tend to do quite well this way as a/ I can look pretty damn good (if I spend around 4 hours getting ready) and b/ Noone knows I'm a (shock! horror!) single mother ;-) Don't want a sleazy drunk guy though! :-D

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SnoopyLovesYou · 30/07/2013 00:11

PS I have also 'hidden' my POF profile, which us great as I had wanted to delete it so that will do for now!

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SnoopyLovesYou · 30/07/2013 00:11

... which IS great

(was what that was supposed to read)

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SnoopyLovesYou · 30/07/2013 00:24

Oh! My local MeetUp is rocking a little bit more since I last looked at it! Will deffo try it out.

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SnoopyLovesYou · 30/07/2013 00:36

Ps MoreThanWords- I really see where you're coming from about the friends setting you up with someone. I wish a had a little Cilla Black in my 'circle' (handful) of friends! I do have a couple of friends who should know some eligible guys but yeah... It's more something that can happen by itself. Can't be forced. Whatever will be will be! The key for me is to get some childminders/babysitters and get out there!

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Singledad5871 · 30/07/2013 00:44

I met my girlfriend and wife to be on Match.com - I was very sceptical but I was proven wrong - it does work!

equinox · 30/07/2013 05:48

Yes do try the meet up option and the other possibility is you could always set up a group of your own on there Snoopy it costs £10 a month or so however....!

I think it will depend on the part of the UK you are in as to whether it is very active or not.

The other option is midsummerseve.com they do meet ups too for single people without it being a knocking shop.

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SnoopyLovesYou · 30/07/2013 10:46

Oh hi single dad! So you're a man, right? Please fill us in on the dos and don'ts of mmeeting people in a bar.

-Can I initiate conversation?

-Can I offer my number?

Or are these two tthings, even if done in a cool, relaxed way, still a big no no in our erm 21st century UK?

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Hamwidgeandcheps · 30/07/2013 11:15

That's encouraging singledad Grin

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SnoopyLovesYou · 30/07/2013 11:39

Yes that is encouraging. Starting to think I should meet up with this guy from POF. Ok so he's officially still married but separated 6 years. Kind of curious to see what he's like...

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shanelle5 · 30/07/2013 12:46

Where's everybody based? Maybe we should organise an en masse eveing out to go pulling Grin
I am Berkshire, near Windsor/Maidenhead, anyone nearby? x

bluebeardsbabe · 30/07/2013 13:04

I am in Hampshire and my mum can babysit so I am up for anything!!! (Really am at the point where I am up for almost anything, sigh).

Update on my POF profile. I have specifically put in my profile that I do not like tattoos or piercings. So someone who has an interest in body art has just contacted me. Do people not read profiles anymore? I guess it was my stunningness that caught their eye and the rest didn't matter :)

I feel like giving up on online dating before it has begun. So depressing.

Anyway, dd's just done a massive poo so gotta go and sort that out. And that really sums my life up at the moment....

bluebeardsbabe · 30/07/2013 13:06

Snoopy how old are you if you don't mind me asking? I am forty and seem to be attracting the 50 plusses :( (sorry don't mean to be ageist). If we are around the same age maybe we are competing for the same men:)

Ok really got to go, that nappy won't change itself....

bluebeardsbabe · 30/07/2013 13:12

Sorry, before I changed the nappy I had to log onto facebook to be faced with an update by someone whose husband just surprised her with an overseas trip and accompanying photos.

Lord, I'm depressed.

And we may be dealing with not just a pooy nappy now......

DiaryOfAWimpyMum · 30/07/2013 13:16

Apparently all the single men are in pubs/clubs at around 4/5pm on a Friday (after work) so that's how to find them, you go alone to the pub and sit and wait....

I detest pubs/clubs as much as dating sites so will be eternally single

Cambam2010 · 30/07/2013 15:36

Set up a local singles group on facebook. You can chat away to your hearts content before deciding whether to meet up - and all for free.

Hamwidgeandcheps · 30/07/2013 19:46

I refuse to use fb though that is a good idea.
I saw an old flame in sainsburys just now and hid! What was I thinking!? And I met him online

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SnoopyLovesYou · 30/07/2013 20:57

Ok I have to admit that I haven't got the foggiest clue how to use Facebook as a dating or chatting with strangers option. Please someone enlighten me!

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SnoopyLovesYou · 30/07/2013 20:59

There is no way I'm sitting in a pub by myself! Good hint though- Friday night I can manage but not that early.

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SnoopyLovesYou · 30/07/2013 22:38

Bluebeard re: Facebook. I was just saying to a friend today how nauseating it can be. So he's booking her an amazing holiday. I'm always sceptical about these Facebook brags. I mean, a lot of the time I reckon things aren't as happy as they seem (at least that's what I tell myself to preserve my own sanity and make myself feel better!) :-)

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