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Right! Where do we find nice single men?!?!

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SnoopyLovesYou · 28/07/2013 16:03

Ok everybody! Where do us single parents meet attractive, nice, single men?

The local gym/ swimming pool?

Online dating?

Clubs & pubs?

Sports clubs?

Evening classes?

I know I've previously said Im happy being single and I am but I'm also young and red blooded and in need of male attention atm!

If we put our heads together, we might be able to find one or two between us?

;-)

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Singledad5871 · 30/07/2013 22:52

Hi Snoopylovesyou - Match worked for me, after only 2 and a 1/2 dates (dont ask lol!) - but in a bar/club etc it IS ok to start a conversation - in fact every guy wants that - no guy likes rejection so if a girl/woman speaks to us we're delighted! My tips would be - have fun, try the paid sites, go on dates but ALWAYS pick somewhere fun so that even if you don't get along you can still have a laugh. I chose Jongleurs for my first date with my DP and now 18 months down the line - we're trying to work out how we can live together with 4 kids!
Tips: do a makeover, clothes etc and be a 'new you' it's amazing how it can make you feel
If you like somebody - let them know, smile, chat etc - everybody likes that
Have lots of fun and laugh
If you don't meet somebody straight away - dont worry just have fun first

Hamwidgeandcheps · 30/07/2013 22:52

I have quit Facebook partly for that reason. I can't bear the show boating its rubbish Hmm

makemineapinot · 30/07/2013 23:03

Omg! Have just reactivated pof! Had loads of messages on day 1 but catting t 2 who seem decent and genuine - have goofed and FB them. Sent one a photo and he's still chatting, but I'm a stone heavier tan I was I that photo. What ave I landed myself into- swore never to do pof again but can't afford Match etc!!! Aaargh!

Overtheraenbow · 31/07/2013 09:26

Pot seems really busy this week. I went back on last night ( had been not v. Active as had been seeing a guy I met on there till he told me he didn't think we had ' chemistry' hmmm)

maybe the bad Panorama press has prompted people to join. Even gad a 31 year old ask me out ( I told him I have clothes older than him!!) but chatted to a nice sounding local guy. But no photos (I always make that a rule: he did offer to send me one by text but don't want a random pic of some blokes knob so declined!!) he said he only just joined and was on his phone, so I can wait!! But had about 5 messages in total .

Cambam2010 · 31/07/2013 12:46

I set up a group on FB. Called it 'mytownname Singles', advertised it on a local FB gossip board. In a week we have got 36 members. There's been loads of chatting and flirting and I might have, almost got, a date! (it's been 9 years since I dated so now I'm panicking)

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SnoopyLovesYou · 31/07/2013 14:54

Have decided not to meet MrMarriedButSeparated.

Going out this Friday and have now hidden my POF profile. Think I'll join my local gym along with the swimming pool! I'm thinking that having an amazing body can only be a good step towards finding someone nice! :-D

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SnoopyLovesYou · 31/07/2013 14:58

Go on someone tell me how the Facebook chatting to strangers works :-)

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TwoStepsBeyond · 31/07/2013 15:06

Raenbow I told him I have clothes older than him Grin

TwoStepsBeyond · 31/07/2013 15:09

Cambam that sounds great! One of the guys I met on POF & I considered setting up our own dating site at one point, but I guess with all the local pages on FB there are plenty of free and easy ways to meet people. Its just about having the confidence to move things along.

FWIW, married but separated isn't necessarily a bad thing, getting a divorce is such an arse-ache and is quite costly, I am dragging my heels over it for no other reason than I can't actually be bothered and haven't got spare money for solicitors etc. Ex is paying me the child support, DP doesn't seem to mind that I am still Mrs Ex. so no rush to get it sorted.

DiaryOfAWimpyMum · 31/07/2013 15:48

I'm married too, been seperated almost 3 years but have no clue where my xh lives and his lawyer will not answer my solicitor, so no divorce Angry

I cannot do a facebook page in case my xh finds it me

I might try the gym after the holidays

Cambam2010 · 31/07/2013 16:35

Snoopy - on the FB group I've done, all the people are local to each other and people seem to just start random threads asking questions and then the answers start flying through. Everyone is in the same boat - single and looking, and people seem to feel comfortable talking about what they are looking for in a relationship etc knowing that the other people are in similar situations. Every few days I re-advertise the group, usually in the early hours of the morning when all us singletons are in and feeling a bit lonely so turn to the internet for company, and always get a few new members signing up. We are even talking about arranging a meet up soon. Another singles group near me on FB has 200+ members and do very regular meet ups. This year they are going on a group holiday to Butlins!

ShinyBlackShoes · 31/07/2013 20:20

I am just going to try bromide in my tea as I have given up. Been single for over 13 years and no proper date for getting on for 7 and that in lives about 3 runs on Internet dating sites; I am the worlds most undatable woman!

theMovedStone · 31/07/2013 20:48

Perhaps they dont exist ??
Not like Im looking for one
just enjoyed reading:-(

theMovedStone · 31/07/2013 20:52

Shiny dont you dare to say that
You never know
What if tomorrow you will go out and met the One:-)
Good good good luck

Pantone363 · 31/07/2013 21:06

The gym especially if it has a social side (juice bar/sauna/pool)

Clubs. Great for a one night stand if you're just trying to slake a physical need.

Book shops! Surprising successes here and it's really easy to start a convo about the books they are browsing or if they know where a certain book is.

Tesco. If successful eye flirting has happened bash his trolley or drop something to start a convo Wink

Workmen at your house. Tree surgeons especially, need any tree work doing?!

Local baristas. Hunt the coffee shops out for one you like and hit it regularly.

Single dads at school. Easy conversation.

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SnoopyLovesYou · 01/08/2013 00:19

Yes ShinyBlackShoes we mumsnetters don't put bromide in our tea. We are all just too awesome. Doing a hugely difficult job a lot of the time but we just need to remember that we're amazing :-)

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SnoopyLovesYou · 01/08/2013 00:22

Well TwoSteps I could forgive him being MarriedButSeparated but I can't forgive him his dirty language and I think he's probably a male chauvinist so I'm giving him the boot.

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SnoopyLovesYou · 01/08/2013 00:24

Thanks Cambam I must snoop around locally and see what Facebook has to offer!

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SnoopyLovesYou · 01/08/2013 00:29

Ooh themovedstone this conversation has taken an interesting turn by jeepers! ;-) So... Do nice single men actually exist or not? Anybody know any of this species? Maybe they're all too busy sowing their wild oats to be nice? Nice? Is that just what they pretend to be to get into our knickers? Ah there must be some of them that are genuinely nice surely? :-)

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SnoopyLovesYou · 01/08/2013 00:31

Pantone very interesting. Well firstly a juice bar sounds very nice! Is that in London Town? They don't have those in this backwater!

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SnoopyLovesYou · 01/08/2013 00:33

And then Pantone please do tell us more about the surprising successes in bookshops. You have me at the edge of my seat! Where are all these risqué guys who ask a girl for her number in a bookshop?! Sounds nice!

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SnoopyLovesYou · 01/08/2013 00:37

.... As for one night stands... yeah maybe it is turning into more of a physical need dammit but honestly how the heck are we single parents supposed to have one night stands? Wouldn't go back to his place because let's face it that's not really safe is it?! Then a bit embarrassing re: babysitter to just bring someone home! Also not the safest and anyway are one night stands not just a byword for bad sex?

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Pantone363 · 01/08/2013 00:38

No not London Town! We have like a bar where people but their protein shakes/juice/coffee after a workout. If you're not a gym member yet and you're looking for a new one ask about the social side!

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SnoopyLovesYou · 01/08/2013 00:40

Bashing someone's trolley at Tesco- hahahaha!

Single dads at the school- now this is a really good one actually and I have my beady eye on one actually! He is gorgeous... Sigh!

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Pantone363 · 01/08/2013 00:42

Ooo also if you have DC of the right age farm them out to martial arts/sports clubs. Lots of weekend dads sitting around for an hr or so and fit instructors.

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