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Treated badly at a supermarket

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Peaceguide · 20/01/2025 21:11

Me and a mate went to a supermarket. When I was at the till, the cashier mentioned __ 'Camera' and some things quietly (he had a earphone). After this incident, I spoke to my mate. He and the people at the store are friends. He said one of the staff (his friend) said to him, He looks suspicious. The security in the room said he kept taking stuffs from the shelf, looking at them and putting them back. He walks around. He has a big bag. This is the 2nd time the system flagged. My mate said to the staff (his friend), He is just browsing the items. He likes to browse / look around. He is a decent bloke. He goes to a faith place. He also said while I was doing shopping, the security was watching you. The earpiece on his ear was flashing red. The security in the room said to him to watch 'him'. There are cameras above (the crystal ball / black dome). They are watching you.

He said they suspect you because you come out with a big bag, you look at stuff a long time etc. I said to him but you know what I have in my bag, I am not a bad / wrong person! (PC stuff, shopping bags etc in my bag cause I can't leave them in my place due to my living situation). He said You know! I know! but they don't know. They are doing this just to you. They do this to everyone because there are a lot of thieves and so on. That's why a couple of weeks ago, he sent a text Hurry up__ ! while I was doing shopping. He said It's nothing personal. After what he said to them, the staff (friend) went to tell the security in room and said to my mate, It's ok, I have told them, it's ok now etc. Which faith place does he go to?

I told him everything, This is what is bothering me. If a store or place suspects you, watches, how would you be? How would you feel? Won't you get upset, angry, offended, hurt, uncomfortable etc? He said he won't get offended etc. I said I won't go there anymore! He said Oh, come on. They are my friends. Look, they have already told them. It's okay. I said If someone, something causes problems, does bad, wrong, offends, hurts one or a certain number of times, I won't go there, I won't have anything to do with them anymore! I have to find a new place to shop at!

I am concerned how am I going to do shopping now. I don't want to go through the same experience again. It is very obnoxious, uncomfortable.

I want to know if there are any actions I can take against the store, how they treated me, for everything. Is there anything I can do? What should be done? I / my conscious is not good leaving this as it is and not do anything, if there is something I should do. I need to stand up. This needs to be sorted.

OP posts:
Hoppinggreen · 20/01/2025 21:13

So nothing actually happened then?
Other than your "friend" stirring

Mrsttcno1 · 20/01/2025 21:14

I’m struggling to understand what they have done wrong here

PizzaPunk · 20/01/2025 21:15

Seriously strange thread.

And what does faith have to do with shoplifting? 😳

Peaceguide · 20/01/2025 21:15

Mrsttcno1 · 20/01/2025 21:14

I’m struggling to understand what they have done wrong here

Thank you for the reply. What is it that you don't understand here?

OP posts:
vodkaredbullgirl · 20/01/2025 21:16

😕

LittleRedRidingHoody · 20/01/2025 21:16

They've not done anything wrong. Security guards are suspicious of plenty of people, and some of those times they're wrong 💁‍♀️

If you don't like it, shop somewhere else. It sounds like your 'friend' is messing with you.

Mrsttcno1 · 20/01/2025 21:17

Peaceguide · 20/01/2025 21:15

Thank you for the reply. What is it that you don't understand here?

What have these staff members actually done to you that has bothered you so much?

Literally nothing happened, nobody approached you, nobody said anything at all to you, nobody bothered you.

GrannyAchingsShepherdsHut · 20/01/2025 21:18

What's a faith place? A church / temple type place? Or something else?

Tbh it sounds like your friend is paranoid more than anything. You're at the till, but somehow he knows what people were saying into the cashiers earpiece and what the security guard is thinking and saying in the back room?

TheYearOfSmallThings · 20/01/2025 21:18

Don't worry about it - if you and your friend aren't stealing it doesn't matter how much time they waste watching you.

Best not to give someone else's information (including place of worship) but it is no big deal.

2025hello · 20/01/2025 21:18

Did you have issues with interflora by any chance?

PiastriThePastry · 20/01/2025 21:18

What a whole load of fuss about nothing. Op are you a little inclined to overthink things or take offence easily?

Peaceguide · 20/01/2025 21:21

Thank you everyone for quick replies! Did you guys read the whole thread properly? Just asking because you guys reply quickly. Also how do you reply to a comment instead of Quote?

OP posts:
Bodeganights · 20/01/2025 21:23

If a store or place suspects you, watches, how would you be? How would you feel? Won't you get upset, angry, offended, hurt, uncomfortable etc?

I discovered that wearing an oversize jacket will get me followed around the store, very obviously followed. I laughed because I haven't stolen anything since I was 11. But I get it, I looked suspicious so it stands to reason I'll be followed.

Could not get worked up about this, and from what I managed to get from your post, nothing actually happened to you. You weren't spoken to or stopped, so there is nothing to do.

Hoppinggreen · 20/01/2025 21:29

Peaceguide · 20/01/2025 21:21

Thank you everyone for quick replies! Did you guys read the whole thread properly? Just asking because you guys reply quickly. Also how do you reply to a comment instead of Quote?

I read it twice and I still think you are over reacting

MonochromePig · 20/01/2025 21:29

I struggled to understand anything.

Rachmorr57 · 20/01/2025 21:30

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Heavingonajetplane · 20/01/2025 21:32

Are you AI

purpleme12 · 20/01/2025 21:32

MonochromePig · 20/01/2025 21:29

I struggled to understand anything.

Oh god me too

Thought maybe it was just me

Rooroobear · 20/01/2025 21:34

Well unfortunately thefts happen often now. If you come in with a big bag it makes staff suspicious. The shop I used to work in was done over by two women who came in with big bags and just shoved in what they could as quick as they could. There’s zero action to take and if it’s upset you then that’s life. Don’t shop there again

CoastalCalm · 20/01/2025 21:34

They’ve done nothing wrong if your friend hadn’t mentioned it you wouldn’t even have been aware - I’ve had security follow me in high end shops before it didn’t upset me at all

TwoLeftSocksWithHoles · 20/01/2025 21:36

I was once followed by a police car for nearly a mile before he turned off down another road. I still have nightmares about it. 👀

NiftyKoala · 20/01/2025 21:38

I can't see anything in your post where you were treated badly. And throwing in faith makes no sense.

DorothyStorm · 20/01/2025 21:42

You said you were treated badly. How were you treated badly? What did they do to you other than watch you?

Hoppinggreen · 20/01/2025 21:42

NiftyKoala · 20/01/2025 21:38

I can't see anything in your post where you were treated badly. And throwing in faith makes no sense.

I think OP is suggesting that their faith makes them a repsctable person. I suspect that they are from a non white ethnic background

usernamesaretoohardtothinkof · 20/01/2025 21:43

So you’re paranoid that people are watching you and you carry loads of random stuff in your bag because you can’t trust people where you live. OP, you sound paranoid - do you have people supporting you in your life?