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my world has fallen apart

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Emz8369 · 08/05/2013 19:15

I had to call the police last night and report my dad as my daughter told her aunty that he has been abusing her, i just feel so lost right now and don't know what to do, think, feel or say.

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AdoraBell · 01/06/2013 23:33

I can see how that would be dificult for you, just try To enjoy the rest of the weekend and deal with Monday when it arrives.

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Emz8369 · 02/06/2013 00:23

yeah I will, I think it will do her good getting away tho

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Emz8369 · 03/06/2013 17:46

well daughter went away with the school this morning and I cried like a baby lol I hope she has a good time

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ParsingFancy · 03/06/2013 18:24

Are they doing lots of outdoor stuff? Hope this good weather keeps up for them!

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Emz8369 · 03/06/2013 21:40

Hi ParsingFancy yeah its all outdoorsy stuff and judging by the weather reports they are going to have good weather all week

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Emz8369 · 11/06/2013 20:21

have just went bat shit crazy at the stupid idiot of a man who is my old next door neighbours dad.

youngest daughter (6) went missing and I couldn't find her so had my friend and sister out helping me look for her found her after ten minutes with old next door neighbours dad ( bloke in his 50s I'd say ) walking the dog along an old cycle track ( where she knows she is not allowed) she used to go on regular dog walks with old next door neighbour and this guy well when I found her she got a severe telling off and I went bat shit crazy at this guy, was I being unreasonable?

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ParsingFancy · 11/06/2013 20:43

Oh Emz! You must have been terrified. Poor all of you!

Bloke with dog was probably a bit taken aback, but it's completely natural you're being extra vigilant.

What a time for her to decide to wander!

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Emz8369 · 11/06/2013 20:48

yeah I was parsing im starting to think I overreacted now tho

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ParsingFancy · 11/06/2013 20:52

You've been holding everything together so well. Not at all surprising to lose it at something so scary.

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Emz8369 · 11/06/2013 22:11

I know but this bloke got both barrels, gonna have to apologise next time I see him

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ParsingFancy · 11/06/2013 22:15

Oh that's a good thing to do. Or drop him a wee card or bunch of flowers, if you're rather not wait to see him in person.

But do keep looking after you, won't you? In the scale of stuff you're dealing with, yelling is pretty small beer.

((( Emz )))

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Emz8369 · 12/06/2013 07:52

we ( daughter and I ) have had a talk this morning and I have told her that it was wrong of her to not ask my permission and that until I can trust her again she is not allowed to go play in the street and that if she sees this guy walking the dog and wishes to go she has to ask me for permission

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Emz8369 · 12/06/2013 11:00

well I have just had police woman on the phone who said she is sending the evidence to cps at the end of this week and that she thinks we have a strong case evidence wise, not getting my hopes up though just in case

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ParsingFancy · 12/06/2013 11:41

Oh that's good news. Will be thinking of you then.

BTW, do you think you'd like to start a thread in Relationships or Chat, where more people with helpful experience will see it?

It seems quite quiet here in Legal: many MNers don't read the whole site. I'm happy to keep chatting here, but I don't know much and am very boring!

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Emz8369 · 24/06/2013 16:17

I am just going to keep this one open so dont have to explain things to people all over again

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mumof5plusazoo · 24/06/2013 20:41

Hi Emz,
I have only just seen this and have read through. I would like to say that you are amazing, I'm so sorry for what you and your daughter have and are going through.
Stay strong take everything a day at a time.
Feel free to pm me if you want/need a chat.
Take care

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Emz8369 · 26/06/2013 07:54

well today is his birthday and it feels like it is someone's birthday after they have died if you get what I mean

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ParsingFancy · 27/06/2013 20:56

Hope you got through yesterday OK, Emz.

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Emz8369 · 27/06/2013 21:29

thanks ParsingFancy I had a good cry and then took myself to bed early

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AlbertaCampion · 27/06/2013 21:31

Just!

AlbertaCampion · 27/06/2013 21:32

*oops sorry, crossed threads

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Emz8369 · 06/08/2013 21:31

utterly crap day today found out my grandma (paternal side) had a mild heart attack and has to go to hospital tomorrow for tests and its times like these that a normal family would all pull together :(

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Emz8369 · 30/12/2013 18:21

Good news! The police have been in touch and he will be charged the next time he answers bail 6 charges relating to my daughter and 7 relating to my sister

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sykadelic15 · 01/01/2014 23:28

Excellent news!! Stay strong :)

Star8369 · 13/03/2014 20:18

just an update he is currently on remand for breaking his bail conditions and has to appear in court on the 8th of April and enter a plea so hopefully he will plead guilty but if he doesn't we have to go to court

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