Slattern - thanks. Our/my main questions are:
- do we need one for non-DC stuff? we are married so everything surely just goes to the other if one dies right?
- is there anything non-DC to do for if we both died?
- what to do about the DC, ie guardianship if we both died?
This is where we get stuck every time. No siblings are really suitable (have 4 between us, 3 live abroad, 1 is living with GF in a 1-bed flat).
GPs are getting older rapidly. Mine are too old to take them on f-t. PIL would do, and MIL has said she would 'take them'

so not to worry. We want all 4 (or however many are left I suppose) to make joint decisions.
DS2 needs to stay in his SN school, I would hate for them to be uprooted and made to move to either GP house. Can we stipulate that they stay here/in this area? what on earth do we say? (there will be money from DH & my life insurance, i think)
Dikkert - years ago I started printing out/ordering photos and put them in DC-specific albums. Of course that was when I just had DS1.
Then I started again with DS2, even printing duplicates if both boys were in a good shot.
Now I have DD, she is 2 next month and I have yet to print a single photo of her....

Mini - trip sounds good, I have done lots of family tree too, no old US connections, more modern ones in Pittsburgh of DH's family.
Sat/Sun:
one lie in each Mine DONE
DS2 footie DONE
DS1 friend for lunch & play DONE
other productive stuff; tidy & sort out Art Area of Doom DONE
watch some rugby (children-dependent) Some Done, Boo Ireland!
DH out to football Sat afternoon Doing
poss visit to B&Q for black electrical tape (& excuse to go out)
Ongoing:
- family tree (scanning in old certs & photos & email contacts)
- buy picture frames to hang on the wall & hang up as many photos as poss; get sizes into phone for TKMaxx
- sort wills; nudge DH; Have discussed
- sort out my desk
- kids photos albums; upload onto Snapfish; order printouts; put in albums. Step 1; sort all photos on iPhoto
- eBay stuff; 13 listed; add one more; 2 bid on, yey!
- cash in Tesco vouchers (what for - towards a day out, just which one?)
- eye test for me (before end of March as I have a voucher)
- Apple shop trip for poorly laptop
PS ooh I rather like having my posts highlighted 