The Anxiety Club (continued) !

[mooseloose]

Hi girls, i have started a new thread for us all. The other was too long. Hope you all find it.

How are you today kurves?
I have foundthis website very helpful in the past. It lists all the various symptoms that can come with panic attacks and anxiety. I get all sorts of pains when I am anxious, and if I let myself focus on them, they get worse. I never used to believe that your own mind can trigger symptoms- always thought that if something hurt then something was wrong iyswim, - but it's a huge lesson I have learnt that you can make yourself have physical symptoms.

Is there not anyone in RL you can talk to about how you feel? Even your gp? I never wanted medication but a short course of counselling helped a lot.

Is your ex your boys father? You are not a fool or a bad person, and you are right you can overcome this. However he is behaving is his problem and he needs to realise this.

Why were you alone for christmas?

Have managed to prize the dcs away from the wii for a bit, they are playing with lego. I do intend to get the wii fit

Thanks Blissa i was alone for Christmas but it was fun he did hot come round he sent me a text then when i called was rude to me so i blocked it out,you are right i realise that he is the one with the issues and time will heal this last night he called me and dumped me making me feel like it was all my fault that i was in the wrong i just sat and cried i relise that it is his cycle of abuse cause you see he is so unhappy and has nothing going for him. This guy has no job well he is a barber in a barber shop once a week no manners no direction and i just found out that he abused his last girl friend beat her up and chipped her tooth so i just got to move on . I am at uni and have 2 boys am so happy he is not their father if he does come near me or my children i decided that i will call the police. My over eating and attacks are down to the stress that he has put me through and the effort he has put in to ruin my children's and i Christmas.

you are right when i thought about the pain in my arm in did get worse i will be getting the wii fit got some vouchers for christmas to get one today i decided to relax and just take it easy so my today can get used to all it has gone through.

This is a good place to vent i got a personal trainer and start the gym again in jan when the boys are at school so have alot to keep me busy i do feel low but decided that i will fight it i will not make some one who has messed up their life mess up mine. Ps my children's dad went abroad for 6 months so i am alone with them that did not help things.

Hi all. Just wanted to say how helpful this thread is. Thanks to Blissa too for that link, NOW I know I am not going mad and why I have all those symptoms. Have been really bad for the last 3 days, wondered why I just wanted to sleep. DD was away at weekend, I slept all Boxing Day, some of yesterday, and two naps today. Still exhausted! But glad I now know why. Have been taking Vitamin B complex, helps with palpitations and nervous system. I had a months course and felt so alive, then stopped, thinking I was OK, but anxiety came back twice as bad. So am going to continue taking them. Also on AD's. Glad I found this thread, it's has been so very helpful. Good luck to everyone in getting through it. xx

hi miss popoff i have some vitamin d complex and did not think that they could help will start taking them in the morning i did my research and am going for the wii fit plus so off to argos in the morning these holidays have been sad for me but trying to move on hoping things will get better. i have put on so much weight but will be better hopefully tomrrow i have not heard from my ex which if good a abuse free day.

Morning Ladies .
How you doing Yoummy ? and Blissa
and welcome Kurves and misspopoff

Good to here your feeling a bit better Kurves , the wii fit sounds a good idea and something you can do at home when you like , i really want to get that but way to much money just after cribo unless come down in sale somewhere

Misspopoff, i love your name , is it from "rent a ghost ' i used to watch that when i was little ..
have you suffered with anx long ?
i suffer with HA mainly and to get palputations , dizzy spells and general antiousness alot (forgive spelling sorry )
I take Vit B to along with Iron and large dose of vit c all from tesco efervesent type ones so im fizzing around all day ..lol ..
i do find the Vit B does give me more energy , and stress worry, anx will def make you feel tired when im in a bad anx mode i can sleep anywhere at any time im so exhausted with worry ..
this is a lovely thread so feel free to share your worries as i do find this helps .

going to try and get out today for walk as feeling a little anx myself , still got my throat thing .
anyway bye for now be back later .

I used to love Rent a Ghost too mumof200 . Hope you enjoy your walk, it is wet and horrible here today. The dcs have cabin fever, and ds is driving me up the wall with his requests to play the wii!

I'm glad you found the link useful MissPopOff. Some one posted it on our old thread and I found printing off the symptoms helpful as I could look at it and reassure myself I wasn't dying! Hope you are ok today.

Have you been to get the wii fit yet kurves? Dp did buy me the wii fit plus for christmas but didn't realise you need the board and everything to do it!

Hope you are enjoying the holidays yommy, and ds2s teeth have calmed down.

I don't know if it's all the let down ofetr christmas or life, but I feel pretty stressed today. Dp and I are arguing about money, and I am worried about our debts and how we are going to manage. Everything is getting messy

i went on to the argos web site both the stores in my area sold out. went on to hmv not in stock went on to another web site 2 weeks delivery and the game shop out of stock just my luck so checking again this morning . I was up with my son all night last night i am so tired i have to pay the rent today but all i want top do is go to sleep started to eat sensibly today and started to take the vitamin b with the iron so hopefully this will help also with the weight that i am hoping to lose.

It is good to See how open you guys are about talking about your anxiety as i find it hard to put into words what i now try to do is focus on other things. like i find it hard to come to terms of the feeling that something is going to happen to me ect.

Evening Ladies,

Sorry not been on in a while! My DS1 got a DSi for his christmas and after his bedtime I have become addicted to Batman Lego game its sooooo good, lol! There are a few jobs that I want/should apply for, so going to do that as soon as I have finished typing this, thats the plan anyway!!!!

Blissa - sorry to hear that you are feeling a little down again! I know exactly how you are feeling with the debts and stuff - ours got out of control too, but now that DH has a more stable job he has been focusing on paying as much as he can while he has the work. But its still a strain every month with me stil not working. Not as bad as it has been on the past. I have had to speak to my debtors a few times and ask them to reduce my payments for a few months (or whatever they will allow) just to take the pressure off for a while. Could you do that??? You and DP will get through {{{{{{hugs}}}}}}. I always feel the comedown of christmas, etc in the weeks after the new year! Looking forward to it already - not!

Mumof2000 - Did you get out for your walk?? Hope you are feeling a little calmer this evening! I have been feeling okay past few days - always feel calmed when I have DH home

Kurves - sorry to hear you can;t get the Wii fit anywhere! Guess it was a popular crimbo gift!!! And poor you being up with DS, whats the matter with him?? Hope you get more sleep tonight! Nothing worse than no sleep and having to cope on your own all day! How has the sensible eating been going??? I have been terrible the past few days! Eating the biggest load of crap - dam people for bringing boxes of chocolates into my house!!!!! . Hope you gat a wii fit soon!!!

Welcome misspopoff! Never seen rent a ghost! lol! Hope you are well and feel free to stick around!!

Wonder where, candyfluff, moose and BTP have all gone! Hope you are all well of you are still around x x x

P.S. There is a fitness game you can buy for the Wii which is a personal trainer game. Its really good and you don;t need the bored for it either! My DH bought it for me a few months back - I did it for 3 days and my legs were killing me - then i fell away from it! lol! I am terrible with commitment - other than with my DH ofcourse!

Morning all .

Blissa - ((((hug for you )))))hope you and DP having a better day today ,money worries are hard on everyone , especially with christmas etc maybe could give credit card/debt people a ring and explain your situation , i did this a few months back they were quite understanding as long as you keep in contact with theses people they seem to be ok ish, i found also then they will have record that you have tried to do all you can , and if you can make a tiny offer of money just to keep them happy , then believe me you will feel better just by talking to the people you owe to .and remember your not alone many many people are owing at moment , i for one am seriously overdrawn on 2 credit cards ,but at moment all i can do is chip away at the min payment ,until better times then maybe we can pay off a big chunk ..
That web site link you gave is really good , iv been on that site before and in chat room , very good , and has a bit on HA to i didnt realize is exactly how i feel , so thank you for posting that up .
Regarding "Rent a Ghost" i loved Mr claypole , and misspopoff is in cori now isnt she as Audre ..lol good times watching tv as a child , do you remember , Pitkins and hartly Hare ? or Monkey ? blissa by chance or am i really showing my age ...oops xx

Misspopoff and Kurves - how are you both today ? hope you are feeling better ..

Yoummy -How are you ? did you manage to apply for any jobs ? what sort of thing are you going for ?
M DS has ds to i got that brain training thing on it to quite good although my brain age came up as 69
What you up to at NY ? were just in not doing alot , as 1 year since my DH gave up alcohol has ben one of the best christmas ever as hes been soba ,we may go out for a meal to celebrate on NYD with children not sure see how he feels , just glad hes off it ...

Went to my Dads was ok although DH didnt come .
Went to my mums the next day DH didnt come either , but i didnt expect him to as my mum would be drinking loads , as it goes she wasnt to bad , so maybe she curbed it a bit that day for me ...anyway was ok .

Throat seems a little better today (fingers crossed ).... got to go out to tescos as no food in house ...kids are going to love that NOT .....
back later .
hope you all have a good day

lolxxxxx

thank yummy mummy i reserved the wii active at Argos going to collect it now i have put the money in my little saving tin to get the wii fit plus when it does become available i got the wii active at a bargain price too £23 99 i know when it first came out it was 39.99
they have a wii active plus but just going to start with this first i think this should do me until i get the wii fit.

I start my personal; training at the gym on the 4th which will help i try not to think about my ex i recon that he is just plain
evil and as my friend said he will get what is coming to him i find that when i think about him the attacks start so i just got to try and stay focused .

Mum2000
hope you have a great day today had to do food shop yesterday the boys are OK their friends are coming over i guess that you will be stuck on your dsi trying to get your brain age up my friend got that and is addicted i have never tried it may be when i finish uni and have time to my self i will.

I must admit guys i feel good today thanks for the support.

Fancy abandoning us for Batman Yommy! Tsk Hope all goes well with the job applications. You and mumof2000 are both right, I need to speak to people. It's just that I opened a letter this morning saying I have to pay back a large amount that has been overpayed to me, and I got scared as I don't have that sort of money. Will have to go sit down the council next week to try and sort it.

I'm glad both visits to your parents went ok mumof2000 and that your throat feels better. I braved Tesco this morning (but managed to go without the dcs). They had Easter eggs out . I haven't heard of those programmes, I think I saw Rent a Ghost when they showed it the second time round . I am more of the Thundercats and Banana man era! xx

Good to hear you are feeling better kurves. What are you studying?

Think it will just be a quiet one for dp and I tomorrow night- no babysitter! And we're at my parents for NY day. I have some friends coming over this afternoon with their dcs for a post christmas get together- I shall have 8 children here!

hi blissa i am studying law and so far behind but i will buckle down now i feel really ok today it must be the iron tabs and vitamin b pills that you guys recommended thanks.

I got the wii active but guess what my older son who is 9 has his friend over and i cannot play it so have to wait till later. i was telling my boys about the Lego batman funny my son love all the Lego ds games. good luck with the council they arte quite good . I owe some money also but will be paying off a huge chunk of it next week. Easter eggs out already wow.

i am off now to sit with my other son 8yrs who is like my shadow and watch a movie if he goes on the computer to play games i will watch the hang over i was told it is funny.

You guys really helped me out this christmas thank you .

Oh my evil ex called and asked to see me today and acted like we were still together and everthing is normal i really feel that he is not ok but no longer my problem.

Afternoon Girls,

We have a clever clogs in the house - studying law!!! Good for you kurves! That must be hard going at times!!! When do you graduate?? What movie are you watching with DS?? My DS are both eating dinner just now - making a right mess

Blissa - def talk to the council and anyone else! People are usually very good as long as you can pay something towards them! Good luck with that - you will feel so much better after you have spoken to them!

mumof2000 - how did your trip to tesco go?? I hate it at this time of year far too busy!! Had to pop in yesterday, and will have to do some shopping tomorrow for hogmany! We are just having family over for hogmany through to New Years then we always go down to my MIL for New Years dinner! I love that as it means all the pressure is off of us to cook!

I have been tidying my house none stop today and am totally discusted with the amount of toys that my boys have ! I have went totally OTT ever since DS1 was born and I think they have everything a little boy could wish for, but the best part is they really don;t play that much! Will that change when they get older?? Anyway, point is I am done with toy buying! Every time my DS1 goes out to town or tesco he thinks its to buy him a toy [blush} again!!! I know I only have myself to blame, so I need to nip it in the butt before they turn into spoiled little brats - nothing worse!!! Rant over! lol!

Not been on Lego for a while -kurves MY DS had been asking for starwars lego game, his cousins have it, but I have heard that all the Lego games are addictive, lol!!

I also managed to get the job applications sent away, yipee! Thats the easy part though - the hard part is getting an interview! I really want to work with young people children so have applied for street mediator job and home care services job, both with the local council! I also applied for placement as a trainee Social Worker ( thats what I really want to do) so will see if I hear back from that! Put in an application to study for my HNC in Social Care in the mean time! Its been a productive day

Anyway, DS2 is wanting my attention - will pop on later!

x x x

P.S. Can you buy vit B over the counter??

Morning all

Blissa- hope you had a nice afternoon with your friends yesterday ,and you and DP have a nice evening tonight , try and put money worries on hold for the night ...if u can ..
make some posative NYR ... and talk together about your worries than way you can work as a team and get through it together .xx

Kurves - glad things looking bit brighter for you , and your studying Law , well done you that must be very interesting .

Yoummy-Well done with getting job application out and best of luck with that to .also sounds a very rewarding job to do.
Tidying house to , i know what you mean about Dc toys mine to have way to much and am going to have a good sort out when they go back to school i think ..hmmm
I went to Tescos and did a big shop got alittle carried away as went to an extra one and got DC some clothes in sale ..plus a slow cooker on sale , and im going to do big batch of curry for tonight and then to freeze .
Just me and DH tonight , quiet one , doubt if will stay up i hate NYE to be honest never had a good one yet
although DH given up alcohol for a year NYE so that is worth a little celebration ..with a cup of tea of corse ..
anyway going to get myself up and going as feeling a bit low this morning a bit anx , cant quite pin point why ,just do ... so will get out and not let it fester .....going to pop and see a good friend for a cupa later so that will be nice and get out of house ..

bye for now lolxx

Wow kurves how long have you got left to study? Hope you are having a good day.

Those all sound like very interesting jobs you have applied for Yommy- good luck. I'm pretty sure you can but vit B over the counter, you can get every other vitamin

Enjoy your afternoon with your friend mumof2000. We all had a lovely time yesterday- my livingroom was trashed and covered in food yesterday, but the kids all played really well together. Dp came home after they'd all gone and hoovered up all the mess

I have spent the morning making a mess chocolate truffles as part of my gifts to my family. I've made 2 lots, one plain, which are cooling in the fridge and seem fine, and the other orange flavoured, which are also cooling in the fridge but I am not so hopeful about. I think the orange juice has made the mixture separate a little, but the recipe said you could do it. If they don't work they'll only get a couple of truffles each...

Anyway going to get the dcs out on their bikes for a bit then come back and deal with the chocolates whilst they are on the wii.

Hi Girls,

Tidy up again! Argh! Just can;t seem to get out of my own way today! Thing is I really don;t have that much to do - but its taking me FOREVER!!!!!!!! Everything is half done at the moment - so had better get a move on!!!

Hope you all have a wonderful NY when it comes! Its been a pretty good year, but hope next is ever better

I nipped into town this morning to get something to wear, but its not a nice on as I thought it would be, hmm!! Oh well - it will have to do! DH has gone to get some fireworks for over the bells

Better get back to this housework!

x x x

I feel like rubbish my mums keeping a new years party do not want to go cause i am fat and my sister from hell will be their and i have done nothing but eat play games with the kids and watch TV i decided that i am staying in going to start to clean the house and have a quiet new years with my kids. I hope to treat my self tomorrow to some thing nice the boys and i are going bowling.

"Happy New year Ladies "

May all our anxiety be a thing of the past and 2010 bring us all happy , healthy , calm times ahead

lots of love xxxxx

Morning Mums,

Happy New Year!!!!!!!!!!!!!!{{{{{hugs&kisses}}}}}}

mumof2000 - that was a lovely message! Hope your right about the anxiety! Lets all try leave it behind in last year!

kurves - try to stop being so hard on yourself! You have already put a plan in place to loose weight and thats a brilliant first step to a new year for 2010. We're all here supporting you I hope you had a nice noght with your boys! ANd today sounds like fun - enjoy!!!

Hope you had a good one Blissa!

Never got to bed til almost 3 last night and back up with DS at 8 Think I will need a lie down this afternoon before we head out to MIL for NY's dinner!

Enjoy your day everyone x x x

Morning all ..

I really hope we can all get on top of our worries and anxiety ...this year WILL try , good to know we have each other on here to help us through the tricky times . xx

hope you all have a lovely day

WOW yoummy you will be tired later ..hope you had a great night , and not to hung over if you were drinking ..xx

I was in my bed at 10.30 with another cup of tea..as DH not drinking 1st years aniversary thought best i support what is usualy a very drunken night by not having a drop of alcohol along with him , plus not much fun drinking on your own ..
and thnking was good idea as DH wants to drag us to a shopping Maule (cant spell sorry ) ....and glad i havent a hang over to cope with to
have no money mind you so not sure why going , but thats what he wants to do ...i hate shopping or looking with no money , total waste of time in my opinion ..but i will go with the flow today ..we may get some lunch out though so that will be nice ..

catch u later ladies x

Hi guys how are you all today hope all is well. The strangest thing happened to me today i went to argos to get a new vacuum cleaner cause my one broke. and my heart started to beat really fast so i just started to breathe then my throat felt like it was closing up like i could not swallow i started to breathe but i was in such a good mood and it came out of no where i thought cannot even get into 2010 and the attacks start . I have read about the throat thing but this is the first time it has happened.

Any way haveing a good day the boys are ok but my oldest has a sore throat and is a bit ache i know it cannot be swine flu as he got the jab. My other son is being the perfect angel we think that he new years resulution is to be a very good boy.

I hope you all have good day today when i had my attack i said to myself i will no longer let this thing control me and to my surprise i did not freak out cause i knew it would pass.

thanks guys you have really helped me with this.

Morning Ladies,

How are you all today???

Well done on letting the attack pass kurves!! That happened to me the other day in town too, but like you I just said to myslef - don;t be so daft it will pass - and it did - very quickly!!! It's not nice, but it won't kill us! So did you get the hoover??

mumof2000 - Thats great about DH drinking! My DH tends to drink far too much and then ended up saying stupid things - which usually piss people off so when he is drinking I tend not to bother Thankfully he doesn;t drink too often! He was fine on NY though!

Think we are just going to have a quiet one today - got a better sleep last night - although DS2 was up a lot!!!

Really can;t believe thats Christmas and New YEar over already . Best friend is moving to Saudi in 3 weeks I am going to miss her and her 2 boys so much as we do everything together, but her DH lives out there so its right that they all be together.

How are you and DP getting on Blissa?? Hope you had a nice time at NY!!

x x x

Afternoon Girls!

How are you all?? Just finished takind the Christmas tree down, my living room looks so bare!!! Not that the season is over can start looking forward to Centre Parcs again Think we go back in March!! Yipeeeee!

Just chillin' today with my boys - DH away to watch footy at his friends. He goes back to work tomorrow These two weeks have flow past!

Hope you are all well, going to have a cuppa and bit of choc before DS2 wakes up!

Hope you are all well x x x

Happy New Year ladies

We've taken our tree down today Yommy, and all the cards. It does look so dull and bare. How exciting for your friend, maybe you could go over for a holiday? How long is dh away for?

Dp and I have been getting on better. He's really been helping out these past few days. WWe spent NYE at home with a couple of friends playing bowling on the wii- my arm still aches but I won!!

Went to my parents house on NYD and almost had a second christmas. Both my sisters were there and my nephews so we all swapped pressies and had a lovely roast. I took the dcs back over yesterday for the day so they coupld see more of their cousins. Have eaten far too much, feeling very bloated, but it's been lovely.

Lovely to hear you sounding so positive mumof2000. Lets hope we all have a less anxious year.

Well done for getting through the panic kurves. I hope your ds is feeling better today.

Ds is being a little git and not going to sleep. I am ready for them to go back to school now!

Morning Girls,

Anyone else agree that this is the most depressing day of the year??? Think its the whole christmas come down

Back to nurery tomorrow for DS! We all had an early night last night and DS1 is like a different little boys today! More early nights for him I think!!!! Did you managed to finally get DS over Blissa?? So glad you and DP are getting on better! Nothing worse that fighting or tension all the time! Sounds like you had a wonderful NY too!!!

Watch BB last night - anyone else watching??

Meant to ask - anyone got any new year resolutions??? I'm still trying to think of one, lol!

Hope everyone is well x x x