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Elderly parents

Aunt has to go to nursing home - she thinks she's coming home

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CrystalFlyer · 02/05/2021 19:41

My Aunt has been living with my mother, her sister-in-law. It's my mums house. My mum is 79 & my Aunt 89.

Thursday my aunt had a fall (due to her not using her walking stick) and has broken her wrist and has a bleed on her brain. So she's in hospital currently .

My mum has decided she can't come home. She can't look after her and she nursed her mother and my Dad as they died and she's not doing it again at her age. Which is fair enough.

My Aunt doesn't know yet. I obviously need to have conversations with the hospital as to what we do next but I'm just not sure how to tell my aunt she's not coming home. Someone in the hospital will have to do it as visitors aren't allowed and she's very hard of hearing and can't hear me on the phone.

Anyone have any experience with this? I think she would actually do well in a home and if possible we'd bring her home for the day occasionally.

I'm worried about the capacity issue as well. She's mentally ok so she would say she wants to go home but my mum is refusing to let her back in the house.

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PermanentTemporary · 18/05/2021 17:59

Oh I'm so sorry.

FinallyHere · 18/05/2021 18:00

Thinking of you @CrystalFlyer and hope it goes well for you and your family.

CrystalFlyer · 18/05/2021 18:02

Well the CT scan has showed there’s no blood going to her brain. The nurse said it’s not going to be long. My husband is driving my mom in.

The nurses said she was giving out all day about where the taxi was!

The same thing happened with her brother. He was due to be discharged to a nursing home but he passed away before leaving the hospital.

OP posts:
Mydarlingmyhamburger · 18/05/2021 18:08

Oh god op, it’s never ending is it? I’m so sorry x

UCOinanOCG · 18/05/2021 18:22

Oh my @CrystalFlyer, you really have had a time of it. Hugs for you.

user1498572889 · 18/05/2021 18:47

So sorry op xx

thesandwich · 18/05/2021 18:53

I’m so sorryxxxxx

MeadowHay · 18/05/2021 19:16

So sorry OP Flowers

TakeYourFinalPosition · 18/05/2021 19:30

I’m so sorry, OP Flowers

Floralnomad · 18/05/2021 19:32

💐

CrystalFlyer · 19/05/2021 00:48

Thanks all. Home for now. The nurse came in around midnight (she had a side/private room) and said she’s very settled and he couldn’t guarantee anything but If I wanted to go home to rest now would be a good time. They have my number and will call when things change.

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Mydarlingmyhamburger · 19/05/2021 16:04

How are you op?

FluffyFluffyClouds · 19/05/2021 20:05

Flowers and hugs and Brew

GU24Mum · 19/05/2021 20:15

Sorry to hear the update OP. Thinking of you.

StepawayfromtheBiscuittin · 19/05/2021 20:47

Sorry to hear your update OP.

Luckypoppy · 19/05/2021 20:56

So sorry.

CrystalFlyer · 20/05/2021 10:59

Thanks all. My aunt passed away peacefully yesterday. Funeral is tomorrow so I’m trying to get that all arranged.

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KihoBebiluPute · 20/05/2021 11:14

So sorry for your loss Flowers

sprinkleyumnut · 20/05/2021 11:35

I wasn't expecting that. I am so sorry OP 🙏💜

thesandwich · 20/05/2021 11:48

I’m so sorry for your loss. Hope your dm is ok.

Weenurse · 20/05/2021 11:59

So sorry 💐

Apileofballyhoo · 20/05/2021 16:07

Sorry for your loss, Crystal. Take it easy on yourself.

Toolateplanting · 20/05/2021 16:11

So sorry to hear that

oneglassandpuzzled · 20/05/2021 16:14

What a rollercoaster, Crystal. I'm so sorry about your aunt. You must all be emotionally exhausted.

Notaroadrunner · 20/05/2021 16:20

Aw I'm so sorry to hear about your aunt. I only saw this thread today and wish I'd seen it last week as we'd been through something similar. You've had a lot to deal with, and now having to organise the funeral will take its toll emotionally. Come Saturday you need to take a much deserved rest! Take care Flowers

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