Divorce solidarity thread - June 2026

[Gingerbread987]

Hoping for some solidarity here.
my husband told me this morning that he wants a divorce - I’m heartbroken. Things had been rocky for a while, but I was optimistic.
anyone else in the same boat who’d like to keep me company through the process?

Sorry to hear this @Flowersandthorns - do your young adult DC live at home full time and is the extra rooms for when they want to visit /stay over.....

Is there an OW in the picture do you think......

Handhold and Hugs to you......

@LilyDaisyRoseFern The children are all about to fly the nest but in a temporary way travelling/uni. Where I am right now is that I choose a house where I will be happy but they can be shoehorned in. I don't want too big a house when I am alone - something cosy would be good. No OW but there was one previously - the death keel for us - and his biggest regret!
We had a good today moving towards a different future.

Here I am joining a club I never wanted to be in.

Parallel lives 21 years of marriage, one shit holiday where I moved out after 1 night into another hotel, 2 teenagers and 10 days of him stonewalling me.before he said I think we should separate and sell the house.

2 days later he said we should get a quickie online divorce, I want to retire.

Since then he has been blaming me. I am distant. I am cold.

No.

I am done.

I’m sorry you’re in the club. How are you holding up day to day?

I am grieving but clear. If that makes sense. He is toxic to be around. I'm grey rocking snd staying out of his way.

Ive gone away in my van for a couple of weeks to get some space.
To rest.

I am exhausted.

@Goinghome2late yes that does make sense, and grief is exhausting isn’t it. I’m still very much between two minds. It’s my husband that said he wants a divorce, but then his actions don’t say that same thing so I’m finding the constant worrying and questioning exhausting.

Great idea to get away - do you have anything special/restorative planners whilst you’re away?

@Goinghome2late , hello sorry to hear you are going through the same, but welcome

What is everyone doing this weekend?
im at my first wedding since my husband announced he wanted a divorce…but it’s really not as bad as I thought it might be. I’m happy for my friends and it’s filling my cup to see other friends

Just told my DH I wanted a divorce today after two plus years of living with his addiction. He’s not a bad person he just can’t seem to stay clean. I feel so broken. Can’t tell the kids the truth because they’re a bit young for it so they think I’m the baddie. Anyone else in a similar position? I’ve been advised to get him to do weekly drug tests but I’m not sure how this will work in practice.

I’m glad you’re enjoying your friend’s wedding weekend. It gives me hope, in my head if not yet my heart.

Or they have an another woman in the background that hasn’t surfaced yet.

Mine did.

Lots of “I love you but am not in love with you’ bullshit and how he wanted to be on his own.

A month later he was seen out with a work colleague!

I have reached out to friends and will be moving into my friends spare room when I get back. Then flat sitting for 3 months. That should give me space from him. He is controlling amd toxic.

i want to leave my teenagers where they are. As untroubled as possible And he probably wouldn't go so why waste energy on that?