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Just how far would a man go to get a woman into bed?

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newlifenewname · 10/09/2007 10:07

I am quite surprised to find that I have probably turned into a one shag only date despite my efforts for this not happen, so please tell me just how sophisticated a man's tactics for bedding women might be?

My date went to a fair amount of expense taking me out, picking me up and taking me home over two dates and said some pretty forward looking stuff and now he seems to have disappeared.

I just want to know the reality.

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expatinscotland · 10/09/2007 18:58

WEll, I like it, too, Dior, but I attach too many feelings to it so I stuck to one-nighters so that way I didn't know them enough to get attached.

Dior · 10/09/2007 19:01

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Dior · 10/09/2007 19:01

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lou33 · 10/09/2007 19:04

the majority of ons i have had have been with people i already knew

especially as i got older

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newlifenewname · 10/09/2007 19:10

Self esteem or poor body image is difficult to sort quickly. I'm a lot better but I don't think I'll ever be 100 percent okay on this so I will have to try and deal with relationships alongside the body esteem issues. What do you reckon Dior? Interesting that you and I share a few issues here!

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newlifenewname · 10/09/2007 19:21

Check the photos in this profile notsure if link will work. Is like where's Wally?!

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NappiesGalore · 10/09/2007 19:39

hiya nlnn

i wouldnt be so pessimistic about body image issues... i used to be about as low as it gets and on self destruct and allow all sorts of crap to 'happen' to me... and i came out of it ok. (on the whole, i do have my sketchy patches re self esteem, even now, i have to admit)

i think you need to concentrate on YOU for a bit. maybe even use and abuse a few maleable peeps yourself... it really helps to give an insight into the mentality of the 'chased' - as i found out by accident a few times!

you have a hell of a lot to offer, and you DO know it really... theres no way you are going to grow old alone or any of the other wild and irrational fears you may have. trust me!

Cappuccino · 10/09/2007 19:44

my dh has just looked at your profile and said 'well she's not going to have any problem pulling'

I am currently not speaking to my dh

lou33 · 10/09/2007 19:49

lol cappuccino

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newlifenewname · 10/09/2007 20:03

I take it you mean my mumsnet profile rather than my match one?

God Nappies and Cappuccino you are making me feel better about myself already

Not sure what to say about your DH cino but lol anyway!

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pyjamaqueen · 10/09/2007 20:24

Although you seem to be feeling resigned to it possibly going nowhere now, just thought I'd add that I slept with dh on first date and we've been married 10 years now.

WelshBoris · 10/09/2007 20:25

Now I've clicked on your profile, I'll agree with the others. You are very attractive.

NappiesGalore · 10/09/2007 22:57

i shagged dp senseless on...ooh, i think i made it to second date. i played really hard to get! (i wasnt. i love shaggin and fancied the pants off him and boy, was it worth it!)

there is no formula for when its right to sleep with someone. its when it feels right. and if it doesnt work out, then ok. and if it does, then ok!

we are allowed to be physical, tactile, passionate, horny, rampant beings too, you know. hell, ive evn been to europe for a shag

and as for waiting forever and a day till you know theyre not going anywhere before you let your guard down, so to speak... well, what if you do all that and then its rubbish? what if you invest great swathes of yourself in someone only to find the chemistry is naught but a skidmark in a pair of old pants? balance is the key.

in fact, you know what? boris said it earlier; the key is to love yourself and be happy with yourself and that, along with your other attributes, That is irresistably attractive. let the good times roll, baby.

Pan · 11/09/2007 00:20

Mango - very funny, UQD..

Agree with others about not getting hooked on the sex thing..it isn't going to determine anything as to when you shagged each other.

How far would I go to get a woman in bed?? Probably as far as changing the bedding. Not much further than that........

thetoothfairy · 06/10/2007 12:31

Read this thread with interest. My problem is: I simply can't get the "mind games". I can see the issues about frequent phone calls/texts etc, but what I really find difficult is when I don't ring - although it would be nice to chat - for fear of being thought a stalker/needy. I don't know why we all go through this sort of dance except that if we don't we give out the wrong message because we're expected to do it!!!!

Help and thoughts please from you wise ones!!

charliecat · 06/10/2007 13:02

Ive just read all of this...so what did happen in the end?

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