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Just how far would a man go to get a woman into bed?

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newlifenewname · 10/09/2007 10:07

I am quite surprised to find that I have probably turned into a one shag only date despite my efforts for this not happen, so please tell me just how sophisticated a man's tactics for bedding women might be?

My date went to a fair amount of expense taking me out, picking me up and taking me home over two dates and said some pretty forward looking stuff and now he seems to have disappeared.

I just want to know the reality.

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WelshBoris · 10/09/2007 12:36
expatinscotland · 10/09/2007 12:44

Very well put, EricL.

And true.

WelshBoris · 10/09/2007 12:46

Yes Eric very very well said.

A relationship is meant to be fun at the begining, free flowing and exciting.

Not gutchurning, sweaty palmed and bloody frustrating.

If I'm 100% honest, I think you need to be single a little longer.

You need to love yourself before a man can love you, you need to like and respect yourself.

EricL · 10/09/2007 12:49

This is going to sound like i have only ever been with slappers (which i haven't - promise!) but i haven't ever really had to try that hard in the past. It always seems to just happen.

I always found it relatively simple to get a girlfriend and only really started doing the romantic things once they were ensnared with my rapier wit and boundless charm.

  • ahem *

Fortunately for me, in my line of work i seem to get women chatting me up all the time even though i'm not in the George Clooney Premier League - more like the old Vauxhall Conference league with healthy aspirations above my station.........

Just thought i would do a bit of manly boasting and do my bit to perpetuate the myth of inflated male egos.

OK ladies?

Good.

Job done. Im outta here.........

expatinscotland · 10/09/2007 12:50

Really, if it's that big a deal, then you should consider this a lesson learned and not sleep with someone so fast.

If you know there are going to be some serious feelings attached, then best to just tell him flat out when things start getting hot and heavy.

expatinscotland · 10/09/2007 12:52

I got to the point where I couldn't separate out my feelings when I slept with someone. So I either went with the one night stand or affair with definite end-date, such as the holiday fling, or just didn't go there.

I got caught out by a holiday fling once, we both did, and it scared the hell out of me. Still haunts me - and him - to this day.

But hey, playing with fire gets you burned.

NappiesGalore · 10/09/2007 13:13

oi eric, because they slept with you quickly and willingly, they were slappers?? most of them that is??

well HOW rude.

you old slapper!
[and a to show im not really up in arms, but having a dig anyway]

morningpaper · 10/09/2007 13:17

Sounds as though he was willing to do anything (including giving you lots of attention) to get you into bed
and you were willing to do anything (including sleep with him) to get him into a relationship

agree with Boris really

sorry newlife x

EricL · 10/09/2007 13:19

C'mon Nappies! I would never go with a slapper. I am a total snob really and i don't like the smelly poor people at all - and grimace every time one comes within two feet of my generous aura.

expatinscotland · 10/09/2007 13:21

oh, he was generous alright .

the phrase, 'it takes one to know one springs to mind'.

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newlifenewname · 10/09/2007 16:07

I have moved on. Okay so it took me a day and a half to do so and get over myself but I can see it all relatively clearly now so thanks.

Nappies, cheers for your lovely message darling x

We texted a bit this afternoon and he was all 'honey' this and how are you that... but no mention of future dates so I feel he's letting me down gently and I will leave it there.

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FluffyMummy123 · 10/09/2007 16:08

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newlifenewname · 10/09/2007 16:09

Oh and my pics were exactly that - there is a thread somewhere here from me about a change of hairstyle.

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FluffyMummy123 · 10/09/2007 16:09

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newlifenewname · 10/09/2007 16:10

I've been leaving it an hour

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lou33 · 10/09/2007 16:13

you are v attractive nlnn

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newlifenewname · 10/09/2007 16:14

Well thanks - I mean that because I really, honestly feel quite horrid. I like my hair.

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Cappuccino · 10/09/2007 16:14

yes you are

and you have a great rack it would seem

FluffyMummy123 · 10/09/2007 16:15

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Cappuccino · 10/09/2007 16:16

well I hate the English words

'boobs' fgs

'tits'

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newlifenewname · 10/09/2007 16:17

wtf is a rack?! Do I want to know? I Googled and there was a broken link to 'rate my rack'

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DaDaDa · 10/09/2007 16:18

I think it's behind you on the kitchen wall in one of the shots.

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newlifenewname · 10/09/2007 16:19

Ohhhhhhh, ok. I breastfed 2 children for 11 months and 1 for 6, my bra does all the work. I may have alarmed policeman date with this discovery.

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DaDaDa · 10/09/2007 16:21

As long as you didn't shout 'Geronimo' at the crucial moment I doubt they scared him too much.

Female misconception No. 2564: Men think there is such a thing as 'bad' breasts.

lou33 · 10/09/2007 16:30

oh is that where i am going wrong?

oops