Just how far would a man go to get a woman into bed?

[newlifenewname]

I am quite surprised to find that I have probably turned into a one shag only date despite my efforts for this not happen, so please tell me just how sophisticated a man's tactics for bedding women might be?

My date went to a fair amount of expense taking me out, picking me up and taking me home over two dates and said some pretty forward looking stuff and now he seems to have disappeared.

I just want to know the reality.

Thank you for that comforting thought

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i dont think men should do all the running tho

if i am interested enough i am more than happy to make the first move

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there is but i think she just needs an answer, once she has that she will be fine

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We're very simple creatures most of the time though Lou. If something seems too easy, there must be a catch somewhere.

can't believe everyone has ignored your joke, uqd! i thought it was funny

"I once asked a woman to see a collection of tropical fruits, and that worked. "

Were they in Mauritius...or Lidl?

I think you've had some good advice from Welshboris and morningpaper, they've summed it up quite well (but I do think WB put it a bit harshly).

It sounds like you need to be officially part of a couple before you dtd and there's nothing wrong with that. Any man who really liked you will wait until you feel ready. You've learned something new about yourself. Don't text or send any more pictures, keep your dignity.

Following Cod's comments I looked at your profile and you are very pretty. You won't have any trouble finding a partner and if this one's not the one for you someone else will be.

i guess i can see both pov on this as i have been guilty of the shag and hide as well

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oh i've done that too

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god know, look at me i'm single!

*no

I hate it Dior, for all the fun there is triple the heartache unless you are just ballsy and gutsy with a don't give a toss attitude. I start out like that but then as soon as I get nekkid I need reassurance.

Actually I think I just hit the nail on the head for myself there.

If I ever had to 'date' again I couldn't be bothered. I'd stick to one-nighters and Bob, the battery-operated boyfriend.

teh answer to that is dressing up costumes

Then don't get nekkid. Consider it a lesson learned. Just tell them when it starts getting hot and heavy that you aren't into casual sex. If they walk, well, hey, your feelings don't get hurt as much as if you did it with them.

bob is better than one nighters, guaranteed good time

But I'm into sex and there lies the problem. I'm not insecure about my sexual performance but somewhere along the line body image and self esteem and stuff gets all mixed up. Is a bit of a dichotomy.

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