Emmsys Onwards & Upwards part VII - hand-holders and hair-strokers welcome!

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Shiny new thread for us

The race is on for the first BFP!

God Barbie that does sound complicated, what a faff... Better do double up in a 'belt and brace' approach tho' ? Some lucky folk do feel magically better at 12 weeks and I did with DS so maybe you've now hit the blooming, lets clean the car and alphabeticse the CD collection phase - lucky you . LOL at you thinking I shave my boobs, not yet thank god, they may be swollen, veiny and heavy but hair free for now . We don't get told the sex up here (massive signs in scan rooms asking you NOT TO ASK). I like not knowing though, wondering it its a pink or blue one...

Scan's at 10.30 Neeko lucky pants and converse trainers are out and ready . Glad you've recovered with a stiff walk along the beach .

Vjay - aaargh! on your behalf but they're your rellys, they need to muck in if required, its in their job description (check under the small print . Hope they royally spoil you over the next few days.

MLS - if your lurking - Hi and we miss you!!!

Blue why the converse? So you can run away if necessary or because they look cool? I'll be with you mentally at 10.30. I'm sure all will be well. I'm with you on liking a surprise. The rush of love's so good they could hand you a monkey anyway Though I do undertand why other's want to know.

Wore them to all early scans, tis old supersticiousblue rearing her ugly head . They do rock tho' and I feel quite 'indie kid' when I wear them

Those are good reasons. You know I'll end up doing the same now that you've put idea into my head.I know I've never again worn the t-shirt and jeans combo that I wore last time so it's not just you. Hope you manage to sleep some well tonight.

DD's bathtime. Probably be back later.

hello ladies

blue loads of luck and fingers/legs/toes crossed for a lovely scan tomorrow

hoping thank you for thinking of me, our 'nursery' has been used as a guest room the last couple of weeks, so i think i have got over it being the babys room for now. the first person who slept in there i was very about, and i felt protective of the room, even though that sounds silly.

neeko barbie gracie and mrskate hope all is well in the medium pants world, and where has the lovely curly disappeared to or did i miss something?

had another meltdown over the weekend, i never knew i could be so emotional, i am usually very good at keeping myself in check. found myself crying whilst chopping vegetables (and there were no onions!) so cue another big talk with dp. he asked me where his smiley, sexy girl had gone, i said i dont know then someone at work today emailed me and asked me if i was ok, cuz he was worried about me. (huge open plan office so email is the best bet for anything private!). i thought i was doing a good job for the outside world but obviously not. he bought me chocolate this afternoon, how sweet, if only the world could be fixed with chocolate huh girls.

i am getting there anyway, its just taking me a lot longer this time round. have been thinking of you all a lot the last few days, and you have been my inspiration to keep going

hi MoonLovely to hear from you but sorry to hear about your meltdown. Won't be long until you're trying again and that should really help. Best to get all the visitors out the way before that room is needed for real.
Curly is on holiday but should be back soon. the thread has really quietened down recently, hasn't it?

those bloody hormones! keep thinking i'm ok then they kick in out of nowhere!

yes you are right, all the visitors are coming to check out the new house, but best to get them out of the way now and then i can have the room back for another bean. its kept me occupied anyway, having so many people around all the time.

yes it has been very quiet on here lately, we need mammoth posters curly and 4ever back!

Thank you girls for your kind words and thoughts, I will still lurk on a very regular basis
Blue I am so pleased that you now have a nice memory instead of just the sad ones for Saturday. Good luck for tomorrow's scan, what time is it?
Annie How are you holding up?
Vjay You are allowed to be fed up and no-one will think badly of you, not long now I just hope your LO doesn't make us wait ages or all his cyber aunties are going to get really stressed out
Neeko I know I also emailed you about this, but expect meltdowns they will sneak up on you when least expected just like all the hormones we experience post m/c, just breathe slowly and deeply and take each day at a time, we WILL all finish this journey in some form or another
hoping Are you going to do something to mark your EDD or just put head in sand and wish the day away?
Barbie I am sure it's just ligament pain, all that stretching your little body has to cope with Have you decided what to do with your hair now? That's a far bigger decision than hospitals What an absolute nightmare the medical system seems to be over there, no wonder you are thinking of coming home to have him/her! I agree with the doubling up, a hassle but worth it just to cover all the bases.
cupcake Any symptoms to report?
4ever Glad you are still taking it easy, miss you lots
Gracie Well done on the step forward, reading a pg book, dead proud
Moon So glad there is someone else looking out for you at work, and a man, normally so insensitive to us women! Take it easy on yourself and enjoy the chocolate x

Just a quickie post to say good luck for tomorrow blue Would someone mind texting me as I'm out of the office all day tomorrow, away from a computer. Thank you

Also buddha so to hear about your SIL but please keep in touch! We're friends on FB anyway, so no excuses!

Big kisses to everyone else

Hello everyone. curly's back in town... for a couple of days anyway and then I'm off on my hols I've missed you all loads!!

I'll catch up properly tomorrow but just wanted to say that my hand is here to hold for blue. Have a lovely scan tomorrow honey. I'll be lurking for news xxx

Blue thinking of you for your scan today. can someone text me too as I'm at work today.

Hello curly! You were missed!

buddha thanks for the well done, I wasn't sure a Mumsnet book counted! Its evenset out exactly like a Mumsnet thread!

Barbie It all sounds very complicated out there. I guess you double up at this stage then if you're still worried you can consider running home back to the UK later on if you want to.

Moon good to hear from you. Its good that you have someone at work keeping an eye on you too.

Right off to work.

decided how to cope with my EDD next week. I've decided the last 9 months never happened. no MCs, no problems with the house, no job worries, nada.As far as DH and I are concerned, we started ttcing last night.

and so far it is working...so far. My lost angels are all being looked after by my granny, who was a midwife so probably makes a better job of it than I would so I don't need to worry about them

so for a few days I shall be all zen and available for handholding will post properly soon!

Yay Curly's back! You've been missed! Hope you had a nice time but let the hugepostfest begin

Blue not long now...

*Hoping sounds like a plan. I'm all for anything that allows you to cope.

Gracie Hope your dining room's looking lovely. Don't work too hard.

Sabs Hope you're well. Not long til you stop work now.

Cupcake How's the 2ww going? Any symptoms yet? All that BD must have done it this time. It's your turn for sure.

MrsKate Are you in hiding after your BFP? Hope you're ok.

Vjay Is our nephew showing any signs of wanting out yet or are you making it all too comfy for him?

Barbie Hope you've made your hospital decision.

Iggy haven't heard from you in a while. Hope the readathon jury service is going well.

Buddha Hi. Not long now til your scan. Fingers crossed.

4ever Hello lovely positive lady. Hope things are rosy for you today.

Speaking of rose big waves to Mermaid and Jools Moon Hope that lovely man at your work keeps up the chocolate delivery.

Well it seems my MS is kicking in as i had to sit down in the shower this morning then have a 5 min lie down I should have been more careful what I wished for. Can I join the texting party? I also have to go into work today for a while

Have a good day everyone. Big waves to those I've missed

Was checking on blue but then realised im 3 hours a head and have to wait longer.....

neeko ha ha, you sound like me, you wish for something and then when it happens it isnt nice! sorry you are feeling bad but its a good sign!!!

Well after feeling fab yesterday thinking symptoms had left i woke this morning feeling rough and was sick every where

curly im glad you are back lovely, did you have a good time? Shall a few of us start a little thread so we dont annoy the other girls, i for one want mermaid and jools back..and dont want to keep going on about being pregnant on here...what do you think? that way this thread can stay nice and fun and we might get the others back???

moon i wish somebody would bring me chocolate dont worry about putting on a brave face all the time, sometimes it does us good to let the smile slip and show the world that we are having a bit of a tough time...you dont have to say why, but hey if guys want to give you free chocolate it doesnt hurt

hoping im glad you have come up with a plan to cope...remember though if you need support we are here, yipee ttc again!

Better go clients are needing me .....

Hello all. V quick catch up from me.

Had v. Tearful weekend. Was not expecting it... Thought I was ok by now and am mid cycle... Anyway, got positive opk on fri, but didn't bd till sun hence the misery on sat pm and Sunday. So guess am out for this month already.

blue good luck for scan.

Everyone else have a big wave from me. Am kind of lurking and also still on jury service so only on phone.

Xx

Neeko sorry x posted! Reading is good, but on a case at the mo! Hope you are ok x

iggy you are not out..im sure you get a surge 24 hours before ov...so that means you are still in with a chance, hope you are feeling better now x

Just popping in to say all the best to blue but I guess she won't see it now as she'll probably be waiting
I can totally sympathise with the superstition over outfits too- I wore this really cute dress and boots to the scan when we found out baby had died... I don't know why but I felt like if I dressed up we might get good news. I definitely won't be doing that next time! Gonna find the oldest shabbiest clothes I can!

Neeko and Buddha as always, there are symptoms galore but I'm desperately trying to ignore them as I've been fooled by them the last 2 months! Only 6 sleeps til I can test

Iggy and Moon sorry to hear about the meltdowns have a massive hug and hair-stroke. Really hope you are both being well looked-after.

Hoping congrats on starting to ttc for the first time ever!

Barbie I don't know if I'm speaking for everyone here but I don't want you upduffed girls to go to another thread As I'm always saying, you give us all hope... but I want our lurkers back too.

Welcome back Curly

Really? I thought we would need to have bd on sat? Thanks barbie feel bit better now...

Just it sometimes catches you by surprise...

Hope you feeling bit less rough now? X

cupcake I have everything crossed for you for this month.. I have a good feeling about august for you x x

iggy feel loads better now thanks! I think you can bd for 72 hours after positive opk...fingers crossed for you and you too cupcake!

cupcake dont know what to do for the best, im going to post any concerns on my fb to blue mm and mollie we have a little thing where they help me out when i have mini melt downs, i just dont want to keep going on about things because i really miss mermaid jools and mls trying to go back to the light hearted banter im used too giving....

blue Will be in there now!!!

I know barbie we definitely need some more light-hearted banter Pass the rosé! (Non-alcoholic for you of course )

Thanks so much iggy, I have everything crossed too (but pretending like I don't care ) and don't despair yet lovely, as we always say it's not over til TEW sings! I remember Scorpio saying she thought they'd bd on completely the wrong day and she fell that month (where is Scorpio by the way, anyone heard from her? She must be having her 20 wk scan soon too...)

Hello girls! Once again I lurked & just had to post!

Firstly, dont despair Igs it can still happen! Good luck to Cupcake too!

Just wanted to say to Barbie (even tho you didnt say mention my name!!!! ) that dont dare go a leaving & feeling PG talk is pushing us all away Mrs! I cant speak for mermaid mls and jools but will try to anyway(!) Bi part of taking a break is cos ttc as you know, becomes all consuming & takes over our lives. If we are also MNing & having random worries/thoughts about other Emmsys situations as we cook/wee/drive to work, it really can take over our RL. As we know, stress/anxiety is not good for ttc so think most of us have stepped back to gain back some control, switch off from the obsessing for a while, & remember & enjoy, the good bits of RL! Hearing you, Curly, Blue, Gracie, Neeko & all oth medium panters (& big panters) tales mainly brings a smile to our faces. Admittedly there are moments of but mainly cos we are thinking 'that should be me' not cos we're not happy for you. Its easier to be happy for you then some pg in RL cos we done this journey together & know what you all went through to get in the medium pants. Sometimes its hard, like when Barbie spoke of her scan & DH face, I pictured my DH face at the countless scans we had over our pgs, but it dont mean we dont wanna hear it! On the same aspect, I think sometime us small panted girls sometimes worry about being too negative, down or sad, when great news is being shared or the thread is upbeat cos dont want to 'steal thunder' or 'bring things down'. BUT, this is what we are all here for. To pick each other up during the lows, and share the highs. Dont take this wrong, but if you all dissapered to discuss your pg worries elsewhere it would feel like an exclusive club that us 'failed small panters' couldnt join til we qualify, and that reinstates the horrible pitied feeling that we are trying to escape in RL! I hate that im the only one of all my mates/family without kids, and its like an excl club 'you wait til you have kids then you'll know about tired' type stuff! Basically cos we been through it all together, you girlys can say what you like without us taking it wrong cos we ALL know what this journey has been like!

Anyway - mammoth post for all that have missed me! Im off back to lurking! NOT cos I dont wanna hear stuff, cos I want to remember who I am & try & relax about ttc! Main reason I come on was to see if any news on Blue yet!!!! See? I still worry even when absent! xxxxxxxxxx

sorry 4ever i didnt mean to forget you! not that i forgot you, just mearly didnt have time to write your name Glad you are lurking!!!