Emmsys Onwards & Upwards part VII - hand-holders and hair-strokers welcome!

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Shiny new thread for us

The race is on for the first BFP!

I'm here barbie and have a matching headache - grrr. Hope you're feeling better, I find ice cold water with lemon helps.

I've spoken to Mollie on fb to give her my support but echo gracie's point that its just bloody rude tracking someone down on here to use it 'against' them. Doesn't she appreciate the heartache Mol and all of us have gone through and to make her feel she has to leave us just when things are really good and lo is round the corner, well shame on her. I've summoned up my best High School dirty look and I was the queen of them!

Thanks for kind thoughts for yesterday, it was actually fine, I met my dear friend for lunch and she announced after 14 months of trying (started trying on her honeymoon) that she is now 10 weeks pg . It was the best news to wipe away any residual sadness and I am absolutely over the moon for her. When God closes a door, he does indeed open a window (just been to church, feeling a bit spiritual today ).

Hope everyon'es enjoying the good weather, if it is indeed good where you are. I'm about to put my wellies on and get stuck into the garden.

later!

p.s. annie hope your balloon release went well and you had a moment xxxx

blue that is such great news about your friend! Loved your little Maria Von-Trapp moment there too (the door/window quote - we're going to see Connie Fisher in Sound of Music in Cardiff in a couple of weeks, yay!) You are right though, there are always things to be grateful for if we look for them Glad your EDD had that silver lining.
It is lovely weather here too...I should think so too after yesterday's torrential rain! (That sure made the wedding fun!) dh is cooking up a mermaid special - watercress soup for us to eat in the garden. (I miss mermaid)

You feeling any better Barbie?

I love gracie's idea of hiding out on another board! We could all name-change and we'd be like spies

I like your idea too gracie, we'll do anything to protect you mollie

Well was feeling fed up today, (feel quite bad writing that!), it's only cos I'm fat and tired. So I've put on dh's ipod, and he's got some really good music on it, which has cheered me up, music always does that for me , so I'm sat here, typing away, whilst bouncing in time to snow patrol .
Your friends news cheered me too blue

Glad you are bouncing away again Vjay...and guess what, it's AUGUST! The month you're going to meet your lovely baby boy

Vjay - I feel 'Don't stop me now' by Queeen would be good for you just now but maybe a bit early for 'Push it' by Salt n' Pepa . Oh am on a roll now, 'I love to move it, move it (as featured in Madagascar) and oh I'll shut up me thinks.

Hi cupcake - how was the wedding? Did you end up with 5 different types of drink at one point? I always do at these things . Hope your enjoying your dab-hand-in-the-kitchen DH's soup!

Hi all. Guests's are gone so I'm back.

Mollie I am so and about what has happened to you. A number of my relatives know I use MN but I'd be devastated if they tracked me and used it against me. I hope that your relative is proud of their actions and never finds themself in a position like we've been in. I believe strongly in karma so this may well come back to bite them in the bum. Hope they can handle that. Don't worry though lovely lady - we'll find a way! P.S. Good luck with the scan when it comes. My hand is here.

Ginger belated sorry that AF got you. Hope she's packing her bags now.

Blue and Annie hope you coped ok at the weekend. These times are sad but it's so important that we remember.

Blue not long now. My hand's still here.

Cupcake Hope the wedding was good despite the rain. How any days left at work now? FWIW I miss Mermaid too. It's been some holiday she's had in Normalsville and it's time she came "home" (Same goes for you MLSlurkypants!) Barbie Hope you're feeling better now. You've had a right miserable time of it recently.

I had a mini meltdown on Friday night. Cue an hour-long sob-fest! I think it really just hit me how much I have to lose again and how scared I am. Things have been quite pressured in RL reecently and it all came to a head. DH had forgotten how much of a hormonal woman I can be and was at a bit of a loss but as always the storm has passed and has left me calmer. Hormonal incidents are a good sign, aren't they?

I hope everyone is well and managed a weekend with some personal sunshine in it. Big waves to you all, especially the lovely 4ever

Meant to say Vjay You're allowed to feel fed up. You've waited a long time for this and impatience is setting in. Don't worry, we're all impatient for your DS to be born too

I second Neeko - vjay you're entitled to feel whatever you like I'm bursting to see a piccie of our new cyber nephew

moon if you're lurking - I know the nursery in your house is a place of sadness for you now. Just to let you know I finally finished decorating my craft room yesterday and I can't tell you how much better it felt. Until I'd plonked in the tailor's dummy and the sewing machine it was a nursery without a baby. Now it's a space for me and that hole in my life is a little less visible. thought I would share as I can remember feeling exactly as you described and this is something that has helped.

cupcake good for you with emailing mn HQ! Dh thought it was a superb idea - he wants to know if MN takes the idea on can he contribute a daddy of lost angels perspective? (oh god typing that just made me cry...)

buddha/mollie keep us posted, even if it's by email - your lo has a whole flock of cyber aunties who will want to know you and they are doing great!

my EDD for #1 is next week - this is not fun

Hello all,

Soory not be around much...feeling a little wobbly and thats not just my tummy!

I have been feeling rubbish and the yesterday i got really bad pains, almost to the point when i had to walk slightly bended over they keep coming and going but keeps reminding me that there is something going on in my tummy ....I hope and prey its growing pains, i know that this is the week that lots is meant to happen in there...Hence me keeping away, i didnt want to moan or complain but now im back for a cheeky little bit of reassurance!

vjay oh my god, its the month you will meet your little boy! What a journey eh? I for one can remember way back in the early days when all this seems an impossible veet and such a long way off, now look at us. I will cry so much when the baby is born, getting emotional now thinking about it!

How is everyone else, im posting quick cos i should be working ....back this evening hugs to all xxx

Morning all
Neeko and blue the wedding was lovely and yes blue I did do some drinking, and lots of eating of brie...if there is a little bean in the oven I haven't been a very good Mummy to it so far!! Best thing was no baby overload at this wedding like the last one

Neeko I'm sure the hormonal episode is a good sign!! But glad you are feeling a little more zen now. I know a lot is at stake and that must feel so overwhelming to you but remember we're here every step
I have 19 days left in work

Moon I meant to say yesterday sorry you've been feeling this week. Really hope things are better this week.

barbie sorry you've been feeling wobbly too..I'm sure baby barbie is just getting comfy and as you say, it's about the right time now for you to streeeetch..you'll be in those big pants so soon!

Gracie13weeks how are you doing?

List update...ginger wasn't sure exactly what day you are so please alter if incorrect!

Small pants

cupcake ttc#1 cd 25
iggypiggy ttc#1 cd 19
Jools ttc#1 cd 14
Sophable ttc#2 cd 14
bakingqueen ttc#1 cd 14
MLS ttc#2 cd 13
4ever ttc#1 cd 10
hoping ttc #1 cd 7
gingermumi ttc#4 cd 3?
Mermaid ttc#2 cd ?
Bluemoon

Medium pants

MrsKate BFP 26th July
Neeko BFP 19th July
becks BFP 8th June
Barbie BFP 6th June
Curly BFP 4th June
GracieGirl BFP 30th May

Big pants

VJay bigpants due 26/08/09
Lionstarbigpants due 26/09/09
Sabsbigpants due 26/09/09
Anniebigpants due 1/12/09
Buddhabelly due 16/12/09
Bluesatinsash due 18/12/09
Scorpio due 25/12/09
mm1509 due 5/1/10

Morning lovely ladies! Only a quickie from me, had a quick lurk/catch up or would take me forever when I make a proper return!

Wanted to say that thoughts were with Annie and Blue for your EDDs at the weekend.. Always remember, they'll never be forgotten - big hugs to you both..xxx Hope church helped Blue - really touched me that we are in your prayers too xxx

Also, saw the e-mail & most miffed & at poor Mollies situation & stalker relative. We WILL continue our journey together & be there holding your hand when your lo comes.. Blummin cheek of this person who clearly has no clue.. Big hug to you xxx

Big group hug to the rest of you! Thanks for all being amazing & gorgeous as ever! xxxxxxxxxxxxx

Still taking time out, feeling relaxed and optimistic but dealing with one day at a time still xxxxxxxxxx Back soon! xxxxxxxx

Morning all! DH is home today and we are decorating the dining room.

Vjay you are entitled to feel fed up, unlike most people you have been pregnant a long time if you count the weeks with your lost LO's too you've probably done an extra 4 months. Not long to go now though. Can't wait to see a photo of your baby.

Blue LOL at your music selections for giving birth!

Neeko mini meltdowns are perfectly normal, I hope you are feeling a bit happier today.

Hello Cupcake yes 13 weeks today going by my AF date. Though the scan put me ahead of that, not really sure how that works, though I imagine that just means I have a tall Bean. I'm glad you enjoyed the wedding, brie and alcohol before you know you're pregnant don't count!

Hoping we'll all be here to hold your hand for your LO's EDD.

I've bravely ventured into my first pregnancy book, though its Mumsnets "mums on pregnancy" so techniquely its still just mumsnetting.

Waves to MLS, Moon, 4ever, mrskate, mermaid.

ginger I just found your post and realised I'm way off- you must be about day 5 or 6, sorry..

Also, hoping that's a great idea to have a dad's perspective on mc in 'our book'...we'll definitely have to suggest that if it happens

Curly are you back?? Hope you had a lovely lovely weekend with family

to 4ever

gracie stop decorating and come and molly cuddle me!!! Tell me the pains are normal....im slowly starting to lose my mind!

4ever i always smile when i see you have posted...im glad the one day at a time approach is working for you, chin up babe!

Whoops forgot i was meant to be at work have to go but will be on tonight as dh has football training xxx

Barbie I'd decided I'd done my fair share of whinging on here about pain early on in my pregnancy after 4 weeks of abdominal pains. But if you really want to know ....... Yes all sorts of strange stomach pains and I seem to either have really sharp sciatica pain to right buttock radiating down right thigh giving me a strange walk or on some days its lower left muscular type back pain, never both but never neither! I've come to the conclusion that being pregnant is going to hurt and feel strange at times and its going to get worse as I get bigger (not thinking about the birth bit yet) so I'm just going with it and not getting too stressed.

Oh and I'm not actually doing much decorating, DH is being very protective of me and isn't letting me do much. Make the most of it I say!

MrsKate I found a tip for back pains that seems to work for me - sleeping with a pillow between your thighs/knees, its supposed to keep everything lined up a bit better.

Ooh I just had another reply to my email from Justine, MD of MN! She said they will keep the pressure on the publishers... and also that there is a chapter on miscarriage in their new 'Guide to Pregnancy' which comes out in a few weeks you big and medium-panters will have to let us know if that's any good

ooh Cupcake you do have friends in high places , justine's been on the telly and everything . Great idea and really hope it helps women out there lost in the hell hole that is mc.

Gracie and Barbie - I share your pain -literally. Agree pillow between knees is fab as is double sided pillow for bump as it keeps everything 'bouyant' and avoids pressure on your sciatic nerve. I'm waiting to see if I'll need the support belt again as my pelvic grdining was agony last time around. Really think my 'fit flops' are helping this time though...

Hoping - your craft room sounds just perfect. A sanctury for you to lose youself in and create beauty at the same time . You will be showing your lo round it one day too, showing off all your creations .

Neeko - its good to have a meltdown now and again, gives the hormones a good clear out and as you say you feel v. calm afterwards. The early weeks are just torture but hang in there, keep busy, keep positive and grab an extra hug from your DD .

4ever - lovely to hear from you and glad your feeling more relaxed this week, keep it up!

News from blue HQ is that I've got shingles . Thankfully mild dose just left of left boob but sore and reminiscint of early breastfeeding as my left boob is on fire! Felt poorly most weekend but put it down to pg in general. Rash appeared on Thurs. put put it down to shaving. Doctor hasn't given me anything and just told me to take paracetomal. On the plus side its stopped me fretting about scan tomorrow....

Hi girls...just had a sudden burst of energy and cleaned the inside of the barbiemobile, removed halve of the desert and then stripped and washed all the bedding and now its hanging on the line....i do hope that the doctor is right in that now should be the time i start to feel more normal and get all the energy back!

Dh made me eat a full breakfast this morning as i normally dont eat in the morning and i have to say i havent felt sick so much and feel soooo much better...must be something in the fact one should eat breakfast.!

Only now cause i dont feel so sick and have energy im panicking that im losing my symptoms cant bloody win....

anyhow...

hoping i always wanted a craft room I bet in a few months you will be moaning that you have to change it back!!!

blue i read your post and thought you shaved your boobies! i know that hair grows in stranges places when pregnant but that would be silly hope you get better soon and i cant wait to see your pics from tomorrows scan, are you finding out the colour????

neeko im the queen of meltdowns so i know where you are at right now..a lie on the sofa with a gossip mag seems to work for me!

mrskate things ok with you? havent seen you for a while, hope the pain is better and you are calmer

gracie thanks for reassurance, cant believe you are in week 13 i love it!!!!

Remember i told you about dh mums partners daughter? (confusing i know!) and she is pregnant and due a week or so before me? well she went for her 12 week scan and they have put her back a week and now she is due on the same day as me i would like to have scan on sunday and be pushed forward a few days so we dont clash! (dont want to be pushed back any more, this 12 weeks has been the longest of my life!)

very quiet here today....vjay have you gone into labour????

I spotted neeko and kate on another thread...well done girls for being brave enough, im not moving from here!

gracie how is the decorating going?

No barbie I'm here .

I'm in a bit of a panic, the plasterer is coming tomorrow to plaster the living room, and my MIL, SIL and her 3 kiddies arrive tomorrow too, but I don't know what time. The plasterer said he'd be done by 1pm, but I then can't move any of the furiniture back in. DH doesn't finish work until very late, so when the rellys arrive, after driving for 8 hours plus, they will have to help me move all the furniture!!! There's nowt I can do about it
Oh well, RL is such fun sometimes

You guys are making me very emotional and excited, looking forward to seeing your cyber nephew, that is so sweet

Vjay any relatives who visit someone who is almost 9 months pregnant should expect that sort thing! I did it to someone yesterday who called round to drop some stuff off at my house and they ended up helping DH move 2 cupboards from the dining room.

barbie I'm with you on that opinion, I'm not shifting, antenatal threads are scary!

Thanks gracie you are quite right! And as for antenatal threads, all the ladies on mine have started to pop, and then tell us their birth stories! I'm only a lurker on there though, don't post too much, I feel much safer on here

vjay im sure your guest will be fine with helping, promise you wont try to move anything yourself!

gracie the threads are off putting arent they? im more than happy here if the other girls dont mind listening to the odd pregnancy chat!

Ive been trying to sort out hospitals to give bith in I have to have an answer for sunday so that my doctor can open my file in requested hospital....i for one want to wait until after my scan but hey ho....

Well it seems that ony two hospitals are equiped to deal with prem babies, anything before the 34 week mark. Both of these are government hospitals and you have to registar before week 16 to get in. This means that i have to redo all the test/ scans etc there...which means cheaper appointments etc but after reading up on the care at the hospitals i just dont fancy it...tbh i want to have someone who at least speaks english and offer the same kind of care as the uk....some of these hospitals take baby away from you for 24 hours/ allow resricted access and wont allow dh to be present at the birth....but and here's the big thing if i dont regisiter there and anything happens they can refuse me entry. There is a story in the local press about a lady who nearly lost her baby after going into labour at 32 weeks and the hospitals refusing her

Most ladies are saying the best thing to do is to register there anyway and then double up on appointments in both gov and choosen private hospital. My insurance would cover both but what a bloody hassle

Part of me is really thinking seriously about returing to the uk...but then again i would have to return about 30 weeks in case of any problems....starting to stress out a bit now and im not even 12 weeks

Hi
barbie That all sounds really complicated but I think doubling up is the way to go. Meltdown is over for now and feeling quite positive after a long walk down the beach. Bit colder than your beach though

Vjay That's what relatives are for Hope your living room is approaching normality or at least has furniture in it!

Gracie I find the ante-natal threads scary too even though there's a lot on mine who've had MC. I just feel that if I post all my pg thoughts on here - and I have so many - it will keep our lurkers away and I miss them

Blue Sorry to hear about the shingles. Hope you're not suffering. I'll be thinking of you tomorrow. What time's the scan so I can focus my thoughts?