Feisty & Fabulous at 40+ - the continuing adventures of TTC

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Erm hope this will do as a continuation thread. Hello to anyone new to the thread. All welcome... xx

Oo! Ooo! I have tried preseed and I'm not sure, but I had a very strange cycle after which may have been a chemical or early mc.
Didn't have any tests and was very busy so didn't really register.
That was when I had pain and a burst cyst, so I wasn't sure if that caused the trouble. I still think I may have also been pg and missed it.
So ramble, ramble, very expensive, but worth a try. Also grapefruit juice is supposed to improve the CM, not just quantity but the PH as well.

poor you rowing, that night sounded terrible. Hope the anti-b's kick in straight away.

kiwi preseed is so completely indispensable (as (Charlie and) Lola might say). I can't imagine how anyone could ttc without it...! Apparently it not only doesn't damage sperm but it actually encourages it to get to the right place by creating channels the same way fertile CM does or something like that. You can get it from accessdiagnostics.co.uk

ps. i seem to remember they overdo a bit the quantities you need ...big risk of slipping on bathroom floor...!

Rowing - Sounds if you have been in the wars hope the neds take affect soon and your back fighting fit.
There seem to be alot of viral infections around at the moment lots of poeple at my work are off with the sickness bug trying to aviod it.
NOt sleeping very well at the moment and feeling a bit stressed. Woke up at 4 yesterday and 5 today...(could have had a chat with you rowing). Think everything (situation with DS GF, DH op and everything else) is taking it's toll.
Come on someone give us some good news.
x

Hi all,

Sorry been off for a while. We were away with PIL who flew home yesterday. We now have the house to ourselves, the call of the monitor cannot be ignored [I now understand why everyone says TTC sex is different] but I have a stinking cold and want to sink under a self indulgent duvet and send DH to snore in the spare room ...

[TFLS hands tissues to rowing and commiserates]. Hope those antibiotics have really kicked in now.

Sorry to hear about AFs where they've arrived .

Thanks for all the advice. Still trying to get over mental picture of summer as a Pekinese chewing her slipper .

spiral - sorry you're having such a rough time. I'm another one who thinks all that stress could be playing havoc with your cycle. I think we all tend to worry too quickly that it's age related. It must be really tough for your DH at work but really tough on you as well. I like summer's cow pat image. It's horrible but you'll get through it one way or another (mind you, jumping over is far preferable!).

luckywebby hope your DH is recovering well.

tetley sorry you're feeling low. I'm not surprised that you burst into tears after your appointment - probably all the pent up stress and emotions that build up worrying about how the appointment will go, the frustration of dealing with such an automan of a doctor plus the inevitable indignity of the exam. I guess it just puts you in a vulnerable position. I don't know about you but I'm a pretty private person (with the exception of Mumsnet!) and find it difficult having to talk about the really personal stuff with a stranger, especially when it sounds like you had the Doc Martin of the fertility world!

Anyway, it's tipping down with rain here. So passing round hot chocolate to all.

Kiwi sorry forgot to add that I've heard really good stuff about preseed. The one person I know who has used it got pregnant pretty quickly.

There was a thread with loads of endorsements about it recently - will go off to find.

Here you go.

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/pregnancy/838227-What-did-you-do-differently-to-help-you-get-pregnant

hi all i was looking for a bit of advice if poss had HSG on friday everything seemed fine have been temping for the last few months to help define an OV day as my cycles have been very eratic and the last 4 months its been cd13 even when the length of my cycles have varied so have been organising BD in accordance with these days but did temp this morn and had had a V large spike indicating OV but i'm only CD11 can an HSG effect your cycle sorry if this is a really dumb question

More streaks and cramps today. Am 99% sure that this is NOT implantation but actually bloody AF coming incredibly early - am now going to make appointment with GP to discuss the luteal phase thing.

I'm really p*ssed off now - what's the point in ovuating and getting the troops up there on time - if my stupid body is going to then decide to have a period a flippin' week early!

Thanks everyone for the comments about preseed - Tetley, you made me smile at the slipping in the bathroom comment. Hope those of you battling colds, earache etc wake up tomorrow feeling better. Rowing, how YOU doing? in a Joey Tribbiani voice. Hippy, hope it's not AF - would be so nice if it was implantation. We need someone to get a nice bfp to cheer us all up.

Hi everyone,

Funny thing just happened. I was boiling the kettle and thought, 'what's that funny noise?'. It was my deaf ear trying to work again, but only letting in little bits of noise, so it made the kettle boiling sound very peculiar. Bless the little ear, it's trying to work again. It's cheered me up a bit that it is doing its best.

Hippy, implantation bleeding can go on for a few days I think it tends to be pinky or browny rather than bright red, but even then bright red could still be implantation. Is it actually getting heavier? I don't know about you, but my heaviest days are the first or second.
Look at these links
www.askbaby.com/implantation-bleeding.htm
babymed.com/FAQ/Browse.aspx?53
YOu never know, this could be very good!
Hope it is.

Lucky, I wish I had known you were up, I could have driven you nuts raving on about my ears. Mind you my typing would have been like this
due to all the shaking. I'm so sorry that you are feeling stressed and waking up at night. I think it is very good that you are aware of it and the causes, because you know where to start addressing the problem. It sounds as if you need a gigantic hug and time for yourself.
Do you do any destressing stuff: exercise, yoga, meditation, EFT, herbal remedies?

TFLS hello, how lovely to hear from you. I hope you had a lovely break.
It has been so busy on here recently, well done for managing to keep up.

Tetley have you recovered from the examination? You sound a bit more cheery.
Preseed is odd isn't it. It comes in such a large applicator and it's annoying that you can't really save any. I suppose it is possible, but would be very fiddly.

Earoma, I don't remember my cycle being affected by the HSG, but I did have bleeding after but I think it was bleeding from the physical intrusion of treatment rather than hormonal.
I have never managed to temp successfully, so not sure about that.
Did you manage to get any bding in before today, some women fall pg after an HSG so you never know...

Oh I nearly forgot. AF

Must finish the message.
AF arrived today, I was expecting her tomorrow because I took the bleeding after the IVF to be CD1.
Very pleased cycle has gone back to pretty much normal, at least we can plan the FET (frozen embryo transfer) quite accurately.
Bodies are amazing aren't they.

Hello everyone,
Rowing your cold sounds horrendous and it's funny to hear someone happy on here when the AF arrives! But that's great because when you are better you can go and collect those cosy eggs. I have to join you and FLS I'm going down with sniffles now, kindly donated by DD. Pass the tissues. Nice to see you back and so nice to hear you get on well with PIL.
I sometimes wonder why we want another child since our families aren't such a model but then maybe that's the reason why to create a stable environment for our chicks. My Ma is visiting and she is awful at times.

Sorry earoma I don't know anything about HSG hope you find out it sounds good though if it opens everything up and makes you more receptive to sperm.

I am also going to try the preseed next cycle, don't know when that will be though as don't know where AF is after mc - visiting a few of you by the sounds of it. Isn't it the worsst feeling having AF and a cold all at the same time - men should try it and see what life can really be like.

Lucky I hope things get a bit less stressful for you, it sounds like you've got a lot on your plate.

tetley I hate examinations they can be so humiliating. Babies are so emotive and yet all the stuff around it is so clinical. I'm sure a lot of Doctors have their emotions surgically removed when they qualify, Doc martin strikes a chord with so many people, plus it's stressful having to look after a DC at the same time (been there too) and trying not to let them see you cry because they get upset. That bit's over now though, when do you get the results?

We're on for our first visit on 19th.

Hello there to all TTC,
I am new to this thread and am embarking on TTC no 2. I had no 1 at 43 and something in the air is trying to tell me to have another go. V sceptical about this as i am 46 now but willing to have a go and TTC for the next six months or so only. I put a time limit on it and am hoping nature has her way much as she did before. I had 3 major mcs before my DS1 came into the world and am so grateful for that it seems greedy to want another. DH is v supportive but am anticipating a roller coaster of emotions.

Fingers crossed for us all - there is always hope!
Woodelf

Good luck woodelf (great name!). I was just wondering whether you should be on the July bus by now? I'm over there (just visiting as I heard there was cake!) and there are plenty of seats.

Good luck to everyone still on the June bus and still testing.

Welcome woodelf!

Girls??I can?t believe I?m writing this.

I got a BFP

I can?t believe I?ve just written that. I was absolutely convinced AF was on its way, have had cramping since last week. The weekend was torture because I just wanted it to start, and the slight cramping went on and on. I went to the loo so many times we ran out of loo roll

You are all the first to know, OH is at work, had blazing row this morning. Crikey. I'm gobsmacked

earoma - sorry no knowledge re HSG.

rowing - good news re your cycle being back to normal. Was thinking of ordering some preseed but now have a mental picture of it arriving in a NoNails size container so not so sure...

Sorry the cold has got you as well summer. [TFLS passes tissues and Olbas Oil over].

hippy - it must be frustrating. But you did make me laugh with your comment about "getting the troops up there on time!"

Welcome woodelf. Lovely to hear that you had your first at 43.

Tetley yipppeeeeee do dandy! That's fantastic news. So pleased for you.

Wow. I guess the row will get forgotten now

Have you picked yourself up off the floor yet?

No way! I just fainted! It finally happened we have a BFP in our midsts.
Fantastic news Tetley, is this your au naturelle cycle. You clever little au naturelle person. I think it was the crysanthemum you wore on your hat the other day.
Well done, congratulation. Big kiss. Mwah!
Hee hee about the blazing row, he will be very surprised when he comes grovelling home. Wish I could see his face.
Are you going to put some bootees in a casserole or something, as a lovely surprise.

Tetley that's wonderful news. Yaay - one of us finally did it. [dances round room]

Definitely the good news we were all looking for. Heartfelt congratulations and what a great surprise for OH tonight. Can't wait to hear how you broke it to him and his response

Woodelf you are very welcome indeed if this is the effect of your joining our gang

Thanks so much fatlady and rowing!

Yes, it was au naturelle, after all the clomid and injections of other things this was just liberal squrtings of preseed and emotional blackmail (joking, but only just) to do the deed when OH had absolutely no intention and did actually groan at the idea.(!)
I'm 42 and almost 5 months. hope it starts a bfp trend on the thread

...and thanks spiral!

Yaaaaaaay!!! Tetley, this is so great. We all needed this news so much. Big congratulatory hug. Its a great morale booster. How many days are you? I wish you all the luck for a happy and healthy pregnancy. And, Ladies, Preseed it is, I have already placed an order for my supply. Woodelf, you are lucky for this thread, pl. stay on.

WOO HOO how exciting! huge congratulations Tetley got to be good positive vibes for us all?
Hippy what's the latest - am preparing for the 2ww with you, hope all's ok
Tissues to all feeling under the weather & welcome to Woodelf - another 46 YO, I had my DS @ 42 (and a half...) and thought that was it, but here I am again.
No other news except to add that we didn't manage any BD in hotel room with DS there - just couldn't but managed a bit before we left home (sorry if TMI
If no luck this month will try preseed...wanders off to look for industrial sized tubs of slimy stuff, and hopes neighbours don't have to accept delivery if out......

Tetley - great news. Congratulations. Lets hope it's the first of many.
Really cheered me up reading your news.
Woodelf - Welcome they are a very happy and helpful bunch here.
Hi to everyone else, no other news from me DH still walking around like John Wayne but manage (all be it a bit sheepishly) to enduldge in some bd last night. (Can't believe I just wrote that
So the journey for me has started.
Hi to everyone else.
x

Well Done Tetley that's great news, pass round that elderflower sparkly and have this big shiney medal. At least your examinations will be for better reasons now. Also you've just pushed up the market share of preseed me thinks.

Hello to Woodelf Oh I do like these hippy type names makes it sound as though we should all meet up at stonehenge and dance round in a circle.

I'm off to bed cuddling a lemsip, aitchoo!