Feisty & Fabulous at 40+ - the continuing adventures of TTC

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Erm hope this will do as a continuation thread. Hello to anyone new to the thread. All welcome... xx

Rowing They're getting into pj's right now and I'm trying to move from stressed mummy to sex-goddess. Might have time for a wind down first.

DH seems to still be up for it (that's the most important bit). He loves this time of the month - he gets a lot of attention . It's weird isn't it - I'd never say to people in the real world, "I'm planning on having sex with hubbie tonight." But I tell you guys without a care! HA HA.

Hippychick - It gets even worse when the tables are turned on you and your kids. My two DS are 20 and 18, the eldest is still at home and quite often has his GF to stay (seperate rooms of course). They stay up until the early hours and our bedroom is right above the lounge.
It's like being a teenager again and expecting to get caught by your parents except we are the parents.
lol

Hi again! Rowing - don't know, have never been diagnosed polycystic, but then I haven't had investigations. But I have REALLY lost weight and look and feel great (it would be almost a shame to get pg now being an hour-glass size 10!!).
Angi - no doubt we would know EVERYONE in common. WA is a small village! Went to school in Perth - MLC - You? Married a Pom, am stuck now... but we go back every 18months or so, mum and all the rest are there...

Glad that DD is too little to give us luckywebby's problem. Rowing walk in the rain sounds nice but DD would have to come and she's just got into running and yells "Mummy - RUN, Daddy - RUN" so we have to pretend to run with her, otherwise we get shouted at again. Neighbours must think we are complete loons although it is fun and can be a stressbuster.

Hope everyone with plans for a sexy evening is offline bd-ing with a vengeance.

Spiral That all sounds like a big pile of stinky stuff and not at all going to help with TTC I got really hacked off with DH job a few years ago felt like the company had taken away our second child by over taxing DH - they don't have that right to shape our lives, it's only a job. For us it got sorted though when DH stood up and put his bounderies in place (strongly advised by me) different climate then but it was a dreadful time and we all suffered. MY your cycles are long, have they always been like that or is it the stress? I so hope you get it sorted. Oh yes what about EFT it's free are you open to that stuff: LOL

Rowing Well it sounds like dong quai is the herb for you. I did take it once years ago and I think I felt good on it - (early dementia setting in). Lots of TCM has it in. Herbs are very potent things. I love all things natural but am really careful about taking stuff that's not perscribed by someone who knows as I'm really sensitive to foods, have the digestion of a Pekinese dog. I suddenly have an irrestible urge to chew my slipper!
Night all and good luck to those BDing!

Spiral and Hippy, sorry to hear that work, health and kids are stressful right now. I really hope it all comes right. Summer, you're so right, it's outrageous that work can suck the energy out of you the way that it so often does.

Rowing, just on Ag Cast and Vitafem at the moment, but would consider swapping Ag Cast for DQ, depending on what I/we/you find out about it.

Didn't get my days right, just CD28 today, and AF due CD30, but from the uncivilised way I set about a big bar of Fruit'n'Nut tonight, I'm keeping an ear out for the witch's knock on the door.

Summer what's EFT? Only thing DH and I can come up with is Excessive F*cking Therapy or Extreme French Torture (DH claims this is having to watch French films endlessly) but guessing neither is right although we'd be up for the first one

DH reckons the only good thing at the moment is his having lost a stone and a half so he's back to the boyish figure he had when we met.

Am being dragged away for some stress busting....

Summer - my cycles since DDs arrival have been all over the shop. First one was only 6 weeks afterwards despite BF-ing. Since then it's ranged from 20 to 54 days with no pattern until the last 5 which were all 27 or 28 days which had me hoping that things were getting back on track. Ho hum.

Anyone in the 2ww? Oh yes I've finally got to grips with the gargon.

Spiral EFT is Emotional Freedom Technique you can go to a practioner - it's called other things too - but they charge quite a lot or find it on line and DIY. I did for a while, think it helped, felt silly though standing in front of a mirror tapping. It re aligns neural pathways. Just thought with bad stress and no money it can't hurt and may help. I try all the natural stuff maybe your DH isn't into that though the other versions sound good too n'est pas!
It was great your cycles were getting reg, shame it's gone this month perhaps you should consider something like Agnus Castus if you don't take it as that amongst others is a regulator.

DDiemmla Did you see a Psyhic?

rowing yes, it's pronounced mav (Irish). I had a right job trying to find a user name that wasn't already taken - how many people are on this site???

summer the slipper chewing will have me giggling all day. I am on day 26 of a 29/30 day cycle (or I think I am. Only been off the pill for seven weeks or so and this was the gap between finishing and subsequent AF. It's about what I was pre-pill so I think it's right). I could almost kid myself that I felt twinges and mild cramp about a week after est. O, so who knows? Thing is, I seem to be a magnet for information on how difficult I should find it to get pregnant, so it all seems a bit unlikely. Would love to find otherwise, though!

i know how you feel luckywebby my two are 13 and 15 and i always feel really naughty when with DP it was terrible when he first moved in as i had been a single parent for 11 years so it was just us three now all of a sudden there's a man in mums room soooooooooooo embarassing

Hi everyone,
Earoma, that's funny, 'A MAAAAAN!' Shall we burst in a rescue mummy!

Summer, me, me, I did EFT! Not so much now, but occasionally. I switched to affirmations when I started the second IVF, really find them helpful, stops the negative chatter.
I was thinking the other day that EFT and affirmations are different sides of the same coin because the EFT statement kind of neutralises/addresses negative feelings and affirmations create new, positive feelings.
It's hard to find time to do a lot of these things, which is ridiculous and part of the problem (not making time I mean). Affirmations are good because you can repeat them in your head whenever and no attempting to hide when you are tapping your chin or anything.

Mabh that's funny about the names. I know, who took all the names! It's like 'well nobody can be called 'piggytaildoorknocker' and you find it's already taken.
There is quite a bit of name changing on here though, particularly on more 'sensitive' threads, like this one for example, so perhaps there are only ten people on MN?
Have to dash, but back soon
Hi to all waves.
Kiwi put that chocolate bar down!

AF crept in this morning. Almost pleased to see our least favourite relative. Meant I could ring the clinic for the Hycosy appointment which I was told was vital to have done before next consultant appointment.

Clinic kindly inform me that they only give out appointments on a first come, first served basis and that all their appointments have gone for this cycle (they only do it once a week). Now booking for mid-November but can't give you an appointment unless you are regular as clockwork in case you can't make the booking. (Procedure has to be done around CD10)They don't do cancellations as you have to abstain from BD-ing for a fortnight before the test.

So if you are irregular you have to ring on CD1 and hope that the ladies blessed with a regular cycle haven't taken all the appointments. However the regular ladies usually have to wait 2 or 3 cycles to get an appointment. Basically odds aren't great of getting the procedure done. However they said if I wanted to pay for it they could fit me in straight away. At the moment funding that is a complete non-starter.

The woman did suggest keeping the consultant appointment in case he decided to make them give me an appointment as they had the odd appointment kept in reserve for emergencies but it would be down to him to decide. She did say she was used to having women crying on the phone as this demand for hycosy's exceeding availability was putting paid to them being able to progress with treatment at the clinic.

I will go for the consultant appointment but if he doesn't get me a priority test I guess that's it. Game over

Cripes spiral! Fgs, how does anyone get in with that clinic??!!! .

Fingers crossed that the consultant does the right thing. Other than that, are there any other clinics? It seems so unfair.

good grief spiral thats awful my clinc only does HSG on fri afternoons and i phoned on mon morn for mine and they fitted me in this week no probs. it never ceases to amaze me though how there are never any appoints in some clinics unless you flash the cash it must be very frustrating for you

Spiral, that's so crap! Am really sad and cross for you. Is there anywhere else that you could go that does this?

Spiral I really feel for you. How bloody frustrating!
I'm not sure what to day to help.
How much does it cost?
Can we have a whip round?

Spiral Another cow pat in your way, it's awful but it's not over until you say it is. Can you speak to the consultant and plead your case? Do you have to have this test in order to move on to other things? Keep stress busting though - it could happen naturally.

Rowing I didn't know there was a shortage of names I just got the first one I typed in - my favorite thing a summer sky, couldn't be bothered to keep swapping for annonimity though I'd never remember. I agree about the affirmations mind you I only do one at a time and my mind wanders well I have a lot of time in the car.

Don't know what I'd do without you lot. Hug is much needed and appreciated.

Rowing's right - it is hugely frustrating and you're right Summer you have to have had this before anything else can happen. Unfortunately there's nowhere else to have the test done and I didn't even bother enquiring how much it would cost as I can't imagine it would be less than £100 and we'd struggle to find £50 at the moment.

DH is really supportive and is trying hard to keep me positive. Going to see the consultant to see if he can authorise the booking people to fit me in regardless but we don't see him for another 3 weeks.

In the meantime we just try to keep going even if it is more in hope than expectation of a happy ending.

How's everyone else doing? Take my mind off it with your news.

spiral this should take your mind of it - a bit of light hearted news.

DH and I didn't get very far with the deed the other night. Thought we'd take our time and cuddle lots first etc. Big mistake - huge! (In the words of Julia Roberts). We were interupted by our 6 year old and due to stuff happening we were unable to resume!! We ended up having to set the alarm for 6am the next day to finally complete our mission

hah! Well DH and I have always tended to go to bed at different times - I'm half conscious by 10.45 and DH is often up at 12.30. Then he gets up at 6.30. So we're always at it at odd times of day - often 7pm or 9pm (before or after tea!!!), and now have a 15x per month schedule.

I wonder what the neighbours are thinking about the open-close-open-close of the curtains???!!

15X per month!! OMG I admire your dedication. we're lucky to get a few in around the most important days. But then we do have 2 very nosey sons!!

Hi, Ladies. AF has arrived. Wasn't hoping anything because DH and I had been fighting so much this cycle. He can be a real jerk then tries to be extra sweet to make up. I am usually very stubborn and fail to see his extra sweetness as anything but a put on and refuse to give in easily.
I feel so bad for you Spiral. Lots of virtual hugs coming your way. Why don't you atleast find out how much it would cost? If its too bizarre a price, you will feel ok about not going for it otherwise you may blame yourself later for not looking into it if you found out its a lot less than what you expected. I am hoping that the consultant will agree with you and also that you and your DH get lucky on your own even before that. Lost of best wishes and good luck.
OMG 15 days a month!!! I envy you. You are so ready to have that baby in your forties. Anything more than once a week becomes such a chore for me. I can run 5 miles, three times a week though.
Good luck and lots of baby dust to all of us.

...believe me, there are times when I think that body parts must be wearing out

Mabh I went and looked £350. Did see some places in London that were charging £750. It was good advice as I know now it's not something we can manage.

Hippy did make me . We got caught by DD the other day who thought we were doing the Teletubbie big hug and wanted to join in

PS: No schedule as such for us Mabh but pretty much the same quantity. Can't say I've wondered before about bits wearing out but now you've got me thinking... [curious face, wanders off to check]