First Timers TTC. Safe space for brain dumps, questions, whinges and celebrations. Part 2!

[TinyDancer91]

Hi All.

This is a continuation from my past thread, but no need to go read that one if you're new here!

Quick TD;LR from the old post (but with up to date info) - I'm 31, OH is 35. We are TTC baby #1. Been TTC since Jan 2022, now on cycle 14. Haven't told anyone to avoid pressure.

Feel free to post any questions, thoughts, whinges, celebrations, basically anything here!

Going to try to be a bit more positive than I was toward the end of the last thread 😂

Love & baby dust to all. Wishing for BFPs for everyone this year 💖

@TinyDancer91 Sorry to see you’re still on here! You may or may not remember me but your name rings a big bell!

Here I am again 😂😅 after taking a bit of a break for a few months xx

@TinyDancer91 when does your AF normally arrive in your cycle? X

I'm so sorry @Plantymcplant xx

@Yolo23 yes I do remember your name! Sorry you've been having a hard time but also congrats on the engagement!!

AF normally arrived for me on cd 27/28 I've had two 31 day cycles before, but 35 is very out of the ordinary for me.

OH has a SA an weds so after tomorrow morning, no more BD for us until after. Annoyingly, that's also the day I should be ovulating this cycle 😩 might as well assume that we are out again this cycle tbh.

I've really been struggling this past few weeks of having no-one close to me to talk to about it all. It's great having you all on here, but I have really just needed someone to physically talk to recently. It's also getting harder to put on a 'happy' face at my job at certain times too.

How has everyone been today with it being Mother's Day?

@TinyDancer91 oh thats really interesting as I’m currently late by a day - never late, so I’m hoping/expecting it arrives soon as I’m BFN and slowly starting to worry where it is!?
sorry to hear you’ve been finding things difficult - a few weeks out can really help I find!
My OH has a SA there ready to go but it’s crazy as you have to drop it off to a clinic Tues to Thu between 10am and 3pm? Nightmare when you work full time and the clinic is over 40 mins away… logistically it just seems impossible!!
I remember with my smear I thought I was out but then had a chemical in Nov so had to cancel the appt - weird how everything works! X

@TinyDancer91 could he move the SA appointment to next week so you have your chance? I totally get the IRL missing element, I only have you online guys as well. None of my friends get it, they try to be supportive but either aren’t wanting a baby yet or easily had babies. Mother’s Day does sting a bit as well as I genuinely thought I’d be quite pregnant by now

@Yolo23 can he make an appointment to do the test in person? My husband was given a drop off appt but phoned and went in person for the whole thing. He has his third one tomorrow. Or tell work he has a medical appt and go do it? It has to be with them in a certain time frame after he has done it but I can’t remember how long

first scan tomorrow to see if these injections are working, every cycle has looked promising at this point before then in a week or so turns to shit and the follicles stop growing so I don’t have much hope and can’t get excited if they say anything is looking good! But one last go before ivf is what I keep telling myself!

@Alexis7890 thats a good idea - the main issue is he’s in a new job so trying to find his footing at the moment but definitely worth looking at in the next few weeks, thank you.

I hope everything goes well for your scan tomorrow 🙏 we’re on the waiting list for a specialist and expect IVF in future - was always told this may be the case but a chemical in November has me a bit more hopeful. That being said, I’m suddenly late for my period with zero explanation so a bit worried - trying to distract myself.

xx

@Alexis7890 @TinyDancer91 Im the same - it’s only my partner and this girl I met through a forum that lives fairly local who I WhatsApp a lot and have done for years.

Recently this has been counter affective - she has had a hard journey to having children (ectopic and IVF, then a successful pregnancy naturally) … she knows I’m struggling but continues to send me photos of her little ones and constantly moan 😅🙃 it’s really hard trying to not mention how I’m feeling xx

@Yolo23 for a new job I think I would say medical or hospital appointment but I don’t know what his workplace are like with that sort of thing. Thank you, I’ve mentally accepted and am expecting ivf so I’m ready for it just hope there isn’t too long to wait once this cycle inevitably isn’t successful. Could be a longer cycle? Or a positive that hasn’t shown on a test yet?? oh that’s tough for her to keep sending photos like that, you would think she would be understanding of you, I know sometimes I’m fine with other people and their babies but other times I just want to avoid them completely.

@Alexis7890 yeah I’ll definitely make sure he does that in the next few weeks! It’s one of those things that they have almost made impossible as it’s 40 mins there, 40 mins back and the parking/process to do the deed 👀 😅 but it has to be done!

yeah she’s always been pretty good and to be honest it’s nice seeing her photos but she has a one month old and an IVF 2 year old so in the entire process of me TTC, she’s effectively had 2 children - and here we still are 😂 I can deal with it but I shared that I was finding Mother’s Day quite hard (thinking she may not send photos) but she completely ignored it and continued. I’ve since put a ‘busy’ setting on my phone now for when I’m in work all this week or just want quiet time as I can’t be dealing with the complete ignorance 🫣 particularly when someone has experienced the exact same, it’s hard to understand. The moaning of having children riles me up too 😂 but I often bite my tongue because how do I know I won’t be moaning about little ones (I’d like to think not given all the effort this is taking just to try and have one lol)

I’ve decided I’m not testing until a week - I know I’m not pregnant. It must be a dodgy cycle but it’s worrying me AF not arriving and testing seeing negatives isn’t helping so I’m putting it to the back of my mind and hope it arrives soon 😤😖

what injections were you having and how did your scan go??!! X

@Yolo23 it’s good to hear I’m not the only one re wedding planning! Congrats! We are September 24 but it’s made more complicated by us doing it abroad 🙈 we’ll just have to see what happens!

Hope everyone has a positive week!

I’m pretty sure I ovulated over the weekend so entering the tww now 😬

@Yolo23 im on gonal f injections for ovulation induction. Had a scan today and will have another one on Thursday to see if the follicles are growing enough to trigger ovulation and probably more next week as they tend to be slow growers!

@Livlaughloathe if I had money every time I put off doing something because of the possibility - I’d have a lot of money, and nothing would have been done. That’s the way I look at it!

Its one of those things that you’ll just have to deal with as and when, but for now we must continue on as we would normally I feel! Fingers crossed though 🥰 I keep thinking… if it could just happen now, then we will be ok for all the plans I’ve already made 🤣 where are you getting married?!

@Alexis7890 ohh fingers crossed then - it sounds really positive to be having lots of scans and hopefully everything will trigger as it should for you. Fingers crossed 🤞 x

No luck for me this month. But i had a 32 day cycle which is good for me (can go up to 50-60). Maybe this will be lucky number 3.

@kofifi sorry to hear it wasn’t your month. As you say, a 32 day cycle is very good compared to 50 or 60 (or even compared to the standard 28)! Hopefully that’ll continue so you’ll have a lot more chances this year and one will be your month!

I’d said I wouldn’t try this month because having a Christmas baby might suck for the child. Due date would be 21st though and that’s if I got to term. I’m too excited to not try. So cycle 4 for me this month. CD8 and no ovulation yet (usual is CD11-14). Fingers crossed!

How's everyone doing? Where are we all at? I'm currently cd24 of cycle 16. In the TWW but not 100% which day I ovulated this cycle as haven't been testing

How many days are your cycles usually @TinyDancer91 ? Hopefully not too much longer to wait! Fingers crossed for you 🤞🏼

@yolo23 sorry for the late reply! Completely agree, got to keep calm and carry on and all that. We are getting married in Mallorca 😊

I’m a bit confused with what’s going on with my body right now. I’m on CD29 and I’m now on my 7th day of light spotting. Was due on yesterday but since the miscarriage my cycles have varied in length anyway. Tempted to test tomorrow if I don’t come on before. Even just to remove the glimmer of hope I can keep holding on to whilst not knowing. Driving OH mad with my symptom spotting and am I, aren’t I questioning!

@Livlaughloathe they are usually around 28/29 days, but last month was 35! I've had the odd 31 day cycle too.

It's my bday in 2 weeks so I can't help thinking to myself that it would be a great birthday present 😂 but also trying not to get my hopes up...

Hopefully the spotting is a good sign and you get a bfp and a sticky bean this time! Keeping my fingers crossed for you 🤞🏻

@TinyDancer91 im in the tww as well, when will you be testing? I’m hoping this is the one, this is our final go before ivf in the summer

@Alexis7890 going to hold off until next weds/thurs if I can. Still fighting to get tests etc done as I've only had day 21 bloods done so far and OH is waiting for results of his SA. Are you doing IVF on NHS or private? Hopefully it won't come to that for you though!

@TinyDancer91 nhs. I’ve been having ovulation induction through the nhs for a year now so this is the last go, meeting them on the 17th April to get the ivf referral and they said around 6-8 weeks after that we’d be able to start. When was his SA? Our doctor always had my husbands within 2 days of the test being done. I’m thinking I’ll test next Thursday don’t want to go too early but can’t wait until the Saturday!

@TinyDancer91 well hopefully you don’t have long to wait at all then! That would be lovely for your birthday but I completely understand the not trying to get your hopes up. Hope you have something nice planned for it anyway! 🎂 I will keep everything crossed for you 🤞🏼

I think I’ve foolishly let myself get my hopes up too much this month. Maybe as it’s the first one back after a big break, I don’t know. Got a BFN this morning, still spotting. I should know that that doesn’t mean anything as I spotted every month before the mc. My temperatures seem to rise slowly after ovulation as well so all signals towards a low progesterone issue. I might ring the doctors on Monday to push for the 21 day blood test. I was actually scheduled to get it before but then got the bfp. I can’t help but think that low progesterone might have contributed to the loss. So much whizzing round my head right now.

I’ve seen a lot about B vitamins being good for progesterone production. What supplements is everyone taking? I find it a minefield!

OH's SA was a week & a half ago. Last one took 4 weeks and a chase from the dr! He had an appointment for something unrelated today and asked if they were back yet but they weren't.

I called the dr today and they have agreed to do a referral for us, so now just waiting on next steps. Kind of feel like I have no idea what happens next or what's going on to be quite honest... kind of overwhelmed by everything.

@Livlaughloathe I've tried seven seas trying for a baby and Holland & Barratt his & hers conception. Can't really comment on either tbh. H&B ones smelled & tasted 🤢, seven seas much much smaller & easier to take. Hope you get some answers soon

@TinyDancer91 the SA results really shouldn’t be taking that long! My OH had his on March 20th and got a text the next day to make an appt with the doc. His appt was on Wednesday and no sperm was found, so that May be why. I am 💔💔💔 honestly I have gone into such a dark place. Especially as all my testing came back and everything fine except I’ve got an extremely low egg reserve. I hoped he would at least have good results to give me hope but now I just know that we will never conceive naturally, if at all. I am in pieces.

@BeeLieve86 aww that’s hard for you both. From watching Alex jones making babies they had a guy on there who had no sperm and there was some medication they gave him, it took a while, but it worked and he did produce some and they made a couple of embryos. Could you speak to a doctor/clinic and see what your options could be?

@TinyDancer91 that’s frustrating they don’t have the results but good they will do a referral. When I had our referral it then came with a few more tests and then started quite quickly on ovulation induction meds which I’ve done for 8 cycles now and if no pregnancy this time then they will refer us for ivf to get the ccg to approve funding. So hoping to start ivf in June/July

@Livlaughloathe i don’t take anything other than folic acid but I’m under the fertility clinic and consultant care, I did ask him if he recommended anything and he said no. but obviously every person is different, if you have low progesterone they can give you pessaries which I use for fertility treatment, the side effects suck but they do work if it is a problem. Do you think they can reschedule it quickly for you?