First Timers TTC. Safe space for brain dumps, questions, whinges and celebrations. Part 2!

[TinyDancer91]

Hi All.

This is a continuation from my past thread, but no need to go read that one if you're new here!

Quick TD;LR from the old post (but with up to date info) - I'm 31, OH is 35. We are TTC baby #1. Been TTC since Jan 2022, now on cycle 14. Haven't told anyone to avoid pressure.

Feel free to post any questions, thoughts, whinges, celebrations, basically anything here!

Going to try to be a bit more positive than I was toward the end of the last thread 😂

Love & baby dust to all. Wishing for BFPs for everyone this year 💖

I'm out again this month AF arrived Tuesday night, CD35. Unheard of for me, so no idea what's going on.

OH has to go for another SA in a few weeks as first one was 'slightly low'. He's also go to have a blood test too, just to make sure everything ok health wise.

AF has really hit me hard this time, completely wiped me out yesterday.

I need to contact my dr again to see where we go from here. At a bit of a loss at to what's next, feel like we're at a standstill.

We've just received a really clear and helpful letter, as a followup to our appointment last week. A good summary of what they've done so far, what the results show, and what the next steps are, plus the date and time of our next appointment. After 2 years of nothing it's really nice to finally be getting somewhere (even if all future steps seem to mention the word 'injection'!) 😩

@taytay2020 hope you don’t have to wait too long? What next steps are they planning for you?

@Plantymcplant thats such fabulous news 💕 sending you all the positive vibes ☀️

I am struggling this week. I’ve had a very short 2 day period and my friend told me I’m unlikely to conceive if they stay so short so I’m having a down day. I know it’s normally 4 days so to take no notice but she’s really upset me. She doesn’t even know we are TTC so it wasn’t meant maliciously, it was just a passing comment.

@TinyDancer91 Sorry to hear AF arrived. Hoping for some positive news for you from the doctors soon 🤞🏼

@taytay2020 thats really good to see you’ve finally got somewhere. 2 years is such a long time to wait for some resolution.

@taytay2020 delighted you’re getting somewhere. I’m phobic of needles too. Top tip is to get it lying down and to take someone with you. Good luck with it, it’ll be interesting to hear how it all goes.

@Ditzydaisychain I don’t know if your friend is correct. I think periods can get shorter as you get older but it doesn’t necessarily indicate infertility. I’m sorry about how that comment must have made you feel. It’s a sensitive time when you’re ttc and I bet your friend would be mortified if she knew how her comment had affected you. Is it worth a chat? Some reassurance from the one who made the hurtful comment might make you feel better?

My tests are getting lighter. I guess it's a chemical. Has anyone had this before?

I've not seen that before @plantymcplant. I hope for you it isn't :(
Are you taking at the same time of day?

No I haven't been taking them at the same time. Hopefully that is why...

First time in the morning is best! And I still see positive lines on all. I have my fingers crossed for you.

@Feliciacat thank you for that. I may be a bit more open with her and let her know as we are very close and she will be so excited for us. You are right in that she will be mortified shes upset me. I won’t put it on her she upset me though as it feels like she just made a comment that hit a nerve.

I think I’m pinning a lot of upset on her when really I’m just upset at the situation. Since January my very regular 4 day periods have been all over the place and I’m worrying there may be something wrong as it’s so unusual.

I had a fertility letter through at the start of Jan acknowledging my referral & to ring today if I haven’t heard…. I rang up today to be told there is a 45 week wait and that they are trying to get that letter stopped 😭😭😭

I know waiting times are really long but I wasn’t expecting that long & I had this date in my mind to have an idea of when my appointment would be. Totally gutted

@Mitcx 45 weeks?!! Omg I really feel for you, that's appalling.

Thanks @taytay2020 its ridiculous isn’t it!
i feel quite let down because when i was first referred I was expecting quite a long wait (probably not quite that long) but receiving the letter to say if I hadn’t heard by March put that expectation in my mind. I’d sort of planned in my head I’d be getting sorted now and perhaps be starting treatment and for a that to be such a long way off is quite soul destroying. Out of my control though so I guess I just have to accept it

@Mitcx 45 weeks is a ridiculous amount of time!! Can I ask which part of the country you are in? I know it's a bit of a postcode lottery but now worrying we may be in it for the long haul too!

Hi all,
I'm 11DPO (I think) and fell into the trap of testing early!
Tested yesterday and I don't know if I had line eyes but I thought I saw something immediately upon reading it but then talked myself out of it.
Tested this morning and had this... Can anyone else see it?!

@Ditzydaisychain please do not listen to your "friend". My period was 2 days. Currently pregnant.

Hello everyone, I hope you are all ok! Hoping I can rejoin from the old thread after a big break away from ttc. After the loss I blindly threw myself into wedding planning. It was a great distraction but I realise now that it was a form of self preservation. Now I feel truly ready to go again so here we are. Before the loss we were concrete on trying to start a family before getting married and I feel a bit stupid for then going all in on the wedding and not having the self awareness to see that I was just scared to try again and shouldn’t make any rash decisions. Now we have things booked for the wedding, deposits paid etc but that yearning to have a baby is there stronger than ever. My partner was ready to go again straight after the loss but he’s been so sensitive of my feelings that he went along with the change in plan thinking that was best for me in that moment. So now I feel like I’ve set us back a bit and created a stress of potentially needing to postpone the wedding and losing money if we are lucky enough to get pregnant again. Luckily he’s very calm and pragmatic about everything and as he said the money isn’t important when this is our whole life we are talking about. I just feel a bit stupid but I am excited that we are trying again. What will be will be I guess. I’ll class this as cycle one of a second round! I really want to be more chilled about everything this time but i feel myself obsessing already. I’m just not a go with the flow person 🙈

Sorry for the essay anyway, where is everyone at in their cycle? What’s new? I’ve tried to catch up on everything but there’s a lot!

also @RegardingPersephone I think I see something, hopefully it’ll be clearer if you test again tomorrow! Fingers crossed for you🤞🏼

Welcome back livlaughloath and sorry to hear about what happened. I totally relate to wanting to go with the flow but being unable to.
Im day 25 of cycle and although I have pretty irregular cycles I feel like I'm going to do get my period in 10 days or so. I didn't use ovulation tests this month, just checked temperature. First time monitoring so I could be wrong but it did seem to show ovulation around day 16 and we had sex quite a few times in the days before that. As much as i want to get pregnant it wouldnt be the worst thing to have another month to lose weight and improve my health. So lets see. Good luck everyone.

Not sure if I'm tricking myself into seeing lines but thought I saw some very faint ones today on internet cheapies and a boots early test. Could find any first response ones. Think they should be darker at this point based on others I've seen but also not sure on ovulation so 🤷

Well I am back. I started miscarrying today :(

Oh @Plantymcplant I am so sorry to hear this. I’d been delighted for you and feeling excited for you.

I don’t know if you want to talk about it but how are you feeling?

@Plantymcplant im so sorry, thoughts are with you x

Im so sorry @plantymcplant. We are here for you if you want to talk about it!

So so sorry to hear that @Plantymcplant x

@Livlaughloathe
Your post really resonated with me - we had a chemical in November. My partner proposed in the December and so I’ve been very busy wedding planning and getting lots of things booked - which has been wonderful but I’m the exact same as you… we now have everything covered (it was probably my distraction too because I have literally everything we could book with a deposit… booked 🙄😂)
Now that we can sit back and look forward to it (June 2024), I’ve found myself back here and on the TTC train once again 👀
myself and partner feel the exact same as you guys - losing money or trying to change dates (in the grand scheme of things) is far more worthwhile than holding off and pushing everything back!
Im currently stressing as I’m late for my period with zero reason - negative tests, no symptoms, and no explanation. Wondering now if it’s stress but also self diagnosing via google my early menopause 😖😂😂 honestly why do we do it to ourselves! Anyway, happy to keep in touch and pass the time 😆 xx