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TTC after miscarriage thread 12 🌈✨💛💕

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FfayeN · 06/10/2022 05:36

New thread ladies sorry if I've missed anyone feel free to add 💗
@MrsCristianoX @Indianna2006 @TheBirdintheCave @mummatara @LuckyMoonstone @Luna57 @HalWin2221 @bunnykins123 @calimc83 @everythingzrosie @ChloeN @ChickenT2b @Chellooo @theblueflowers @RaliaMusca @Margo34 @Mariabombia @emhope @lovenaps @

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RaliaMusca · 17/10/2022 18:55

@Indianna2006 so exciting you're planning to tell your DD soon ❤️ my DD is also four and I really hope I can tell her about her sibling in late November.

i think my DD is psychic. The day I found out I was pregnant in June, she started asking for a sibling. A day or so after I had the surgery after my MMC, she completely stopped mentioning it. Then I found out I was pregnant again and that same day she said "Mama, is the baby going to sleep in my bedroom?" So strange!

cocoforbes · 17/10/2022 19:24

@Indianna2006 wonderful news! Such a great photo, thanks for sharing! I also know nothing about nubs but am gonna guess girl too! Are you going to find out the sex or keep it as a surprise?

calimc83 · 17/10/2022 19:25

@Indianna2006 omg! 😍 I'm so so happy for you. So exciting you are planning on telling your DD as well..still not told mine 🙈😆. Bet u feel so relieved now your scan is out the way..@Mariabombia No not at all! Just means your placenta is at the front so u don't feel those early movements quite as much @LuckyMoonstone I hope u are ok tonight? It's good that everything is finally clearing out for you but still awfully sad 😞 xx

lovenaps · 17/10/2022 19:28

@Indianna2006
So so happy for you! ❤

calimc83 · 17/10/2022 19:41

@Luna57 I have one of each! 😬 so a surprise will be good..xx
Had a bit of a stress today, first consultant appt and my blood pressure is high. Not sure if it's due to me being anxious about my previous losses. She said to get it checked on Monday and then every 2 weeks after..now stressing about pre eclampsia 🙈. She also gave me a last minute scan as the equipment was in the room..I hadn't prepared for that at all! 😬 xx

Indianna2006 · 17/10/2022 19:56

@cocoforbes not entirely sure yet if we will find out. I think we most likely will. Just to sort out stuff we kept from DD rather than storing it for longer.

@calimc83 yes we will tell her end of this week once we get combined results or at least don’t get a call for high results anyway. Also she’s so clued on for a 4 year old. She’s already said mummy why is your tummy so fat 😂 she will gather soon anyway. She’s 4 going on 14. Honeslty 😂

Luna57 · 17/10/2022 20:21

@Indianna2006 what a lovely scan! I’m over the moon for you! Your dd will be so delighted!

@calimc83 did you are very tell your family? I feel like the last time we asked you they were in Greece?

@LuckyMoonstone i feel you, I had awful cramps earlier. Lasted about an hour and then gone again. I definitely passed the tissue last night it was massive and veiny. I showed dh it because I still think he’s in disbelief it’s over and he couldn’t believe the size of it. Really hoping the bleeding eases now.

HJA87 · 17/10/2022 20:27

Luna57 · 17/10/2022 10:03

@MrsCristianoX I’m so sorry you’re feeling so low and dd is sensing it. It’s like having dogs. One wee tear could come down my cheek and my wee dog would come over and lick it. She’s been extremely needy with me this pregnancy to the point where she’s on edge when ds comes near. She loves ds but I think she knew I needed protection.

@HJA87 i have a ds who is 13 months and I was the same. First cycle and no complications. I kick myself every day from the first mc because I had bonding issues from bump to ds being 4 weeks old. I didn’t realise in my mind that there was a baby inside me so every scan etc they weren’t exciting because it was just expected yep there’s a leg, there’s a heartbeat. Even when he was born, because it was emergency forceps I never seen or felt him coming out I couldn’t put 2 and 2 together. I remember just handing him to dh and I was numb. I could barely care for ds for a couple weeks after because of the pain I was in with a massive episiotomy. And was only one day I watched him napping at 4 weeks old and I just cried and thought omg that’s my son and it clicked! I’ve been obsessed with him ever since and never been more in love.

@cocoforbes so sorry you’ve found yourself on this threat. It’s a great support group we are all like minded. When I told my mum last night about having another mc she was very sympathetic but said the timing just wasn’t right. Which rattled me 😂 so sometimes coming here can give you more support than ‘just wasn’t meant to be’ 😂 I’m sure that was a shock finding out you had coeliac disease without having symptoms. How have you found the gluten free diet?

@calimc83 thats lovely to have a wee surprise. Have you 2 dd? I always said to dh the next one we wouldn’t find out the gender. I knew from day 1 with ds he was a boy so wasn’t shocked when they told us at 16 weeks. But I swore with the next successful pregnancy I wouldn’t even look at the heartbeat to see how fast or slow it was beating or read up on old wives tales I just wanted it to be a complete surprise. Hope these 2 weeks fly in for you!

@Luna57 that must have been really tough. I’m glad you recovered quite quickly as I know a traumatic birth can cause long term issues for some people. I’m sure it’s still difficult when you look back at that time. I had a planned section so actually a really nice and calm experience. However a few days after birth I had some issues with my pelvic bone which basically meant I was unable to walk for 2 weeks or even sit comfortably. It pretty much forced me to stopped BF as I just couldn’t sit in one position for hours on end and I really regret that 😔

LuckyMoonstone · 17/10/2022 20:40

@calimc83 Ah I’m ok thank you it has been a bit shit but I’m glad it’s over

@Luna57 aww I’m sorry, hope you’re feeling ok x I feel like I’m giving birth to baby jellyfish every five minutes 😂

Everythingzrosie · 17/10/2022 20:40

@Indianna2006 oh congratulations what a great picture snd yes she looks like a girl 😍
so my dd said ‘mummy are you going to have any babies in your tummy?’ She’s 4. Then ds poked my tummy and said ‘are you pregnant again?’ I wouldn’t mind but my ds is 24…
so I took this today. I’m only 8dpo

TTC after miscarriage thread 12 🌈✨💛💕
TheBirdintheCave · 17/10/2022 20:46

@Everythingzrosie I see a slight shadow! Fingers crossed :)

Margo34 · 17/10/2022 20:47

@Indianna2006 congratulations on such a lovely scan! 😍 I'm going to go against the grain just for fun and guess boy for no reason other than to be different to others guesses 😂

I haven't told my just turned 2yo yet but pretty she knows something is a bit different - I'm convinced she's dry nursing and she gives my tummy gentle strokes and little kisses too, it's quite cute! 14+1 now but still haven't told my family either, despite a lovely scan, the anxiety is still there for me massively and I just can't seem to shake it enough to tell anyone 😭 @calimc83 how are you getting on?

I've missed so much on this thread, about 400posts apparently? @LuckyMoonstone hope you're doing ok now recovering?

LuckyMoonstone · 17/10/2022 21:40

@Margo34 I am, thank you for asking! Just got to get to the end of this AF from hell then I’ll be right as rain 😂 ah wow 14 weeks already! I totally understand why you still feel anxious though

@Everythingzrosie I can see a shadow!

ChloeN · 17/10/2022 22:09

@LuckyMoonstone is this the 2nd bleed since your positive tests then?? I might of missed you say!

@Everythingzrosie oooo I see something as well🤞🏻🤞🏻

TheBirdintheCave · 18/10/2022 06:57

Temp has dropped and I think it's finally starting! No idea why it's so late but I'm so glad I'm not losing any more time 😂 All I can think is that something tried to implant early on but failed and I didn't pick it up as I only started testing at 12dpo.

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FfayeN · 18/10/2022 08:23

@TheBirdintheCave thank goodness for that. You might be right about the failed attempt, or I've just thought of you had a fever sometimes that can mess with AF! Xx

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TheBirdintheCave · 18/10/2022 08:27

@FfayeN That is true I forgot about the fever. Augh, I hope getting sick didn't affect our attempts :(

Anyway, once we get paid we're sending husband off for a sperm check with a private urologist and will also order the Ferti-lily.

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FfayeN · 18/10/2022 08:47

@TheBirdintheCave I don't know why it didn't twig before 🙈. At least she's on her way and you have a plan for hopefully getting some answers 😊

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FingersCrossedXXX · 18/10/2022 09:12

Hi! I have been reading through all the messages on here and it seems like a supportive bunch and I'd love to join! Might take me a little while to get on top of everyone's stories. I am so sorry to hear of all the heartbreak but it's lovely to see that some ladies have got healthy pregnancies 🌈

I am currently going through an ectopic pregnancy, with the hope it will self resolve due to my low HCG numbers and the mass being quite small. After having bloods every 2 days for a week (where numbers were decreasing then increasing slightly), I have now been moved to bloods weekly, with my next tests due on Friday. I was just over 6 weeks when I found out as I went to the EPU with some bleeding and this would have been my second child.

I am wanting to get back to trying to conceive as soon as my levels are back to 0 and I am hoping it's not too drawn out considering my numbers were low to start with, though the small increases concern me.

Not sure if anyone else on this thread has been through an ectopic?

TheBirdintheCave · 18/10/2022 09:24

@FingersCrossedXXX Welcome! Sorry you're going through an ectopic :( I'm not sure if anyone else here has had one. I don't recall seeing it mentioned. I hope your stay here is short.

ChloeN · 18/10/2022 09:36

@FingersCrossedXXX hey lovely☺️ so sorry to hear of your ectopic, sounds really scary! Hopefully you’ll be back to ttc soon🤞🏻xxx

mummatara · 18/10/2022 09:49

@FingersCrossedXXX sorry to hear about your ectopic ☹️ hopefully it won't take too long for you to get back to TTC 🤞🏼I don't remember hearing of anyone in here having an ectopic but might be wrong. Everyone in here is super supportive

mummatara · 18/10/2022 09:52

I've just spoken to the EPU my blood test result from yesterday is 2109 will go for another tomorrow and then hopefully they will book me in for a scan to see if there are any retained products

FingersCrossedXXX · 18/10/2022 10:24

@TheBirdintheCave @ChloeN @mummatara Thank you ladies.

@mummatara I guess it sounds slightly similar to what you are going through in terms of having to keep going back for bloods! How long have you been having your bloods monitored for now?

mummatara · 18/10/2022 10:31

@FingersCrossedXXX so I had my second MMC of this year 🙄 this one was a blighted ovum. As I only had a D&C in June I opted to wait to pass this one naturally. I started bleeding three weeks ago and it was really on off and light bleeding then it stopped last weds. I've had a few random spots since then and then yesterday morning a bit more than spots when I wiped but it just stopped after that wipe 🤷🏼‍♀️ so I've rung the EPU as I wanted a scan I'm not convinced it's passed so yesterday was my first blood test. I just don't want it going on for ages and ages if I can help it