TTC after miscarriage thread 12 🌈✨💛💕

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New thread ladies sorry if I've missed anyone feel free to add 💗
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@Mariabombia it is normal to feel stressed after a m/c, very reassuring the stick is dark at 18DPO 🙏

Sorry that was meant to say *dh doesn't want me to do one of those clear blue week tests.

@lovenaps thanks lovely, how're you doing?

@Mariabombia I am okay, feeling (strangely) positive about the upcoming TWW but at the same time - I know if the test is negative it will hit me hard!
This cycle we DTD all the time, e.g. even though I got a positive OPK, we will still continue DTD until much later in the cycle. I am not allowing OPK to dictate when we DTD (do not want to purely rely on it), just want to know the date for ovulation for when we have an early scan, assuming there would be one. My local EPU offers an early scan after two losses (maybe they do after one as well, not sure) so I was told I would get one next time, assuming there is a next time!

@theblueflowers aww I am thank you, getting by & trying not to feel too down about the whole thing! Hope you’re ok too x

@LuckyMoonstone how are you? You have been through a lot ❤
@Mariabombia speaking of week tests, do not quote me on this but I remember reading they were banned in US (maybe in some states?) as they were not being accurate and a lot of people were getting stressed out!

@ChloeN It’s such a relief isn’t it - there’s always the worry that it will be a long drawn out process til AF reappears. And when you just want to get on with TTC again it’s so stressful!

@lovenaps I’m doing ok-ish thank you so much for asking. Still can’t believe it’s took me all year to get pregnant and then when it’s finally happened it’s all gone pear shaped! Just my luck :( I am trying to just get on with it though and not dwell on it too much. How are you doing?

@lovenaps we are in this together! 🙊 I’m unsure about whether to test or not! I’d say 2 weeks but 12dpo I’ll be accidentally falling on a FRER 🫣😂

@Mariabombia thats understandable it would stress me out too if I didn’t get the result I was hoping for! 😫 I’m CD10 at the moment, normally ovulate on day14 but was cd15 last cycle! I think I had the chemical last cycle too but was a very early one if it was so hopefully everything will be normal!

@RainbowSearching 100% I was panicking after hearing people say it was 10 weeks before they get a period 🤯 must be awful to be still hanging on!

@FfayeN thanks for the tag! @bunnykins123 ohhh...that's interesting get on it now! So to speak 😆🙈..wishing u all the luck in the world for this cycle. @Luna57 oh wow! How u feeling about your scan? Xx

@lovenaps I'm glad you're feeling positive girl! I think that's the best way if you can. We went to a fertility specialist who advised us to bin them opks and just try to dtd as frequently as possible, every 2-3 days throughout the month, & tbh it took the pressure off for us!
Ahh interesting, that was DH's thought, might just cause unnecessarily stress and might not be that accurate.

@ChloeN ahh sorry to hear that :( I'm sure everything will be normal though. The big O should be soon for you then !! 😈

@LuckyMoonstone I am okay, thank you for asking ❤
@Mariabombia yeah, I've had some months where I did not take OPK just because did not feel like it. I usually like to alternate and one month I use OPK and then the next month I don't. One of the pregnancies was without OPK and one was with OPK. I was planning to not use them from now on but just want to check that I ovulate because my last cycle was strange... I did not use OPK last cycle though, it was just the length of the cycle that was strange.

OPK still positive today and in fact very dark, much darker than yesterday. This month we were so good with constant regular DTD but at this point we are exhausted and both could cry 😂If it does not work this month, we will have to do it less frequently next month and just hope for good luck!

We are both joking that if this all works out, we won't DTD until we want a second child 😅

@FfayeN thanks for the add!! Scared of losing track of you ladies while I'm on the sub bench 😕🤣

@LuckyMoonstone I really hope your blood hcg starts to fall and you aren't joining me but I'll be here absolutely hoping for the best x

I'll have a wee read at your messages later but to all in TWW good luck 🤞 it feels really odd to not be ttc even though DH is working away. I bought all the vitamins in work today good help my body

So who just realised there’s a bookmark 🙋🏻‍♀️

Does it bookmark the thread or just comments? Anyway glad I found you all again x

@MrsCristianoX thank you for the good luck wishes. We aren't managing to DTD today though (😣😕) but we did yesterday so hopefully.... My OH has been brilliant with all his efforts this cycle and I am proud.

Thinking of you and wishing you all the best. Enjoy this break from TTC, I know it was forced upon you and not chosen which makes it more difficult, but please try to be gentle on yourself, do things you enjoy, look after yourself. Maybe even find some lovely books and series to read/watch! I believe this can be good for your body and your soul and you will come back in good health and fully ready to TTC again! 🌸

If my DS doesn't start sleeping on his own again soon I don't think we're even going to get the chance to conceive another child 🤦🏼‍♀️ I have been in such a foul mood this week like really raging pms hormones which I never normally get. Those that had a natural MC how long did you bleed for? I'm thinking it will just be the length of a period but realistically mine are usually no more than 5 days and that will be tomorrow and I know I haven't passed it yet it's not very heavy just like a normal period so far and not many clots so I think the worst is still to come 🤔

@mummatara I bled for about 2 weeks lovely I'm so sorry. It peaked about one week after starting Hell yeah the rage is unreal. Virtual hug xxx

@calimc83 im a bit nervous about the scan. I’m not sure I could hear bad news and dh will have ds as we haven’t told anyone yet so I’m gonna go in on my own too.

@mummatara i bled for 2 days started the Friday night, had the clots saturday all day and then Sunday it tailed off. I might of had a slight bit of brown after but nothing major. The further along you are the more you will bleed tho I suspect. I was 6 weeks.

@MrsCristianoX thanks lovely ❤️ haha I'm trying not to be so pms about everything but there are little things that I'm stewing on then 5 mins later I'm like what am I doing 🤦🏼‍♀️ I also got in such a rage about a pregnancy announcement I saw on insta yesterday I'm sure it's nothing like I've imagined it in my head but she seemed so blasé about the whole thing she was talking about something else and then it felt like an afterthought added onto the end of the comment but they were getting a new family member next year. She already has a son who is a few months younger than my DS and I honestly don't know why it affected me so much it felt like it just came so easy for her and it was just like oh yea we went to the shops and the stork is delivering a baby next year like it's the most easiest thing in the world 🙄 I've seen a tonne of announcements and even a very close friend just found out she's expecting and none of them have bothered me whatsoever 🤷🏼‍♀️

@mummatara I totally get that. For some reason, Facebook is showing me ALL the gender reveals (god knows why, I defo don't actively watch these) and saw a reveal with a woman so disappointed with the gender and it made me really sad. Also DD hasn't slept in her own bed in months. It really does make dtd hard. No advice, only that we use the spare room a lot 😬 are you having any contraction type pains?

@lovenaps how many attempts did you manage to get in? It is such a relief when DH is onboard and up for the 'challenge' 😂

@MrsCristianoX what vitamins did you get in the end? How are you feeling about the news of having some time out of ttc?

@calimc83 im on it... god I SO wish we get some good luck sent our way soon!

@LuckyMoonstone glad you're doing okay. Are you still doing pregnancy tests or just waiting until the next blood test

@mummatara I watched (and please don't judge me) the new 'Billy Faires episodes and there your woman is scaling up a fake cliff at a time when I would be freaking out in the first trimester with a belt wrapped round her bump and I have to say it annoyed me way too much.. I'm just being super sensitive and I know it.

@bunnykins123 all pharmanord ubiquinol 100mg, vitamin c, and vitamin E. I'm already taking Vit b and d. I'm ok..I might not be ok during fertile week but I've been too blasé about my health and eating in general. I figure this will give me the kick I need. I'm a year overdue for my smear ffs so I'll take this time to ready my body. Xx

@bunnykins123 no nothing like that yet probably like everything else took an age last time I'm here for the long slog 🙄 god you just want to punch some people 👊🏼the ungratefulness. well he goes to sleep in his cot though that's taking me about 45 mins of sitting there whilst he holds my hand 🤦🏼‍♀️ and he wakes up between 11-1 and will not go back in his cot so bring him in our bed which I actually think he doesn't like because he still doesn't sleep well. Last night I took him in the spare bed when he woke and he was out like a light until 7.45. I'm wondering if it might be time to get a proper bed for his room. We'll have to dtd in place of cooking and eating dinner 😂 that's our window! It's annoying only two weeks ago I would put him down awake with his milk he would get himself to sleep no need to wait around and then not wake up until 7.30 🤷🏼‍♀️ I want that one back please 😂

@MrsCristianoX no judgement here I watch some absolute tripe and after I watch it I sit there and think wtaf did I waste that time for 😂 it's scary isn't it what people do but I suppose they just don't worry about it well unless it all goes wrong then hindsight is great 😳

@mummatara it could totally just be a phase. DD often breaks habits when she's either been unwell or has a growth spurt but she always ends up in our bed. She's been unwell recently and had started basically rolling onto me in bed so I have absolutely no room and she has the entire bed to play with (DH ends up leaving due to being kicked in the balls). I've not had a natural later miscarriage but I have heard from a few people that you may feel contractions before the actual loss takes place. I'm really hoping you've already gone through all that and you're body has done what it should do!

@MrsCristianoX yeh I'm sure although it will probably be a nice break from POAS and worrying about how many times you face dtd! How does DH feel about it all?