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Lauren441 · 29/05/2022 20:27

Hello ladies.

So this is my story. I am 30years with a beautiful DD, aged 4. We decided we would finally give start trying for baby #2 in May. However, as we had a big family holiday planned for 14 nights during May this meant that we were only able to try prior to going on holiday. So we figured that month was completely out of the question.

My period was due towards the second half of the second week away but Instead I had very sore breasts and a super bubbly stomach. I just figured it was PMT symptoms especially as it was accompanied by spotting.

The spotting continued, everyday. On arrival home, I did a pregnancy test, really not believing I could be pregnant since we were unable to even really "try". To my shock and delight it was positive!

I had some spotting on my DD during early pregnancy so didn't think too much into it. However, the spotting got worse. I tried contacting a local midwife who advised that as I was only 4.5 weeks pregnant there was nothing I could other than wait it out.

It continued, with period cramping pains and a lower bad back, although they were mild. The spotting colour changed to bright red and then on Wednesday (last week) I knew I was completely miscarrying. We are devestated but we understand these things happen. I'm also trying not to overthink everything as that's what I always do.

I've now stopped bleeding. And feel that I've gone through a bit of an emotional roller-coaster the last week. We would like to try again, straight away. So I guess I'm looking for a little advice.

The Dr told me it's probably best to wait a cycle before trying again but looking online there doesn't seem to be any benefit or logic to this if you know you miscarried earlier in pregnancy and have passed the full miscarriage. Do you think I will be fine to immediately try again without first having a period?

And then if I was successful would I just count my pregnancy from the miscarriage bleed? (father than 1st day of last period)

I was thinking of booking a ultrasound scan privately to check the endometrium lining is thick enough to support a pregnancy. Do you think this is wise? And if so, do you think 2 weeks following MC would be the best suitable time to book a scan to view the thickness?

Also, people have told me how common MC is and how I obviously must have found out super early in pregnancy. But I didn't think we did find out super early? A few people have passed the same remark ; " you found out early if you was only 4.5 weeks. Most people don't know until later" now I understand if I hadn't of done a test then I would have assumed this MC was my period. However, I was 3 days passed my due period when I tested so? 😳 Isn't finding out your about 4.5 weeks pregnant about the usual??

Sorry for the ramble. I guess it's nice just to write everything down 🤷🏽‍♀️.

Thanks.

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Lauren441 · 27/06/2022 12:18

@waitingwatchingpeeing

That's really interesting. It may very well be that! And if I've ovulate later in the cycle (I'm thinking last weekend), then it may just be too soon for any positive results. I did do another test this morning - negative! But as my husband would agree, I'm the world's most impatient person and therefore I'll do a test everyday until AF rocks up! (so i completly understand your need to test before your AF is due!!!)

I nearly bought an early detection one earlier, but they were so expensive!

I also have a DD, so this too would be our #2. Do you have any symptoms today?

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Maya12345 · 27/06/2022 17:10

@WaitingWatchingPeeing thank you so much!! Literally testing everyday (easy at home cheapies) it's actually so satisfying seeing that line darken everyday this time!
@Lauren441 thank you! I was exactly the same, test test test until it becomes clear! Do u know how many dpo you are now?

I was so pleasantly surprised by my GP today, I was so worried as I've had 8 days of very light implantation bleeding and I read that it could well be low progesterone.. My GP actually called the epu and they prescribed it to me! It might not be needed but they assure me it won't hurt! They also said they might be able to do an early scan at 6-7weeks which will hopefully ease my anxiety.

Keep us posted on any results you guys get! X

Lauren441 · 27/06/2022 17:30

@maya12345 - wow that's really impressive! I have a feeling in that situation my GP would have advised there is nothing we can do other than wait it out. So I will most definitely bare this in mind just incase I get spotting next time and gently advise my GP of the outstanding efforts made by your GP 😂👏🏼. Hopefully they'll follow suit then!

Keep us updated on the spotting. Hopefully this should settle now, especially with the tablets. How are you feeling otherwise?

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Maya12345 · 27/06/2022 19:03

Haha yes do it! I know I was so shocked she actually went to quite a lot of effort when at first she said the usual 'only intervene after 3 mcs' nonsense.. When I mentioned I'd researched progesterone and wanted blood tests etc she sort of perked up. Apparently my EPU and presumably others too are changing their policies and are prescribing progesterone more often when there's previous miscarriage and bleeding of any sort. Just lucky my GP actually got hold of them! Feeling OK thanks, just very tired and sore boobs/bit crampy but not too awful at all! Im weirdly actually looking forward to all the negative side effects I just want to get that far...xx

WaitingWatchingPeeing · 28/06/2022 17:36

I have had a few things that could be symptoms, back ache, gas (sorry 🤦🏼‍♀️) and today/yesterday eating so much more but it could all just be AF coming 🤷🏼‍♀️ this is such a torturous process.

I havnt bought any tests still as I know I will just go crazy testing and make my anxiety worse if it's not a clear positive so waiting a few more days.

@Lauren441 @Maya12345 what tests do you use so that you dont spend a total fortune but feel they are reliable?

WaitingWatchingPeeing · 28/06/2022 17:39

@Maya12345 I'm so impressed with your GP and if I get a positive I'm definitely going to push for similar. Did you have one chemical or more? Iv only had one (and I hope the last) but didn't think GP would be interested without having more 😔

How many days pregnant do you think you are now? Are you using the digitals with weeks indicators to track progress? I did with my first and man do the test companies make a fortune from our anxiety and hope

Maya12345 · 28/06/2022 17:50

Thanks @WaitingWatchingPeeing yep I had one early mc. I think the main reason they gave the progesterone and took it seriously was because I had 8 days of light implantion spotting. Been on it for 24 hours now and spotting has totally stopped which is great. I don't know if I necessarily need it but the main point I took away was all it could do is help, not hurt it.

I use Easy@home tests everyday from amazon it was like £8 for 20 tests and they are super sensitive, just as good as FRER.
Picked up my pregnancy on 9dpo and lines have been getting stronger everyday. I did my first CB Digi today at 4+1 and had 2-3weeks so bang on!
Hust hoping I get that 3+ this time next week.
I've just tested positive for covid which has made me worried but so far just really sore throat and headache, no real fever so hope it won't affect anything!

Sorry if you've already said but how many dpo are you if you know?
Xx

WaitingWatchingPeeing · 28/06/2022 17:54

@Maya12345 Oh no way, that's the last thing you need! Hope you feel better really really soon!

Yeh makes sense with the IB and so nice to have something to try and build your peace of mind.

Iv just ordered some of them, thank you. Do you stick to First morning urine? Last pregnancy I actually always found my second seemed stronger 🤷🏼‍♀️

I'm 9DPO today and had set myself a new target of making it to Friday (originally wanted to get to AF due 😂) but I think it's going to be tough to wait if these tests arrive 🤪

Maya12345 · 28/06/2022 18:02

Thanks - so annoyed about the covid! I thought I'd actually avoided it for 2 years, now just the best timing ever!

Haha I said the same thing and caved immediately at 9dpo when I had symptoms, I'll be thoroughly impressed if you make it til Fri! Yeah I use first morning urine but mostly because I think id forget.. Actually I used second on one of the tests and it was noticeably weaker!
I'm sort of obsessed with testing now it's bad.

WaitingWatchingPeeing · 28/06/2022 20:12

Yeh but thank god your on the progesterone. Imagine the double worry with covid, bleeding & previous chemical!

Do you mind me asking what your symptoms were at 9DPO and how dark the line was?

WaitingWatchingPeeing · 28/06/2022 20:13

WaitingWatchingPeeing · 28/06/2022 20:12

Yeh but thank god your on the progesterone. Imagine the double worry with covid, bleeding & previous chemical!

Do you mind me asking what your symptoms were at 9DPO and how dark the line was?

Sorry meant to tag you @Maya12345

Lauren441 · 29/06/2022 09:01

@maya12345 - so glad the bleeding has stopped! That's a massive leap in the right direction! Also, gutted to hear about your covid. Hopefully it won't be too severe and will come and go like a cold.

@waitingwatchingpeeing - I've only ever just used the tesco or Morrisons home make. They definitely are not as good at detecting early pregnancy like the amazon ones though. The supermarket brands all look for around 20ml of HCG whereas the amazon and early detection tests typically look for 10ml.

However, that being said..... I did a test this morning and got a faint positive on a tesco home brand and then again on a Morrisons one. Well I think so (🤔🤞🏼) .... Here's the pics.

As I have no idea of ovulation date, all I can go on is the most sensible date we could have conceived and that was Sunday 19th. So that would put me at 10 days past conception. Which I would assume is about accurate for such faint positives with a supermarket brand test.

Also, it stops me going crazy as I felt naesuous all day yesterday and then you question if your just imaging symptoms. No bleeding yet, but if/when that starts I'll definitely be straight down to the GP asking for progesterone! 🤞🏼

How are you both feeling today?

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WaitingWatchingPeeing · 29/06/2022 09:03

Oh my gosh @Lauren441 this is so so so exciting. I am sending so many good vibes for nice progressing lines 😍 will you head to the gp if you get a few more positives given last time and @Maya12345 experience?

WaitingWatchingPeeing · 29/06/2022 09:04

Sorry @Lauren441 Iv just seen your last bit. I got so excited by the positives and the pictures I lost focus 🤪

WaitingWatchingPeeing · 29/06/2022 09:05

Man I'm so tempted to test now. I ovulated on the 19th so I would be 10dpo also 🤞🏼🙏🏼🤞🏼🙏🏼🤞🏼🙏🏼🤞🏼🙏🏼

Lauren441 · 29/06/2022 09:06

Nauseous*** how on earth it come out spelt so wrong I'll never know.

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Lauren441 · 29/06/2022 09:11

Imagining *** sorry so many spelling errors in my last post. I'll be here all day correcting! X

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Maya12345 · 29/06/2022 09:13

@Lauren441 this is so exciting!! Congratulations! How do you feel mentally as well? I'm so happy for you 😄

I've been anxious as I had a very strong different sort of positive test today.. Was up all night with fever and aches with it. Definitely have covid. Just so worried about having a fever and taking so much paracetamol this early on. Everything I've read said paracetamol is fine but if I don't have maximum dose my fever spikes again. Just hope it calms down today. Have a call with my GP later as well.
It better not screw anything up!

Lauren441 · 29/06/2022 09:17

I told myself I would test everyday until either a positive or a period. Because a negatibe for me, isn't really a no, a period is. It could just be too early. So with that mindset, I would definitely do a test!

Aw thanks! At first there wasn't anything, it took a few minutes as it's so faint. So I went from "same old" feeling to delight! And now panic 😂. You know how it is!

My plan is to test everyday/other day and hopefully see the lines getting stronger 🤞🏼. And then, if any bleeding starts, I'll get down to the GP. I don't think he will prescribe anything without bleeding. And even then Ill probably have a fight on my hands.

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Maya12345 · 29/06/2022 09:19

@WaitingWatchingPeeing sure here were my 9dpo tests, super faint but definitely there! I just felt quite run down and a bit nauseous, coupled with the spotting that started on 6dpo I had a strong feeling too!

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Maya12345 · 29/06/2022 09:20

@Lauren441 sounds like a great plan! X

Lauren441 · 29/06/2022 09:22

@maya1234 - sounds awful! I'm pretty sure the paracetamol won't do any harm. And to be honest, the fact that you have to rest now will also probably only help the pregnancy further.

Its so easy to say try not to panic, but it's so difficult isn't it. Especially with previous MCs. I guess, try and focus on the covid rather than the pregnancy and make sure your taking all your daily vitamins etc. That's all you can do.

Fingers crossed the doctor can put you at ease. I'm sure if you request an early scan for 7 weeks they will allow it as your last sad a MC. I would definitely push for that if you can?

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WaitingWatchingPeeing · 29/06/2022 09:27

@Maya12345 I'm so sorry this has happened but keep positive, you are likely to be out the fever stage in a few days, the progesterone is there as your back up and I have also read paracetamol is totally fine!

@Lauren441 still so excited by your test 😍

With my first and the chemical I was a poas addict but it definitely drove me mad with anxiety last month desperately trying to see progression whilst feeling like the lines wernt dark enough and didn't feel right.

Iv decided I will still try wait until Friday (12DPO) and then test every other day if I am lucky enough to get a positive to allow for clear progression to try and help not loose my mind OR be clear that it looks like another chemical

I know I sound mad but I got in such a bad way for the 2 weeks I was pregnant but didn't seem right with the chemical 😔

Laurzz · 29/06/2022 09:38

Congratulations @Lauren441 & @Maya12345 💕.

I have my 12 week scan on Friday and I've convinced myself there will be no heartbeat. The anxiety is unreal.

At my first midwife appointment a few weeks back we ran through a lot and she tried to re-assure me. I've dated myself 10+2 based on ovulation but the NHS calculations date me 12+1 today. My partner also admitted to me this morning he didn't sleep much last night worrying about Friday. We have agreed to have a chat tonight over dinner and prepare ourselves for whatever outcome and be keep talking to each other. Weirdly, I've had no morning sickness for over 2 weeks now and this morning it made a return. Only sick once but feel rubbish. never been so happy to throw up!!

Lauren441 · 29/06/2022 09:52

@Laurzz - woah, Friday! How exciting. This mornings sickness was a huge positive sign. So fingers crossed. Try not to get too stressed (I know it's impossible) but it's out of your control. I'm quietly confident you'll be fine.

Isnt it strange; I never once questioned any of these things on my DD. Got pregnant and didn't once enter my head I could MC. So had nothing but excitement for the 12 week scan. Like you, I'll be the same if I make it to 12 weeks too! A nervous anxious mess. 🙈 But I'm feeling confident for you. The sickness today was such a good sign. 🤞🏼🙏 Hang in there, you've got this.

@waitingwatchingpeeing - good plan! Try and hold off until Friday if u think itl make you obsessive with testing. Is your AF due on Friday too?

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