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Hi 3catstoo sorry you had a crap weekend

I miss Ready already

I am soooo busy with work its silly.

Hi hope you're both ok, missing you

Hi City.

I haven't been on here as I'm not feeling very happy and didn't want to come on and moan yet again. AF arrived 4 days early . Not that I expected to be pg nut even so I could have done without it. I'm feeling particularly emotional with it this month.

Nothings changed with DH.
More has happened on the 'other' front. I am totally ashamed of myself and can't believe I am getting mixed up like this. My head and heart are just in tatters at the moment.

Hope you are doing well. Please cheer me up with some happy 'baby' happenings.

Oh 3cats I am sorry to hear you are down You should always come on for a chat however you're feeling.. I can make pathetic attempts to cheer you up then...

Being too harsh on yourself will just make you more miserable. Everyone makes decisions they regret, but don't beat yourself up you can't change the past. Maybe try and focus on the positive things you have and build on them. You want to weigh up the risks and you're bound to feel low when faced with a complex situation. If there are people or things that are getting you down try and move on or focus on how to turn them around. Maybe talk things through with dh...
Either way here is a big hug winging its way from East London

I feel bad posting about baby stuff on here. so I'll keep it brief ... Had my first midwife appointment at St Thomas and am finally relaxing a bit. The other health authority I was with before was stressing me out and I hated the hospital. Heard the heartbeat and after a few days of it being quiet its squirming about again so fingers crossed.

Pop by tomorrow I'll try and be about when you are...

PS: Hi Ready, hope all is ok if you're out there. Dh has been asking daily if you're back yet. Fingers crossed you're ok and looking forward to starting your new job.

HI City - thanks for the kind words.

Talk baby stuff all you like. I'm pleased you are happier with the midwife.
When is your due date again?

I think I feel like a vulnerable, niave and naughty teenager who has given in to someones demands without really thinking of the consequences (especially on my emotions). And now feeling like a total slut (despite not having done the deed, iyswim).
I'm also feeling a bit obsessed. You know when someone doesn't get in touch for a while and you think they should (considering recent events) and all you do is find excuses to call or text, get no answer. I am sitting watching my phone every spare minute I get. Not healthy or helpful at all.
What a mess!

I think the main problem is that I thought this other diversion would ease the situation with DH and that I wouldn't get attached and it would all be non commital and fine.
I was wrong. I do feel emotionally involved now and my feelings are so obviously not recipricated (sp?).

Sorry I'm going on. I think it helps to write (or type) things sometimes to get them clear in your head. so feel free to not read my ramblings.

Have a great weekend.

thanks for the hug, I needed one.

ramble away... I love hugging so here's another one.

Emotions are tricky things aren't they we always try and convince ourselves we're not bothered but in really things can get very tricky.

Due 23 July... half way through now I think. Funny I think my bump is huge but a couple of people at work didn't realise and I had to tell them

I went swimming with dh earlier in the office pool... I looked like something out of a horror movie as I hadn't shaved my legs (forgot) and still have my mole removal bandages on! And I couldn't go in the hot tub which clearly confused passers by as to why the fat thing was dangling out of the water

Going to the baby show at Excel tomorrow with my SIL who is also due so fingers crossed that goes ok (we are very different)

I hope things pick up for you this weekend. Try not to feel down that will only make it worse and you don't want to feel ill. Maybe treat yourself to one of those free makeovers or a shopping trip with a mate to cheer you up? Take me virtually wine bar drinking with you!

Right off to tidy the flat before the relatives descend in the morning. catch up soon

Hope you had a great time at the baby show.

July is a nice time to have a baby. Half way - boy that has flown!

I'm sure you didn't look so bad at the pool.

Thanks for the extra hug, it is really appreciated.

Feel a bit better today but still pining after something I shouldn't and can't have. {blush]

thanks 3cats yes it was a better than expected day out. Just window shopping really. Hectic start... my BIL is the worst driver in the world to the point where all 3 passengers were shouting 'stop for the red light' at the top of our voices!

Did my legs today in case of any surprise inspections at the pool next time!

I am glad you're feeling a bit better. I hope you continue to

Glad you had a good day. Shame about the driving.

Trying to take it easy today as it's mothers day - won't last though. The housework doesn't do itself and the washing certainly won't get done if I don't get to it.

Have a relaxing Sunday.

Thanks 3catstoo... I went for lunch with my only RL pg friend and was wondering why dh was being funny about it... found out he had secretly booked lunch and was grumpy I hadn't kept it free! Still no harm done and then my brother cooked the family + new girlfriend dinner so hectic but v. nice....

I got a secret m day card that made me cry but then everything makes me cry at the moment!

I hope you're sat was relaxing Looking forward to catching up next week. Hi to Ready if you're there xxx

How sweet of your DH. Did you have a good lunch with your friend though?

I kept busy yesterday. The children were a bit grumpy because I didn't want to do what they wanted and DH said it was my choice as it was Mothers Day. They were soooo grumpy all day.

DH was very kind and did a bit of ironing for me - a first!

Today I have a bit more time on my hands to think - not a good thing. Heaps of housework to do but no motivation.

Have a good week.

It's finally snowing !!!!!
It's just started, quite heavy too.

The children think it's fantastic that they are going to walk to school in the snow.

Hope it sticks.

Wow no snow here... mind you never snows here and if it does everything grinds to a halt!

I hope it lifts your mood too

I am in dappy hormone world. I locked myself out today!

Hi girls... just popping in really briefly. Wanted to see how you both were, and couldn't just lurk and not post hello.
Sounds like you are going through the mill still 3cats, I hope you are looking after yourself - I echo everything that City has said. Big hugs.
City, half way!! How exciting - time just flies doesn't it! Had to chuckle at your big bump tale - I am sure you look lovely and glowing

No news here, still temping and waiting for the clearance - am hoping it won't be too much longer, but we are looking at brochures and going to have a good holiday this year whatever happens! Something to look forward to

xx

PS. City, dh locked himself out today too - hope it's a good fertile sign

Oh my god Ready I missed you xxx dh did too says hello... he asks me every evening if you've popped back in!

Sorry to hear your dh locked himself out! Ask him if he's been doing stupid things like traveling in the wrong direction and eating lots of jelly... he may need his hormones checked

Holiday sounds like a great idea! I recommend Rodney Bay in St Lucia... The area is lovely? there are lots of hotels (you want the ones located on Reduit Beach)
There and nice restaurants to walk to and the area is safe. There are boat tours to other bits of the Island or you can get a cab.

We stayed here: www.expedia.co.uk/pub/agent.dll/qscr=dspv/nojs=1/htid=119616

This gives you an idea of what it looks like: www.stayinstlucia.co.uk/rodneybay.html

Restaurants recommended: Charthouse www.frommers.com/destinations/stlucia/D40072.html
www.gowealthy.com/articles/826/index.asp

Things to do there:
www.stlucia.org/activity/default.asp

I highly recommend the Gros Islet Friday night jump:
www.stlucia.org/activity/nightlife.asp

Or find a Villa with a pool in South of France/ Italy and like bunnies...

I hope the job is good when it starts

I went swimming again today and trust me I do not look glowing. Unless you count the traffic light style very [whispers] back acne I have developed from nowhere

3cats are you feeling ok still? Any news? Any plans for the weekend?

Whispers... wish me luck... scan tomorrow am v nervous...

So sweet of you, and your dh to miss me. I have missed you too

dh locked himself out today, last week got half way up the m6 and realised he had left his wallet at home - no jelly eating though

Thank you for your holiday links... this year we are thinking of Europe as we will only get a week (dh is best man end of june, and as you know, he gets a limited amount of time off in the summer) away. Have you been to Corsica? I liked the look of it, and I could have a go at speaking the language too Definitely some "bunny" action will be on the cards though

Good luck tomorrow, I am sure all will be well - let us know

Oh Ready pleased you missed us We'll always be here. I thought you might be sick of me popping back in here posting. I still don't feel right over in the pg thread. Nice bunch but I got really used to ttc mode.

I hope you've got a fun weekend planned looking into holidays. Haven't been to Corsica but its meant to be really nice.
www.tripadvisor.co.uk/Tourism-g187139-Corsica-Vacations.html
You could also spend time in Nice, the South of France is lovely! You could do the whole french maid thing ! Being best man is a tough job he'll need some rest!

Scan went well, all measures ok. The head is big and legs are long we are both tall and my dh has a big head.... We wanted to get a nice photo but he wasn't having any of it. Hands in front of the face despite walking round the block and eating sugar which were meant to help still just pleased with the readings. Will try and relax a bit more now, so far I've just found being pg a worrying waiting game.

Let us know where you're heading on hols, 3cats do you have any trip planned or recommended places to go? I'm off to dream of the beach!

Hullo girls... hope you are both well?? What's new?

Corsica idea has been dumped... we are looking at Madeira now.

I have to confess to looking at your profile city and I am so glad I did... lovely pics. I reckon you are going to have a boy (hope you don't mind me offering up my opinion ) Glad the scan went well and you are feeling a little more relaxed now.

I've been busy temping, and knitting and all the normal stuff

Went to see Be Kind Rewind at the weekend, brilliant!!!

Hi City and Ready.

City, I'm pleased your scan went well. Love the pics too!

All of those destinations sound fab Ready.
I am not so well travelled. I do like Cyprus though (when it's not full of Brits trying to make it more like home!)
I guess I like the food too. I must confess every time I've been I always get horny . Must be the heat and the lovely healthy salads.

I long for a holiday like that. Not for a good few years with the childen. Wouldn't be quite the same!!

I'm feeling better this week, despite having a huge row with DH at the weekend when we both threatened to leave . We are friends again but nothing was resolved.

Ready I have been doing the Davina DVD that you recommended. It's quite hard going for someone as unfit as me but I loved it so much that I did it from start to finish the first time I watched it. DS did it with me too (although not properly). I have joined a gym too. so that's all cheered me up. I can see why people get addicted because it has given me a real buzz. DH isn't so keen though as he thinks I'm making too much of an effort to improve myself .
I don't need to lose weight (well not much!) but I do need to get fit and toned. It's nice to have something that is for me too as most things I do are for the DCs, which is cool, but after 9 years I feel I deserve some me time.

Sorry that was a long ramble. a positive one this time - what's going on!

Still mixed up in the 'other' mess but it's all talk, iyswim. And it's keeping me sane (well near enough). Certainly helped my mood this week anyway.

Nice to hear from you again Ready. City and I both missed you .

Keep us posted on the holiday front. I'm so envious .

Big hugs to you both.

xxxxx

3cats, how are you? Sorry to hear that you had a big row, and threatened to leave and also sorry that things are not resolved.

I am pleased that you got the dvd, it?s good fun isn?t it. And I love that your ds does it with you. It will get easier the more you do it, as your fitness level builds. I am with you on the buzz you get from a work out ? that?s how I feel, I always feel great after a workout

I have to say, your dh is a bit mean for saying he doesn?t like you working out ? you should only improve yourself for you? and if you want to then good on you!

I?m not massively well travelled either, I?ve been to Cyprus, in fact, my first holiday abroad was Cyprus, and I loved it ? and we were thinking of going back, but to Limassol rather than Protarus ? but then I saw Madeira and thought it looked wonderful. Had to chuckle at you getting horny on hols ? all that heat does have an effect ? presume that must be with the Mediterranean people are so passionate

Well, I haven?t had any temping this week, which was nice. And my boss rang, they are trying to pull some strings to get me in quicker ? won?t hold my breath though.

What?s the plan for the weekend then ladies?

Dh has to go and meet his bestmate to sort out suits for his wedding, dh is best man (I?ve said that already haven?t I )? then he will be at work, although unfortunately this season is a bust, and he probably won?t play again which means looking for another club in the summer ? doesn?t seem 5 minutes since we were last in this dilemma. But then Saturday night, chilling? Sunday lunch at his mum?s ? joy

Hi Ready,

I hadn't thought about the meds being so passionate - it must be the heat then.

I can't imagine how I would be if I lived there .

I am working out for me and I love it. I would be at the gym every day if I could. I go with a friend and we have such a laugh. We both have a moan and get things off our chests (mostly me at the moment I must admit). I have told her what's going on and it's such a relief to be able to talk to someone in RL about my current situation both with DH and the other.
she is totally honest with me and hasn't judged me for my recent bad behaviour.

Sorry to hear DH has to look for another club. I'm a bit clueless when it comes to football clubs I'm afraid. DH is an avid Tottenham fan. so it's been a bit up and down for him lately. It doesn't effect his mood too much though so I should be thankful.

Was it good to have a break this week then?

I think the weather will dictate our plans this weekend. Hopefully no arguing though.

Have a fab weekend

3cats, it was lovely to have a break from working this week. Hopefully it won?t be long though before I am working full-time in my proper job, a little bit of a routine will be good for me I think.

You would be on-fire if you lived in the Med

My dh is a spurs fan too, and would have loved to have played for them, sadly that was not meant to be. Where is he is meant to be, only time will tell

It?s great that you are going to the gym, and really enjoying yourself, and also that you have someone in RL that you can share all your feelings with ? it?s great that you can get stuff off your chest, and know she is not judging you!

The weather is not looking brilliant here, but at least it is not raining today! I have cleaned my kitchen this morning, but so far nothing else , so I better get off my back side and do something.

Hope you are having a good weekend, and no arguments

No arguments yet!

It did rain here, hasn't stopped yet.

Who is your DH playing for at the moment then? (not that I know many teams )

Glad to hear no argument

I am pretty sure I jinxed myself, because it rained all afternoon yesterday and has rained all day today. Cold, damp and dreary.

I hope you don't mind, but I'd rather not say dh's team, I'd be happy to tell you on CAT, but I fear I would "out" myself on here, as I know friends come on here, but don't know I am on here - hope you don't think I am being a baby And to be honest, you'd probably not have heard of his team - they are not in the top flight

dh is watching spurs as I type - not a happy chappy, so suspect it is the same in your house.