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Hope England winning meant you had a fab evening Ready .

I have a migraine today. Strange day to have one. Can't be cycle related .

I thought DH might pay me some attention last night. He got some exercise, England won, I thought that might spur him on. But no, he chose to sit in front of the tv for a whole hour after I went to bed (which wasn't early either).

I think perhaps he just doesn't 'fancy' me anymore.

It makes the attention from elsewhere seem so much more welcome (does that make sense?).

Still no further than before on that front either but makes me feel wanted nevertheless.

I think maybe DH and I have just grown apart after 13 years and it's only just beginning to show (to me anyway, he's oblivious).

We will get to spend some time alone together in a few weeks time, so I'm hoping we can air a few issues and better our relationship.

Oh 3catstoo I am worried about you. I hope the time together helps. Are there any options to talk it through with a third party if things get tough?

Thank you for your concern and support Ready and City.

I am worried about the state of my relationship with DH too. I think the main problem is that he thinks everything is fine. It will be good to talk things through without children around. There's nothing worse than needing to talk/argue/debate but having to think about what the children are hearing. We tend not to discuss too much in front of them. When they are around they consume all of the time so it is impossible to talk to eachother. Probably also where the problem lies. The children are our (especially mine) lives and we have kind of drifted apart without realising.

Well the migraine I think was actually the same bug as the children had. I had a high temp, was shivering, aching limbs, feel sick, sore throat, headache etc. All the same as the current bug that has swept through school.
Also have a red rash over my chest, tummy and back.
Hoping it will be short lived and I will back on form for the weekend.

Have you both got busy weekends planned?

I think that it is important to get some alone time with dh, and talk things through. I also think it is important to be completely open with him about how you are feeling, tell him that you feel as if he doesn't fancy you anymore.

I do hope that your rash clears up - that could be a sign of stress? and getting ill is because your defences are low.

You really are going through the mill at the moment aren't you I do hope you turn a corner soon. Thinking of you!

It's my birthday sunday, so dh planned a day of activities, and I have no idea what yet - but looking forward to it anyway

Happy Birthday for tomorrow Ready.

Rash all now. I think it was part of this virus. Still aching but feel much better.

Happy Birthday Ready

I hope you stop aching soon 3catstoo...

Did you have a fab day Ready?

Hi City. I feel much better thanks.

Hey girls... I had such a fantastic day. It was all a total surprise and it was so much fun. First we drove out to a michelin starred gastropub, which was soooo scrummy!! I was fit to pop at the end of the meal then it was on to the next surprise, which was tickets to see RhodGilbert (welsh comedian) at a comedy club, and I haven't stopped laughing. All the way home I was chuckling away. A wonderful day!!

Glad you are feeling better 3cats

City, how are you chick? Getting nice and fat

Oh I am pleased you're feeling better 3catstoo, I hope things look up.

Ready sounds like a great birthday I love birthdays and comedy stuff!

I am good. Celebrating as I got the all clear from my mole biopsy this afternoon.
I have a small bump and fingers crossed its still ok.

I hope you both have a nice evening

Sounds like a great birthday Ready.

Good news about the mole City. Like the sound of the little bump .

Think I'm being messed about with by this 'other' man. Still texting, just about but I really think he's screwing with my head. The worst thing is I'm hooked and can't get him out of my head. Why do BS have this magnetic appeal?

I think it's case of bad timing really. If DH and I had been fine then I think I could have let this other one pass by.

I have no will power right now. Good thing it's just texts.

Must get on with my housework now as I have a houseful tonight.

xxxxxxx

thanks 3catstoo.. maybe its the attention and excitement? You'll know deep down what the best way forward is xxx

Ready when does your new job start? I hope its good.

You're right City.

I feel like a complete fool today. We had arranged to meet up today (second failed attempt)but he called it off with a pathetic excuse. Second time he's done it.
I feel so silly for being taken in and constantly let down. Now I feel worse than I did before this thing started.

Hope you are both OK.

It's a lovely day here, just a bit cold but beautifully bright and sunny. Something to cheer me up at least.

3catstoo don't feel silly, its just a complicated position you're in. You just need to decide what you really want going forwards and don't beat yourself up life's too short.
The sun really cheered me up too until it got dark and then got surprisingly cold!

Happy Valentines Day.

Hope the day brings some sunshine and happiness to all of us.

xxxxxx

Darn, sorry, I haven?t been on in a couple of days. Happy Valentine?s to you both! DH and I made cards for each other, as we do every year ? but we decided not to get presents this year and treated ourselves to a chocolate bar and had half each Really pushed the boat out, didn?t we

Have signed up with a couple of temp agencies, so we shall see what that brings, but I suspect it means even less time for MN ? but it should ease me back into the world of full-time work gently

3cats, I am sorry that you felt like a fool yesterday, this man sounds like he enjoys leading you on, but clearly doesn?t have the bottle to follow it through ? which in a way I hope works out better for you. I suspect you would never forgive yourself if you actually went and met up with him. So perhaps it is for the best. It really is a complicated situation you find yourself in, and I agree with City, don?t beat yourself up ? you just need to decide what happens next. Grab control of the situation and do what feels right for you.

City, I am so pleased to hear that you got the all clear on your biopsy. I am sure it was a really nerve-wrecking time, but thankfully you can put that past you now. Hugs. I like the sound of your little bump ? when is your next scan? I can?t remember if I have already asked, but are you hoping to find out the gender? Have you been allowing yourself some fantasy shopping (or dare I say it, some RL baby shopping)?? I hope so. You deserve it chick!!
Still not got a date for starting the job, security clearance can take up to 3 months apparently ? hence the temping agencies. We shall see. Can?t wait to get in now.

Right? well, not really much else to say from this end. 8dpo, feeling totally indifferent about it all ? really not going to kid myself that it might happen this month.

Ready,

DH and I didn't get each other anything either. I just got the usual phonecall asking what's for supper!

3 months is a long time, hope you find something in the meantime.

Thank you both for your support in my complicated goings on.

Hey guys a belated Happy Valentines Day!...

[quietly squeeks] We got to hear the heartbeat today at the midwife appointment and that was the best present as we haven't heard it since the operation...

We're going to keep the gender a surprise but think its a boy (for no scientific reason!) I had to buy maternity clothes last month and we have ventured into a couple of baby departments where dh singlehandedly destroyed the baby carrier display much to the annoyance of the snotty sales assistant! (accident) He seems smitten with them so we'll definitely get one of them! Then I went shopping with my Mum who really wound me up with comments like... you won't need that, of course you won't get that, you must get that etc! All I could think was I bloody well will..

We'll wait until after the 20 week scan and just get the basics.. there is still a long way to go and I don't want to tempt fate...

Wow are you joining MI5 Ready that's some clearance! You could be spending all day with those fit Spooks guys cool! Is Ready your code name?!

Fingers crossed things work out for everyone this month in the ttc, love departments...
I so want it for you both!

Right I am off to calm down dh and will try to persuade dh not to kill the customer service people tomorrow as the flowers weren't delivered!

City, I am pleased you are keeping the gender a surprise so exciting about the heartbeat ? wonderful!! Had to laugh about your mum and her comments ? my MIL would be just like that, and I would be just like you ? I totally understand you not wanting to tempt fate ? but it can?t hurt to have a look Enjoy yourself a little, you deserve it! Not joining MI5 no? MOD though so

3cats, hope you are doing ok today? ? the weekend is here. Are the children on half term though? So have you had them home all week, I suspect the weekend won?t be any different

Right, I better go and serve up dinner. My tummy is rumbling

MOD sounds cool no messing with you then!

Yes secretly I know she's very excited but outwardly annoyingly smug. I think we may buy a couple of bits after the 20 week scan we shall see!

Hi 3cats I hope you are enjoying the sun

I'm off to remove the scary facemask! Who said being pg makes your skin look glowing!

MOD sounds exciting Ready.

My children are on half term this coming week. We are all out of sink with other counties.

The sun is good but I have yet another migraine. The fact that I only had soup for supper might be why. Not eating enough and skipping meals is the main course other than when AF is due and then I get one.

Feeling a bit better now though. Got some fresh air.

We are having an easy day as it is the first day of the hols for the children. DH has a long weekend off too so he's chilling today.

Children are away with my family for a few days next week so I will have some 'me' time. I have planned to meet up with friends on 2 evenings for a meal. Still have to cook for DH though (he may just get jackets pots and beans !!)

My skin didn't glow City, when I was pg. Maybe you will start to glow later on.
A surprise will be nice. I knew twice but the middle one was a surprise. I had guessed wrongly too!

Anyway, enjoy the rest of the weekend. Will probably catch up midweek when I am free of the DCs and DH.

Hi girls... I hope you are both well. I am going to be taking a mini break from MN, I don't think it is particularly helping me at the moment.

I feel drained and heart-broken at the moment. I feel pre-menstrual and my temp dipped again - which means that CD1 will be tomorrow or the next. Sigh. I just cannot face another cycle of disappointment

I am sorry for being crap and not doing a proper post... but I am going to lie on the sofa this evening and veg! Please feel free to CAT me though, if either of you need to vent, or rant, or tell me some wonderful news Back soon x

Oh Ready I'll miss you. Big hugs please don't go forever

I am sorry you're feeling so low. Please pop back even if just for a moment whenever you're up to it!

I hope the new job works out too....

Ready, will miss you heaps but totally understand.

Hope you feel better soon and good luck with the job.

City, how are you doing?

I had a crap weekend with DH, again. Feel better today as he is back to work.