Faith, trust & baby dust! ✨💕✨ TTC 12 months + 🤞🏼 On this rollercoaster together with a little love, support and giggles to get us by! 💕

[HopefulGlow]

Hi all!

We were getting to the end of the previous thread, so thought it’s best to start a new one.

A quick catch up I think mainly everyone on the old thread is as 12 months + TTC.

Newbies are always welcome.

Just sharing our journeys, supporting each other when possible, and having somewhere to moan and let it all out

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@AZ1992X I’m so happy you can get a free scan, that will definitely help.

Of course waiting to make sure seems like a good idea. I really hope the days fly by for you. It must be so difficult trying to settle your brain right now. So make sure you take extra care of yourself 💕

@Amy259 yeah I can count on one hand the amount of times I’ve seen it (when I wipe) sorry for TMI. I know a lot of people get it quite a bit so it’s been a worry. I have some evening primrose too! So I will make sure I start taking it again from my next period, thank you! ☺️

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@Amy259 thank you, defo a bag of emotions right now. Both happy and very anxious. I was nearly in tears when I saw the line.

That sounds a great idea having small milestones - I’ll defo do that. I started spotting exactly three weeks after my bfp although it took about a week and a half to confirm due to having to wait a week in between the scans.

@HopefulGlow thank you ❤️, I’ll try too! I’m off for a week after Friday and I think that’ll do me the world of good.

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Hi all, I'm new to mumsnet. I joined as I don't really have anyone to talk to regarding this roller coaster ride. It's good to be able to share similar experiences and support each other over here.

We have been trying for our first baby for about 14 months/cycles. My cycles are very regular, so really didn't think I had an issue until it kept failing every month. I have had a day 21 blood test done which was normal apart from prolactin levels, which my GP hasn't really clarified. She has referred me to the fertility clinic, but that was back in August and I still haven't heard from them. Apparently it'll take another 6 months (according to the girl at the clinic I spoke to over the phone)!

We have been trying different things over the year (pre-seed, OPKs, supplements and more recently "fertilily cup" - anyone heard of this or tried it?), with no luck.

Really getting to a point where I'm slowly losing hope as I am now over 36. Everyone around me is getting pregnant/having first, second and third babies, in-laws asking me when we will "give them good news". Sorry for the negativity, just losing my mind at the minute and just needed to vent.

Good luck to everyone and hope we all get that BFP this month! Lots of love

@AZ1992X I bet you were, did you have any inclination other than af not arriving? There are some lovely statistics on the Tommy’s website about mc/bfp after mc, although I’m sure only time will really put you at ease.

The milestones really keep me sane, and make praying we get to the 12 week mark so much less overwhelming too. I had digital week progressions and everything on list so I could see lots of ticks haha. I’m 7 weeks today and feel absolutely rotten 🤢 scan next Thursday to keep me ticking over xx

@Tinkerbell098 welcome, and sorry you’ve found yourself here ♥️

I think most of us are similar, no one in real life we know of who has been through it. These gals really helped me through some of the toughest times, and continue to be super supportive.

That’s good that your GP did your bloods - I take it they confirmed ovulation okay? I was the told the same when I was referred, 6-12 months, but ended up getting my first call within 3 months so 🤞🏻 it’s similar for you. That was in Scotland.

I tried all the same things as you, and some whacky other ones haha, including the fertilily which I did actually quite like because I felt like I was doing something and. it certainly couldn’t be doing any harm 🤷🏼‍♀️

Don’t be sorry for negativity - we all get like that sometimes and it’s good to get it out in a place where people understand. Where are you on your cycle this month?

@Amy259 thanks for the kind words. Hope I hear back from the fertility clinic. It's been three months now, so hopefully not too long to wait (I'm in England, so probably takes a little longer).

I'm currently on CD19 so on the TWW, which always seem to take forever!

So happy for you and hope the scan goes well next week. Keep us updated :)

@Amy259 Nothing really, my bbt dropped slightly so I was sure I was out but it went right back up today - going to stop testing bbt I think now or I’ll drive myself crazy. Did have slight sore boobs but very slightly and I’ve had it before and had negatives so didn’t think it would of been that.

That does sound like a good idea as getting to 12 weeks feels like a lifetime away, so I’ll take it a day then week at a time. I bet you cannot wait till your scan, not too long left to go. I hope you’re getting plenty of rest if you’re feeling a little icky ❤️ Xx.

Hi ladies... I've been a bit quiet so just catching up. Hope you're all okay?

Morning ladies!

Hope you’re all well and looking forward to the weekend?

Not much to update here, tests aren’t progressing as much as I had hoped (I think they all look about the same) , trying to stay positive as it’s still very early and I’m hoping they’ll pick up in the next few days x.

@AZ1992X how are you feeling now you have all this time off? Can I join you? 😂

I’m sorry to hear you’re still worried about the BFP line, I thought the first response looked quite dark? How many times have you tested now?

Welcome @Tinkerbell098 the title of this post was made for you ☺️ So sorry you’re joining us on this journey! It’s so frustrating waiting for fertility support too.

People don’t understand how insensitive and triggering it can be asking these “harmless” questions. Have you and your OH had all your tests?

@Amy259 sorry you’re feeling so gross 🤦🏼‍♀️ is it an all day thing? Or just in waves? Have you had any sickness yet? Also boobs, they were your first sign right? How are they feeling! Sorry for the 20 questions 😂

@xoJellyBean hi!! It’s been a while, you okay? There’s always so much to catch up on with us lot.

Well today has been such a pain! My OH rang me and said one of my rabbits had attacked our other rabbit, randomly, and she died. So I was sat crying at work!!

I’ve had super cramps on my left side today, so I think I’m ov on this side this month 😫 last time this happened it was uncomfortable to have sex too! We had to be super gentle.

Got a couple of house viewings this weekend AND some more stuff with the solicitors to sort out my OH child custody. I feel like my head will explode 🤯

What’s everyone’s plans this weekend? Sorry for the rant and being mardy! ✨💕✨

@AZ1992X ahh sorry to hear the lines are toying with you ♥️ How many DPO are you now? I found it so hard not to fixate on them but it totally consumed me for a couple of days. Keeping my fingers crossed for some obvious darkening in the morning 🤞🏻

@HopefulGlow it’s aaaall day, I have to get DH to bring me toast in bed before I even sit up in the morning to ease it off before I get up, god love him 😂 it’s just constant queasiness, which eases off with small amounts of bland food but only for about 20 mins then I feel sick again. It’s bleak! I’m so so grateful (I know i keep saying that but I feel like I need it to be known when I’m moaning) but I wasn’t expecting all day nausea 😂 No actual vomiting, nipples still on fire 👍🏻

I’m so so sorry to hear about your wee rabbit! That must’ve been such a shock and is so sad 💔 the wee pet. Plus painful ovulation and custody chat - this is not a relaxing Friday for you. Sending you lots of love!!

House viewings is exciting, I don’t think I knew you were moving.. or I’ve missed it, sorry! Hopefully that’ll be a fun distraction from the rubbishy, not so fun things xxx

@Amy259 auuuugh that’s so frustrating having all day queasiness!! Hopefully that eases off soon.

We know you are still grateful but can still moan for feeling rotten 😁

Honestly, we don’t understand what happened. They’re house bunnies and always play and clean each other. They’ve been together for ages so it’s so weird. I’m trying so hard not to hate the one that did it. 😔 I feel awful.

Awww thank you! Yeah the custody stuff is really having a drain on us. But we are doing all we can. 💗

we were told a few months ago our landlord is selling, then he isn’t, now he is 😂 soooo we are hoping to have somewhere before Christmas.

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@HopefulGlow it’s reassuring for sure, but I just didn’t expect to feel so unlike myself so soon haha. I genuinely believed that “morning sickness” was that you randomly, suddenly vomited out of nowhere but felt okay - how wrong was I 😂 apparently this is actually more common, feeling constantly about to be sick but not actually.

That’s so awful, and yeah it must be hard not to resent the one left a bit.. did your OH just find her this morning? So sad 😢

Wow that’s quite the upheaval just before Christmas! Are you planning to buy now or are you on the hunt for somewhere to rent? Exciting but stressy I’m sure.

Scan is Thursday evening… trying not to think about it too much but quite nervous. If all goes well, I’ll be telling work on Friday which I’m terrified about too. Still deciding when to tell parents!

@HopefulGlow I am okay thank you 🥰 CD25 and yet to find my peak opk 🙃 so sorry to hear about your wee rabbit!! That's heartbreaking

@HopefulGlow so happy to finally have a nice break from work and I’m going away next week so looking forward to that.

Maybe it’s just the cheapies that I’ve been using since and haven’t seen much progression.

@Amy259 I’m CD 15 today, still not seeing much on these ones. Trying not to think too much into it as I did another type of test that had a better line on.

@HopefulGlow so sorry to hear about your rabbit, that’s awful ❤️. Sounds like a very stressful day with that and custody stresses too.

House hunting sounds good though! I used to love it, hope you find somewhere nice. Keep us posted and I hope you have a nice weekend ❤️ X.

@HopefulGlow oh I'm so sorry about your bunny 😢 that must be so horrible dealing not just the loss but the feelings towards the other one. Sounds like you have a lot of other stress on too, hope you find some time for yourself this weekend 💖

Feeling disappointed this morning as my boobs have continued to be unusually sore this week and I convinced myself it could be a good sign. Just got a bfn though and most cruelly, after waking up from a very realistic dream that it was a bfp 😭😭😭 My period is technically die today but I think I may have to wait another day or two as I ovulated late. Now trying to focus on having a nice weekend and keeping up with our lifestyle changes which hopefully will bring that bfp in a few more months 🤞

@xoJellyBean sorry I totally missed your post! How are you doing? Sorry to hear you’re struggling to find your peak, do you sometimes have late ovulation like that or is this totally random? Fingers crossed you don’t have long to wait…

@AZ1992X I think if you look at the ones 48 hrs apart it does look like they’re progressing? And certainly first to last! 🤞🏻

@Nora11 that’s so cruel, and after a bfp dream too 💔 loving the positivity though, here’s to your nice weekend and the lifestyle changes, and to a bfp just around the corner!

@AZ1992X, the line is definitely still there though :) I didn't even know it was possible to show pregnant from CD12! Do you normally ovulate really early?

Im on CD20 today so got about a week before AF is due. I dont bother testing until the day before just to like get it into my head that I'm not before AF comes. Gives it longer to sink in.

@Nora11 I had a BFP dream last night as well! Have had a couple over the past year and they seem so real it is slightly cruel. Fingerscrossed that AF doesn't appear for you xx

@Amy259 good luck with the scan! Are you going to share with family etc before the 12 weeks? I've been thinking what I would do if I were positive this time because I've got so many plans between now and Christmas that if I didnt drink it would be 100% obvious that I feel like I'd be as well just telling people 🙈

@Amy259 no worries 🥰 I was away on a hen weekend and have possibly missed it as I didn't test for two days but we have kept dtd so hopefully covered 🤞🏻 i have an appt with the fertility clinic on Tuesday anyway so looking forward to that. My ovulation is always allll over the place 😤 good luck with your upcoming scan. How many weeks?

@LA9610 @Nora11 I had the same bfp dream a couple of nights ago! Woke up thinking it was real🙈

@Amy259 oh no! That’s gotta be rough, constantly feeling on the edge of sickness. 😫

My mum was awful, she was so poorly I remember waking up in the mornings and rubbing her back when she had her head in the toilet. My sister was just as bad too. So I’m expecting to be the same 😅

I’ve read some people find certain foods they can handle and just stick with it. So toast and you hubby sounds like your saviour 😁

Yeah I feel so bad. It’s just so random because they cuddle all the time and spend all their time together. The one who died was called dumpling, she was such a tiny little thing. So cute. I will attach some photos of the little fluff ball 🥰 the little grey one is Dumpling and the white one is the evil, Yuki. 😫

Sadly with all the solicitors fees this year we can’t buy. So we are renting again. But I’m okay with that, as long as we have a lovely space to call home. The market is a little crazy at the moment though, some awful places for so much money!

Eeeek not long at all, I’m so excited for you!! How are you feeling about telling work?

@xoJellyBean Augh that’s so annoying! How have you been testing? LH or BBT? Are your cycles usually quite regular? Hoping you get some signs soon 💕

@AZ1992X maybe it is the cheap ones then? It’s good you got a darker line on another though. Do you have any other tests you can use? I’ve read that your hormones double every 3ish days? Is that’s true? If that’s the case you’re still very early. I really hope you get your darker lines and so it starts to feel real soon 💖

It’s been a nightmare since the start tbh, I just can’t wait for it to be over. I hate wishing time away but I honestly think the stresses do us no good with our health.

I’m the same!! I’ve been doing all the house hunting and I love it haha it gets frustrating that the market is so hard at the moment. I’ve never found it so difficult to view places, let alone apply for renting them. Houses are like gold dust recently!! 😂 we have 2 to view today. One is a good size but the kitchen and bathroom needs work and I think it’s overpriced. The other is smaller (bedroom wise) than what we have now, but it’s nicely done and there’s a conservatory. Which makes up for the fact it has less bedrooms? 🤔 Augh! So difficult!!

@Nora11 so sorry your boobs are toying with you again. I really hope you get your BFP!! It’s so difficult not to look at these things as signs though, because they are symptoms too. So it’s completely understandable why we let ourselves think it 💗

Augh! Why are your dreams teasing too!! I’ve had the same thing before, I was convinced it was a sign 🙄 damn brain teasing me.

@LA9610 ooo you’re an early tester too! There are a few on here. I always wait to see if I start my period.

Have you thought about what you would do if you get your BFP before Christmas? How will you style it off with family and such?

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@LA9610 I think we’ll tell our parents soon - I keep changing my mind haha. I feel so rough though that I’ve been avoiding them all, and there’s only so long I can get away with that! I’m due my NHS scan before Christmas but I think I’ll tell them even before that, might get another private one around 10 weeks, then tell extended family at Christmas when I’ll be 13.5 weeks. I genuinely couldn’t hide it even now in company, I feel/look rotten.

The 12 week thing is a bit silly really.. because there’s not much difference between 10 weeks and say 15 weeks? So I think we should all just tell people when it feels right for us. I just want to be past the stage where I’m saying “but it’s still really early” or “but don’t get too carried away..” when I tell them - I want it just to be a happy time.

@xoJellyBean a hen weekend, that’s fun! Did you get up to any fun/mad activities?
Is this your first appointment on Tuesday? It is, isn’t it? That’s exciting - it’ll be so good to get the ball rolling I’m sure. I’m only 7.5 weeks just now so I should be just over 8 at the scan. Still very early but 8 weeks is big milestone in terms of statistics so I’m hoping for good news and reassurance.

@HopefulGlow don’t get me wrong, I know I’m lucky not to be spewing my guts up every 5 minutes - it could be worse! But it gets worse by the day so who knows what’s coming 🙈

I’m not looking forward to telling work tbh, it’ll really increase my team’s workload in areas I can’t help and we’re already short on staff and another girl announced her pregnancy a few months ago and people were quite harsh behind her back.. which is very unfair. But it does leave just 2 colleagues in my team now who can do the risky stuff, which is intense given we cover the whole of central Scotland.

Got my fingers crossed for you that you find somewhere lovely to live! Is it today you’re off to see them? Xx

@Amy259 if you feel rotten, you feel rotten! Just because someone else said they felt worse doesn’t make you feel any better or magically make your nausea vanish 😂 I really hope it doesn’t get too bad though. Hoping you suddenly start to feel better and the glow you get is from happiness, not sweat/clammy nausea haha

Augh! I remember you saying about the other woman who announced too. That’s so unfair and ridiculous for them to blame her like that. People can be so harsh sometimes. At the end of the day you can only do what it’s safe to do. There’s a reason why they remove you off certain tasks.

Are they looking at hiring more staff any time soon? I hope they are supportive, the last thing you need is work stress.

Yes I have viewings today after my acupuncture appointment. So I’m quite excited. Although I’m feeling nervous about making a decision 😂 we want to stay there long term so I want to make sure it’s right.

I forgot to answer you before, sorry! But my OH phoned me at work. Saying he was in the other room cleaning and heard a squeak. He ran through and dumpling was lying on her side, dead, with lots of tufts of fur around. So horrible! ✨💕✨

@Amy259 yeah I agree, I personally don't think it makes much difference - especially if you've had an early scan. Each person should just do what feels right to them 💗 sorry to hear you are feeling so rotten!

@HopefulGlow hope the house viewings went well! Such a hard time to have to find property! Yeah I guess I am an early tester, I mostly just do it as my period always seems to be due right before the weekend or on it so I don't want getting AF to spoil my weekend especially if I have plans! Sorry to hear about your bunny too 😪 that's so sad, sending love.

Hope everyone is having a lovely weekend! X