Faith, trust & baby dust! ✨💕✨ TTC 12 months + 🤞🏼 On this rollercoaster together with a little love, support and giggles to get us by! 💕

[HopefulGlow]

Hi all!

We were getting to the end of the previous thread, so thought it’s best to start a new one.

A quick catch up I think mainly everyone on the old thread is as 12 months + TTC.

Newbies are always welcome.

Just sharing our journeys, supporting each other when possible, and having somewhere to moan and let it all out

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Hi all, sorry I dropped out for a while - crazy busy at work!

Sorry for your disappointment this month @HopefulGlow, hope you've been nice to yourself today. I always tell myself that I won't get my hopes up and that way I won't be disappointed, but it never works! How is your cake going?

@LA9610 I know what you mean about worrying about oversharing, I blurted it out to a friend at work one day - I think she'd asked me something quite casual about whether I was planning on having kids soon, and it all sort of came out. It's actually been quite nice though because she just occasionally checks in with me without making a big deal, but I know I can chat with her if I need to.

I missed a call from the doctor's today, they rang my DH and said I needed another blood test so he booked it for me - but it never occurred to him to ask what my results were and what the extra test was for! So trying not to stress about that now. I've emailed them and I'll ask when I'm in for the MMR tomorrow. Bit of a nightmare getting through even to reception at the moment - I was on hold for over 45 minutes last time!

@LA9610 I totally get what you mean about worrying about oversharing, I always feel the same when I open up about something! I'm sure your boss won't have thought that though, we are just so much harder on ourselves than anyone else who probably wouldn't give it much thought!

I don't think I'm going to go out of my way to tell my boss for now but if it comes up or I need to ask for any time off then I think I'll be honest next time.

@HopefulGlow it's a really nice breakfast and also makes me feel very virtuous! 😂 If you get frozen berries it is so easy too as you don't have to worry about them going off etc! In the morning I just defrost some blueberries for a few mins in the microwave then add a dollop of yoghurt, teaspoon of chia seeds, a few walnuts and a little bit of honey.

@AZ1992X I have such a sweet tooth too! I've been having a square of dark chocolate after dinner all week which just takes the edge off and stops me bingeing my way through chocolate/biscuits until I feel stuffed which is what I would usually be tempted to do 😬 definitely a good idea to enjoy some treats on the weekend too! Otherwise it's just miserable especially at this time of year!

Morning ladies,

Happy Friday!! Hope everyone’s doing ok, anyone got any nice plans for the weekend?

Morning all! HAPPY FRIDAY!!

Sorry for the delay I’ve just been pooped and zoned out.

@AZ1992X how are you feeling?

Your weekend sounds lovely! 😍 and there will definitely be Christmas things out too hehe you can enjoy those 💕

I’m going to see my nephew for his birthday on Saturday then Sunday I want to rest and paint I think. Nothing too exciting.

@Amy259 I know this month hasn’t been great. First thrush then a UTI. I used to get UTI all the time, I was in hospital once with it. So I was really worried that would happen again. But it’s eased off now thank goodness. The doctors all say to drink lots of water…I drink 2-3litres a day and I still get them haha I got some probiotics with cranberry so I’m hoping that helps 🤞🏼😁

How are you and the little bean feeling? Any new symptoms? Overall feeelings? I hope you’re easing into it and it’s starting to sink in now!!

@Msrivia thank you! I ended up being okay overall I think. I honestly didn’t think I was so that helped. Just the usual pang of disappointment but nothing I haven’t had before haha

I’m feeling better now and ready for my period to end and a new cycle to begin. I have lots to distract me this month so hopefully I can stay positive.

Have you spoken to your doctors yet to find out about those bloods? My doctors was engaged for 3 hours the other day. I couldn’t even get through to be in the queue! They’re awful.

@Nora11 I’m having a breakfast inspired by you today! I got myself some alpro yogurt. I already have berries in the freezer and I’m going to do some chia seeds and flax seeds on top 😍 I’m not sure if I have to walnuts! I need to check 😁 I’m actually excited haha

I find lunch tricky when it’s cold like this. I just wasn’t cosy warm foods. But tbh I do love a good salad 🤔 what sort of meals have you been planning?

I also have a lovely recipe for sweet potato brownies! Sounds gross but honestly they’re so good haha I will find it and link it here.

[https://pin.it/6vaSRpd]

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pin.it/6vaSRpd there we go 😂

Morning @HopefulGlow

You don’t need to say sorry, we all need some time out sometimes.

I’m doing ok thank you, much better now I’ve broken up for the weekend. Just about to go out for the day - hoping it’ll be a good distraction!

Oh yes, I remember you talking about that - hope it goes ok - I know you was a little nervous ❤️

A chill day Sunday sounds great! X.

Happy Friday gang!

@HopefulGlow I’m okay thank you - ready to go home tomorrow after this week of work though. I’m feeling a bit run down and rough, which I’m not complaining about and I’m taking as a good sign, but I’d rather feel like that in my own house 😂 still big, sore heavy boobs and queasy 99.9% of the time haha.

I’m glad your UTI has eased off, that must’ve been so worrying having been in hospital before.

Speaking of food, the farmer’s wife has been bringing us soup every lunch time and now I’m determined to get making some when I get home - it’s definitely soup season!

I’ve heard about sweet potato brownies before but never made them. I’m a bit of a rubbish baker tbh, much more of a cook!

Hope your nephews birthday goes well, this is the one where your SIL has just announced isn’t it? Hope you’re feeling okay about it all ♥️

@AZ1992X glad you’re keeping busy and distracted from your wait. Got everything crossed for you xxx

Hi ladies,

My husband and I have been TTC for a year now. We conceived very quickly (almost accidentally) with our first baby who is now 18months old. So the fact it is taking this long now is a whole new world for me! I don’t know many other women TTC and those I do were pregnant within 6 months! Any reassurance would be greatly appreciated!

@HopefulGlow hope you enjoyed your berries and yoghurt! I know what you mean about lunches! I am lazy with lunch so every day we normally have a chicken sandwich on wholemeal bread, with a bit of salad. But I work very close to the canteen and it's so hard to resist the smell of tasty food cooking!

I will have to try the sweet potato brownie recipe sometime! I have tried avocado brownie before (didn't make it myself!) Which was not too bad but I can't say I was a big fan... But I feel like sweet potatoes would work better!

I'm planning to try this recipe next week, it looks nice and also quite quick/easy which is what I need in the week! www.pickuplimes.com/recipe/vegetable-noodle-stir-fry-with-peanut-lime-sauce-131

Tonight we are going to make a big batch of chicken stew that will hopefully last us a few days... With as many veggies added as possible 😂 love a good stew at this time of year!

@AZ1992X I hope your weekend is going well? Have you kept distracted?

I’m just thinking of what to do for dinner today. I might do a pie! My OH loves corned beef pie, so might treat him.

@Amy259 it was lovely thank you! It was a very stressful day before, but it was nice to see everyone.My SIL is showing already! It’s crazy! She’s only a couple of months.

Are you home from work now? Your job sounds crazy but so much fun! I bet it’s nice to be home.

Oooo soup & stew season 😍😍 I might have to make some this week too! With some nice crusty bread to dip in. Which soup will you go for?

@Beffylou welcome and sorry to hear about your struggles!! It’s great news about your first though, it means it’s definitely possible ☺️ Have you spoken to your doctor at all? Thought about tests and lifestyle changes etc
It’s such a hard journey to be on!

@Nora11 ooo that peanut stir fry looks so good 😍😍😍 I may have to make that this week. I need a new wok though, I’m currently using a large pan but it’s not the same haha my veggies end up sautéed, not stir fried 😂

I made an avocado mousse once….it tasted like avocado haha for me it’s too much of a distinct flavour to disguise. I love the stuff…but maybe not in sweet things.

Ladies…some of you may know me and my partner DTD a lot. 😂 most days, sometimes more than once a day. It’s just how we are…well…my OH got that home SA test through the post. It said to wait 2-3 days of no sex/ejaculation before doing the test…. 2-3 days!!!!! 😂😂 needless to say we just did it, we had sex the day before, just to see what it would say! We didn’t send it off, you do it all at home with a little slider, reader and phone app thing. So cool but weird.

Anyway, his results were all good, apart from the mobility…so he said why don’t we wait and only have sex every other day or every 3 days during FW….how the hell will I cope?? I don’t know if I should be happy he’s wanting to try new things for our BFP, or upset he wants to hold off 😂😂

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Afternoon everyone!

Hope everyone’s having a nice weekend?

@HopefulGlow Yes, it been lovely thank you, we went out Friday for the day and went out for lunch & cake. Yesterday OH ended up working so we didn’t end up going shopping which I was gutted about - going to try going next weekend, went for a walk instead and then just had a chill day then ended up going out for Brunch this morning with family last minute which was really nice.

Pie sounds lovely! I love pie 😍 , do you make it from scratch?

Yes, I remember you saying that, I’m glad TTC hasn’t affected your sex life too much, I know it does for a lot of couples. I’ve got to say though I wish I had the energy to do it that much 😂😂

It sounds like it could be worth a shot doing it slightly less? You could try giving it a go and see how you get on?

@Amy259 how are you feeling? , hoping your home now and managing to rest a little?

@AZ1992X your weekend sounds lovely 😍 sorry you didn’t get to go shopping, hope you get to go next weekend! More Christmassy stuff will be out then so it’s even better 😁😁

Brunch with your family sounds so nice too 😍😍

I watched the 12 dates of Christmas today!! It was so cheesy! I loved it 🥰

I think we will try it, might as well! How do you guys do it? Is it every other day starting the first day of your FW? Is it better to try the day before ovulation or the day of? ✨💕✨

@HopefulGlow yes that’s true, hopefully they’ll be loads of Christmassy stuff out. ☺️

It was thank you - I’m feeling a little guilty for all these meals out the last few days 🙈, I’ll be back to normal tomorrow!

Ah I’ve not heard of that one - another to add to the list. 🎄

We normally do every other day from around CD10/12 then when I get high opks do it daily until after I’ve ovulated. On my peak or ovulation day I have sometimes done twice as I figured why not as we get a rest after that so nothing to lose by doing it more.

Sorry @HopefulGlow apparently the stats are very similar for the day before or day itself.

Morning ladies!

Hope everyone’s week is going ok.

AF was due by today and no sign this morning so decided to test. I got the vvv faintest line on the cheap strips so did an early detection one which had a slightly better line but still quite faint. It’s still so early so don’t want go get my hopes up in case it’s a chemical or doesn’t progress.

P.s I’m so sorry if anyone didn’t want to see this as it’s triggered any emotions - I really don’t mean too. ❤️❤️

Ahhh that's exciting @AZ1992X, got my fingers crossed that the line keeps getting darker. Amazing news!

Don't worry, I think when it's someone you know who has been struggling to you don't feel the same emotions as when you just randomly get hit with a 'we're pregnant' and it coming as a shock. That's how it is for me anyway, I've never felt anything other than happiness for someone getting a BFP when TTC for this long!

I had a very busy weekend, at the in-laws for a couple of nights, then in Edinburgh for a night away which was nice. I think im in the 2 week wait now - cycle day 17. I know this is the last time before Christmas so I'm just thinking if I am then great, and if I'm not, at least i don't need to make up a million excuses as to why I'm I'm drinking through December 😂😂

@HopefulGlow, I struggle with lunch foods too, I've been having tomato and feta omelettes recently as warm and tasty but not like a massive meal.

Hope everyone is having a nice week!

Not drinking*

I def don't need an excuse to drink 🙈

Oh how exciting @AZ1992X! Keeping my fingers crossed for you ❤️🤞

And I agree with you @LA9610 when I know someone has been struggling too I don't feel the same level of difficult emotions, in fact it gives me hope that I'll be in the same boat someday 🤞

@HopefulGlow I wish I had as much energy as you 😂 we have been doing every other day ever since we had our chemical where we happened to have done it every other day lol so figured it was a good policy to keep! We try and keep it up throughout the month but realistically tend to drop off after about day 16... I find I lose interest in sex after I've ovulated - not just in the sense of knowing the fertile window is over but I just have less of a drive! Whereas in the fertile window I could go every day 😂😂😂😂

Also you have made me realise we need a wok! We don't have stir fries often and when we do I just use a frying pan... which is probably why we don't have them often! Let me know what it's like if you try it 😊 we are going to have it tomorrow I think, tonight is salmon night! (Trying to up our omega 3s!)

My period is due on Saturday and my boobs are a bit sore today. Trying not to obsess as they often are around this time 🙄 when will I learn?!

@HopefulGlow every other day sounds like a good idea for a motility issue I’m sure! I don’t think it matters too much when it falls… I do remember I read a big study where they had couples have sex just once in their fw and found that of those only having sex on ovulation day, none resulted in a successful pregnancy. I first read it in a book then found it online. They hypothesised that it was because if the sperm wasn’t waiting on the egg, the egg gets “old” before sperm reaches it and it’s less likely to successfully fertilise. Since I read that, I’ve definitely been more concerned about before than ov day itself, but I guess it’s quite hard to know exactly what day/time you ov after peak 🤷🏼‍♀️

What about every other day, then an extra on peak day if it doesn’t fall on a DTD day?

@AZ1992X I have absolutely everything crossed for you 🤞🏻🤞🏻 Please keep us updated! ♥️

@AZ1992X so sorry I zoned out, it’s been a crazy week and it’s been very up and down 😫 it’s not fertility related though, so that’s always good ☺️ Just other stresses 😂

Add Christmas Town & Noelle to your list too! Super cheesy movies, but great haha

OMGGGGGG 😭😭😭😭 you have a BFP???? Please try and post a photo. Im so god damn happy for you!!! Im crossing all my fingers that this gets stronger and you feel confident and excited 💕💕💕

Im with everyone else on this too. Knowing you have your BFP gives us hope 💕 you know the journey we are on and it makes us feel so happy that you have this, so please don’t worry!! Oh my goodness you and Amy are our little rays of hope ✨ no pressure girls 😂 just keep us positive and update us on your lovely journeys 💕

@LA9610 yeah I keep thinking the same. If we don’t get our BFP for Christmas, I will drink!! Not loads but definitely enough to try and distract myself 😅 I will try my best to focus on all the positives and everything I’m thankful for this Christmas 🎄

You’ve been super busy, I hope you’re resting now!! How was your night away?

@Nora11 I’ve basically copied you…you’ve reminded me I have salmon that needs eating in the freezer 😂 dinner is sorted!

I feel like a bloody teenager!! Haha but truth be told I’ve never been like this before. It’s a long story but I used to think I had issues and maybe didn’t have a sex drive or had issues with sex….then along came my OH and I’ve never wanted someone in so many different ways!! So I love it 😂 it’s part of the reason I assumed we wouldn’t have a problem when we started trying (how wrong was I!) But I’m very grateful I don’t feel how I used to about sex and intimacy.

Augh I hate that little voice that does that….”ooo your boobs are sore, maybe that’s a sign…” I hate trying to rationalise it, because one month it might be a sign!! 😂

@Amy259 that’s good to know about the Ov day!! I will be sure to try every other day. I’m due to O on Sunday, so we will see.

I ran out of my conceive plus lube so I’ve just got some pre-seed, which came with applicators 😂 has anyone else used them before?

I thought since my ovulation and lining is okay, maybe my CM isn’t too good and this could give us a hand? Who knows!!

Going to start the OPK tomorrow. I just think with all the stress we have going on, I’m not holding my breath for a BFP anytime soon. AND if we do, I’m worried the stresses could be bad for me and little bean 😫🤦🏼‍♀️

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@HopefulGlow I used preseed ☺️ including the month we conceived.

A little goes a long way! And you’re supposed to put it right up inside about 15 mins before dtd, which isn’t the most romantic of build ups… and if you have plenty of ewcm anyway, you really won’t need much! It just made me feel like I was doing something extra to help his swimmers along 😂

Thank you ladies, it really means a lot having your support ❤️

I’m trying to stay as positive as I can but I’ll always have that doubt in my mind after the MC. I told OH and he was the same saying he don’t want to get too happy until he knows everything’s ok and sees a little heartbeat.

@HopefulGlow I hope you’re ok, it sounds like you’ve had a stressful week. Hoping the weekend comes quick for you. Do you have anything nice planned to look forward too?

I’ll add those ones to my list - might have a chill day Saturday then shopping on Sunday ☺️

Added a photo - you may not be able to see the line on the cheap one - it’s so faint. Little worrying but it’s so early so I’ll keep positive it’ll get darker! X.

@Amy259 ahhhh yay! Glad you used it AND you got your BFP wahoooo ✨ I will definitely give it a go then 😂 I don’t really notice my CM much tbh. I used to use the sweep method but I just can’t be doing that every day now haha it’s too much!

So I don’t know if I should be worried that I never really see EWCM?! 🤔

Oh my goodness @AZ1992X they are definitely dark lines!!! Eeeeeek!! I’m so happy for you.

I completely understand why you and your OH are keeping reserved and want to wait to make sure it goes well. I’m just sending all my positivity to you both 💕 I would get an early scan as soon as you can do you can let it sink in ✨💕✨

@HopefulGlow thank you! ❤️

I’m able to get an early reassurance scan on the NHS for free which is nice of them. I’m just going to wait a few more days to make sure it’s progressing before I ring and book. Hoping the next few weeks fly by! 🤞

@HopefulGlow I think when you’re near ov you should maybe see a wee bit of it? No idea though. I was worried and started taking evening primrose oil from cd1 to ov and it made a huge difference.

@AZ1992X ahh look at those lines! Congratulations! I can’t imagine all the emotions you must be feeling just now ♥️ Hoping the next few weeks fly in for you. I hope you don’t mind me asking, but what stage/weeks were you in April/May?
I know it’s so not the same, but I was off the scale anxious and wrote a list on my phone of milestones like missed period, 4 weeks, 5 weeks etc and ticking them off really makes me feel better xx