Trying to conceive over 40 part 2

[October1979]

Here is a new thread for us girls

Congratulations on your beautiful baby x

@Catconfusion oh she is beautiful!! Congratulations to you and your family. Hope you're feeling alright x

Thank you @traceyann44 Wishing you the best of luck on your journey. Xx

Thanks @DOB78 I had a section due to her sheer size but I’m recovering well and feeling relieved she’s ok. Sending you best wishes! Xx

Well my period was due on Monday and it never came and I’m always very regular. But tests are negative so no idea what’s going on, I did weirdly have about 5 days of loads of ewcm so I couldn’t pinpoint ovulation (I didn’t use opk this month as they were stressing me out)

So now I suppose I just have to wait

@Catconfusion I can imagine she wasn't going to come out easily! Glad you're feeling alright. She's absolutely perfect 🥰

@Catconfusion Congratulation!!!! She's Gorgeous! What wonderful news.

@Catconfusion congratulations lovely that's such amazing news!! I'm so so pleased for you all and that gorgeous big bundle! Xx

Just placemarking this thread while I can see it at the top of the board - I always lose it! Currently 5dpo and on holiday rigidly saying to myself “relax, relaaaaaxxxx” because people always say they got pregnant when they relaxed… 🤪 Also I’m with oodles of family and nosy toddlers so couldn’t bring any tests with me so I can’t do any mental “POAS at 7dpo” type shenanigans.

And congratulations @Catconfusion – what a beautiful bean! Hoping I can come back to this or future threads with such a wonderful update.

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@stuntbubbles Hi, hope you're alright hadn't seen you for a wee while. I can imagine the frustration of not poas but hopefully it will be worth it when you can x

Hiya I'd like to join the group if that's ok? On 2nd cycle of trying and 10 dpo. Got a bfn today but I know it is early

Hi and welcome 😊

Thank you @traceyann44

Congratulations @Catconfusion !!

She's gorgeous and also absolutely huge - no wonder you had a c section!! Hope you are enjoying the crazy newborn phase and thank you for reminding us all that it is still possible. All fingers crossed for more babies on this thread :o)

So 12 dpo today temp dropped a bit yesterday and went back up today tested and got a negative hpt where I was getting vvfl on 5/9 dpo now nothing I do believe my body is trying to do something but for now I’ll just wait for af how’s everyone else doing anyone tested how many dpo are you ?

@Catconfusion congratulations she is just beautiful.
Hi everyone and welcome newbies. I have been MIA for a while I am 9dpo today temp still rising but not testing until 12dpo let's hope for some more babies soon xxx

Hey everyone, hope you’re all doing ok?

@Catconfusion she is gorgeous!!!! Huge congratulations!! It’s so hard to stay positive but miracles do happen!! I just always thought when I decided to have kids it would just happen - didn’t expect for a moment that I’d find myself in the minority of not being able to get pregnant - that happens to other people right?! And then I in no way thought I’d be the one to have a miscarriage 😕
You just assume you’ll be fine - I think that’s one of the hardest things to come to terms with.

I’m 3DPO but I’m not holding out a lot of hope for this cycle - we both had Covid so didn’t BD much at all! there’s always a chance though I guess 🤷🏼‍♀️
This is my last full cycle before my would have been due date on the 30th - I so hoped to be pregnant again before that 😵‍💫😵‍💫

@Kelb79 I'm feeling just the same as you. Also born in 79. We've been trying for just over 2 years. 2 MMCs and 5 chemical pregnancies later still trying. I like you thought it would just happen. I am kicking myself that I didn't try younger. It's only now I realise how hard it is over 40 x

Has anyone on here discussed or thought about using donor eggs? I'm 42 and have no children and starting to think about it. Although the chemicals and MMCs keep me thinking it might just happen if I wait it out. Just worried if we wait too long it might never happen and I keep getting older.

@October1979 a good friend of mine successfully used a donor egg as she has unexplained infertility. She had a very positive experience and a happy outcome! I think they did it in Spain.

Hello group newbies 👋👋👋

@Kelb79 you never know i got BFP the month we both had covid!!

@October1979 it's something I've been looking into outside of the UK, they have better success rates and its cheaper. At first I thought no way it wouldn't be my baby but I've read so many stories of women feeling the same but have no doubts its their child. I think it might be our only option now but OH is refusing to talk about it.

I have 2 Daughters from a precious relationship and conceived with no issue but I was 20 years younger then.

11dpo today BFN on CB Digital so think I'm out and my TTC is going on hold.

Hi @October1979 yes, it's on my mind as well. going to see how this round of ivf goes and then give it serious consideration. I'm not sure how keen my husband would be on donor eggs because he's more of a believer of the importance of nature over nurture. And I'm not sure whether emotionally we could deal with a failed donor round....

Can you remind me, I think you decided not to go ahead with ivf with your own eggs because of the expected success rates? Did you manage to get a referral for more investigation given how many chemical pregnancies / miscarriages you have had? Hope you're doing ok.

Thank you so much ladies for the well wishes. This thread was such a great source of support for me. It’s lovely to hear my story has given some hope. I wish I could say it’ll be ok in the end. Although I can’t say that, I can say miracles can happen and no one is more surprised than me that I’m in this position. I’d pretty much given up when I fell and felt at peace with it not happening. Not sure if that helped.

The month we caught I’d been following a Mediterranean diet off and on. I was also taking ubiquinol. I’m not sure if those things helped. I’d lost a few pounds but nothing major. Honestly I think a lot of it was luck. I’d had three early losses pretty much in a row so I think egg quality was an issue for me.

Anyway I really hope to check back and see more bfps and that you’re all doing ok. It’s such a gruelling process and my heart goes out to you ❤️ Xx