Anyone else ttc #2?

[Chanel05]

My dd is 11 months old and we have decided that now is the time for number 2! My daughter took 18 months to conceive with a mmc in between, so I'm expecting a long journey. This is my first month and I'm on cd4.

@Indianna2006 @Hope18 Thankyou, I'm ok, trying to keep positive and hoping the next cycle is the one! I haven't taken another test cos I think it's just going to be really depressing seeing that negative. I'm pretty sure I'm not pregnant anymore because the test I took the day before was a pretty weak result and I've been bleeding for a few days like a normal period. I've ordered some cheapy strip tests in the post so I'll probably do one of those just to confirm in a few days or so

@GreenFlipFlop ☹️☹️ It will happen hun. Just waiting for that right healthy baby 🤞🏼

@Chivari oh how annoying! Do you still have fertile CM? If not you prob have ovulated. Annoying not knowing when tho reslly as then harder to know what dpo to expect period!!

@GreenFlipFlop good idea hun, least then you defo know to move onto next cycle. Its heartbreaking..and i honestly always say this is the cruelest game to play! Have a nice cosy few days.. ❤️

@Babyboom1990 these look positive to me. The digital is unlikely to show up positive at 10dpo. Try again tomorrow.

So sorry @GreenFlipFlop - I hope you're feeling okay and like others have said can stay positive. Be gentle with yourself ♥️

I'm on CD11 but decided to not do OPKs as last month felt a bit stressful doing them every day, especially with a long cycle. I felt so disappointed to get a bfn at the end of it even though it was the first cycle. Just want to enjoy some family time and try feel a bit less frantic with it all.

@Goodgoodthings I don't blame you, there's no point stressing yourself out too much❤️ it's only natural to feel disappointed even tho it's only first cycle. I was the same! It's we entered TTC like " yeah it will happen when it happens.."
And first cycle BFN I cried. 🙄 So clearly I wasn't as chilled as I thought I'd be lol. Probs will cry again this cycle too! But going to try and pick myself up quicker.. All the best for you.. ❤️

@Babyboom1990 I also think the same, positive but digital is too early.. Keep us updated! Xx

Thanks for the welcome everyone! I’ve been trying to read back through the thread. It’s exciting be be on this journey with other people.

My period finished today, so that’s it…tte journey begins! 😍

*the journey

@Hope18 and @Indianna2006 I’m not sure about my CM, yesterday I had loads of it but it seemed more watery than fertile. I weirdly had some fertile CM on cd9 last week, so maybe I’m ovulating a lot earlier than I think? But then surely my cycles would be shorter, whereas they are like clockwork and bang on 28 days.

I’m feeling super fed up today with it all. Yet again another flashing smiley this morning. I actually think I’m not ovulating?! I only have 2 sticks left so I’ll use them but won’t be buying anymore. I feel like I’m already out this month again which makes me really sad 😞

Hi @Babyboom1990 it could well be a chemical pregnancy. I have a friend who this happened to twice. She got positive tests but then came on her period.
As they say though, you’re not out until AF arrives! So keeping hopefully for her xx

@MrsR87 well come. Good luck with the start of your journey!

@Chivari oh that’s annoying. Yeh if your cycles are usually always 28 days then likely you are ovulating when you think. As the luteal phase doesn’t change around much. Only by day or so max. What day do you usually ovulate?
People then to have 11-14 day luteal phase I think roughly. Mines usually 13 days then I get AF.

My cycle is usually 26 days mine stays fairly consistent.

Going sloooe over here waiting for fertile days!

@chivari it's so difficult isn't it! I don't think it's impossible that you could ov that early? Would that mean you have a long luteal phase? I think that's what tww is called? Im sorry I feel like I'm guessing.. Same with myself I honestly get so confused.
I had negative cheapy OPK through beginning of fertile week then one which seemed positive.. Then cramps Friday and Saturday so I presumed it happened either of those days.. then nothing Sunday but was last day of fertile CM.. 🤷🏼‍♀️ But now in tww I literally feel nothing..i know its pretty early DPO.. (not that I know the actual date) but I'm always symptom spotting.. And nothing!

It's so much harder this time!
Try not to get too down 😔 but it's easier said than done. I rekon if this cycle is BFN maybe try starting CB OPK earlier next cycle? That's what I might do.. ❤️

@Babyboom1990 I would advise to wait 2 to 3 days.. AF may arrive and if not it should give more time for HCG to rise for digital.. Fingers crossed AF is no show for her xxx

Thanks @Indianna2006 and @Hope18 - it’s so lovely to be able to speak on here about it all and have the support! Thank you for both of your suggestions 😘

I’m not sure when I ovulate, as I got pregnant 1st month with our dd (without using any OPK’s or anything) and I’ve only started using the clear blue kit this month. I feel like I may have missed the surge. Ive posted a pic of my OPK sticks, see if any of you think there has been a surge? These are from Cd12-15. If anything I feel like the line is getting fainter! I was reading that it’s not great for fertility if you ovulate early because the egg isn’t matured enough and neither is your womb lining. I only came off the pill in august so I’m wondering if my body is still trying to regulate hormones? I’ve had really bad hair loss (not like it’s thinning just loads coming out when I wash it or brush) since coming off the pill too so I’m a bit concerned that my hormones are imbalanced too.

Hope, when you think you got a surge, was the line significantly darker than the others on your OPK?

@Hope18 yes tww is the luteal phase. But it’s unlikely to ever be longer than 16 days. Mostly around 13/14 but everyone differs slightly.

So usually you can use that to work out. So if you have 28 day cycle for example. You could ovulate CD17 and have a 11 day luteal phase to make a 28 day cycle. Or you could ovulate CD12 and have a 16 day luteal phase. That will also make a 28 day cycle. And anywhere in between that. Does that make sense?

@Chivari hmm yeh none of them seem as bold as the test line do they. Are they the CB opk where it tests for estrogen and LH? Sometime I think it can be just missed if testing once a day. I imagine if you usually have 28 day cycle and your past CD18 you prob have ovulated already and just missed the surge.
I use CB and also cheap opks from savers and you could use an app like pre mom where you take a pic of the cheap opk and put it in the app and it almost works it out for you. May be helpful for you?

I charted my cycle a lot for DD after my mc and my ovulation ranged from CD13-17. Now we’re trying I sit consistently more at CD13.

Not sure about egg maturing etc but imagine it can be too early but CD9 could still be possible I guess. Not sure if ovulating later in a cycle is any better for fertilisation tbh 🤷🏻‍♀️🤷🏻‍♀️

@chivari annoyingly I don't think I took a picture of my darkest line.. But I'd say it was darker than the ones I'd been getting but I had also read on here lines don't always get darker for some people.. So maybe yours is still OK? I wouldn't say mine was solid like the control..
It's so hard to judge.
😔
I worry so much about everything, like hormone levels as like you say DD was only one cycle..❤️ What CD are you now? I'm CD17..
AF due Saturday 23rd xx

@Indianna2006 ahh that's a great help, I might try that pre mom app if I do OPK next cycle..
Anything is worth a go atm lol as we're in limbo completely! X

@Hope18 yes it’s quite good! Especially if your unsure of your peaks and lines. It helps a bit. It wants you to use like cheap strip pls tho. Rather than clearblue. But there so cheap easily can do both if you wish 👍

Example of mine. I’ve only done two days as you can see and the number is low and it stayed low next to it so shows it’s a low fertile day. But today was higher than yesterday’s.

Thanks @Indianna2006 I think I might try the cheap ones next month if this month isn’t successful! And yes, they are the CB that tracks estrogen and LH. I’ll use the last 2 sticks but I doubt I’ll get a surge now! Interesting to know your ovulation days and cycle length, as we seem similar! You are really knowledgeable in fertility too, really appreciate all your insights.

@Hope18 it’s so hard isn’t it? And confusing! And disheartening 😞 I am a few days behind you, on cd15 and AF due 25/26th. Really hopeful for us this month, it would be amazing if one of us caught wouldn’t it!

@Chivari I think after I fell first cycle 5 years ago an then mc. An then it took 7 months. I went a bit crazy and charted and knew my cycle and fertile stuff inside out 🤣🤣

Don’t panic tho. Use your last two tests the next two days as if your only CD15 today. You could still easily get a static smiley tomorrow morning or the next. ☺️ When I was trying for my DD sometimes I’d ovulate day 13. Next month it would be day 17. 🤷🏻‍♀️ And I knew for certain and I charted with my temp back then. Dunno why it used to jump so much but that can be normal. So don’t despair quite yet!

🤞🏼🤞🏼 For more BFPs this cycle.

@Indianna2006 are you still tracking your temp now? I wondered whether to try that…
Do you also think that stress and worrying about ovulation actually has an impact on whether you ovulate?

@Chivari no I don’t temp or do my chart now for ttc for this second one. But I learnt so much from doing it for DD don’t feel like I need to if that makes sense. My ovulation is always very similiar. My cycle the same length. And if it alters a little I know that’s normal so doesn’t worry me if makes sense. It can be a bit of a minefield.

I think stress can affect ovulation yes. It can delay it happening for sure.

But people say oh think my period is late because I’m stress. That can’t happen. . So AF cannot be late because your stressed because the day your AF arrives is preset when you ovulate.

But ovulation can change due to stress by quite a lot. Ovulation is the only thing which changes the day your period arrives which lots of people don’t realise. So basically when you ovulate is what controls you cycle length basically.