August TTC

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Hi Ladies

Thought I would create a channel for July / August TTC for those who didn't receive their BFP's this time around

I'm on CD2 now after sadly AF arriving. TTC no1 at 32 and this will be Cycle 4

I'm currently isolating with Covid after having 1 jab (which really messed with cycle 2 and 3) expecting DH to test positive v soon!

So sorry if I miss anyone or if you haven't got your AF yet or had a BFP ! But wanted to capture a few people as I've found these channels super helpful!

@slt90
@leettctherainbow
@nervousdave
@swanswallow
@blippiobsessed
@skincareaddict
@farmer98755
@winesaurus4
@h0peing
@lilrosemarie
@rtmhwales

@Missy95 that sounds really really tough. I don't want to come across as diagnosing you, but I have PTSD and recognise the symptoms you describe. Do you think you'd feel able to talk to your GP about it? It sounds like you've got some unprocessed trauma, and the "normal" mindfulness stuff for TTC anxiety won't really help with that, a trauma-informed therapist is best suited to help (though a bit of a lottery to find on the NHS). I'm so sorry for your loss .

@Capricorn8990 how are you feeling today?

@WantStickyBean thank you for your reply. Im sorry you have been through/ are going through PTSD. I was speaking to a therapist through work but we came to the decision to end the sessions as I was feeling much better. I guess those feelings and fears may have come back.
Its been a long 8 months, I know thats not much compared to many, many others. Its just draining isn't it.

I saw a post on Instagram yesterday saying 'sangria is the answer' sooo I guess that could be todays plan! haha xxx

@amyannx this is the august bus xx

@Capricorn8990 thank you hun xx

@Tjsmjs thank you for rationalising it for me. I struggle to rationalise things a lot with my worrying brain 😢

@WantStickyBean I feel okay, physically I am better but mentally I'm not! Thanks for checking in xx

@Capricorn8990 @Missy95 sorry to hear you are both struggling this month 😢

@Capricorn8990 I hope you feel abit better this morning and like the others have said, try not to self blame - I'm hoping for a negative PCR for you!

@Missy95 sorry about your loss 😢 I can only imagine what it's like having these dreams taking you back to that moment! I think sometimes when we 'feel better' we naturally think just to stop therapy - when if we carry on for a little longer can do us the world of good!

@hlk1991 hi, welcome to the group - I know what you mean every month a disappointment, I am month 10 of ttc - Mums net has defiantly helped me tho, so I hope it does you

@amyannx how are you getting on? I have been on a few threads with you x

So my PCR test is positive 😞 I'm gonna retreat into myself cos it's the only way I know how to deal with things like this. Emotions are too strong. I'm so unhappy

@Capricorn8990

So sorry to hear this I felt exactly the same I know you had plans this weekend which is put of your hands but what I can tell you is that I felt hugely better after a couple of days and it's a weird feeling of relief afterwards that your body has fought it and developed antibodies. I'm not sure if any of that helps. Wishing you a quick recovery take care xxxx

@Capricorn8990 so sorry you're going through this! Just do you, whatever you need to do to protect your mental health. Saturday will be hard as I'm sure you've looked forward to this for a long time but unfortunately it cannot be helped and I'm sure your friend is very understanding. Use this time for self care and make plans for when you're allowed back out and feeling well to give yourself something to look forward to. Sending you lots of love ❤️

Hi everyone,
Permission to jump on board!
Due AF on Friday but took an early test and got a a BFN... this was our first month trying/ tracking properly and I’m irrationally disappointed even though I know I’m being silly! But onwards and upwards.... good luck to everyone else out there xx

@JK739

Hi everyone, Permission to jump on board! Due AF on Friday but took an early test and got a a BFN... this was our first month trying/ tracking properly and I’m irrationally disappointed even though I know I’m being silly! But onwards and upwards.... good luck to everyone else out there xx

It's not over until AF shows! Fingers crossed for you lovely xx

@Capricorn8990 that sounds so tough, really sorry to hear it. And having things like a best friends wedding taken away only adds to the ongoing pain of the ttc journey. Sending hugs x

@Missy95 so sorry that you had to go through that loss on your own and very understandable that the feelings are coming out in your dreams. It sounds like your body is reminding you that they are still there and that you need some help in processing them. Could you access further counselling through your work?

@hlk1991 yes it is a roller coaster of a journey isn’t it and the lows can be so crushing. I hope you are able to find people you can speak with who can support you through it. I know for me speaking with close trusted friends has been essential for my well-being.

@Capricorn8990 So sorry. Be kind to yourself. Saturday will be hard but it will come and go.

Make yourself do things that are good for the soul. Watch something that makes you laugh, read a book. Have a nice bath. I hope you aren't feeling poorly x

@ Anotherboy and @Tjsmjs and anyone starting the tww- how are you getting on?

I’m about 4dpo. Me and dh suddenly came down with a soar throat and cold symptoms when away at the weekend. I was getting worried it might be Covid. Thankfully pcr was negative. Hope that hasn’t effected ovulation or potential implantation. I didn’t get a temperature or anything so hopefully ok. I am going to try and wait until AF this cycle because I just can’t face seeing yet another bfn 😭

I used an FRER to test yesterday, as my apps were guessing af any day between Weds and Sunday and I really felt like this month had been successful. Got a BFN, stressful day at work, and boom, af appears yesterday afternoon. Didn't have anything on me at work, just white pants, and so a bit of a shit day.
So sorry to hear about other people having a tough time too 😔

@Capricorn8990 I’m sorry it was positive. I know that isn’t what you needed right now. Sorry that you will miss your friends wedding as well. Look after yourself, both physically and mentally. Sending you hugs and here if you need a rant.

@Missy95 That sounds really difficult. It is bad enough going through that, added to that being alone when you found out. I second what others have said about more counselling if possible. There are some charities that specialise in still birth and miscarriage that may offer counselling.

@Lealu I’m doing a bit better. I don’t think this month is going to be my month though. I got a stomach bug the day after ovulation so I’m sure that will have prevented implantation. I did have some early pregnancy symptoms like fatigue and aching but that was far too early as I’m only 5dpo now so they were connected to the bug. There is always next month but after that it gets quite tricky as OH is away lots for work after that.

@Tjsmjs I don’t think ordinary colds/flu/stomach bugs are thought to effect implantation, so don’t count yourself out just yet! From the reading up I did, the main illness that effects ttc is the man having a temperature because that temporarily impacts the sperm.

@Anotherboy how’s your tww going?

Thank you for everyone's lovely comments of support. I love this forum so much ❤️ I woke up today and didn't cry which is good!! Hope everyone has a lovely day xx

@Capricorn8990 sorry to hear about your PCR, that's really shit! Hang on in there, this cloud will pass and you've already started the day positively xx

Can I ask another noob opk question? When is the best time of day to test? I think you don't use fmu right? But other than that, does it matter? My instructions don't say anything about the time of day! So far I've just been doing it randomly and getting a mix of results so I'm wondering if I'm doing it wrong.

@LadyoftheWoods I think sometimes it depends on the brands, I know my clear blue says FMU but my easy at home say from 10am I believe of the top of my head. I have found that I always get my strongest surge at about 11:30am - but many people suggest later in the afternoon.

I got the easy at home cheap ones (which I actually prefer) for that reason because I didn't mind if I was testing twice a day to make sure I got my surge as they are nice and cheap

5-7 dpo here, so I will probably test with ic from Sunday, as I'm a poas addict!!

First flashing smiley today but I've had pink discharge/spotting which is new for me. Could it be related to my chemical last month maybe?

Hi all,
Hope it's ok to join in. Currently TTC baby number 2. Currently 5 dpo and I feel like time is going sooo slowly. I thought I'd be much more chilled TTC with number 2 but apparently not. Feel like I'm trying to spot symptoms even though I know it's pointless, I just need to be patient. Gonna try and wait to do a pregnancy test until AF is due but I wouldn't be surprised if I gave in early. Hope everyone else is ok x