August TTC

[ViL89]

Hi Ladies

Thought I would create a channel for July / August TTC for those who didn't receive their BFP's this time around

I'm on CD2 now after sadly AF arriving. TTC no1 at 32 and this will be Cycle 4

I'm currently isolating with Covid after having 1 jab (which really messed with cycle 2 and 3) expecting DH to test positive v soon!

So sorry if I miss anyone or if you haven't got your AF yet or had a BFP ! But wanted to capture a few people as I've found these channels super helpful!

@slt90
@leettctherainbow
@nervousdave
@swanswallow
@blippiobsessed
@skincareaddict
@farmer98755
@winesaurus4
@h0peing
@lilrosemarie
@rtmhwales

I buckled and tested today at 10dpo with a first response and it was a bfn. I haven't used these tests before but they are supposed to be more accurate.

I have been symptoms spotting like crazy, I have kept a diary of the luteal phase every cycle since last sept. I had a MMC in May and thought what I have been experiencing was similar to when I got my bfp in May.

No point to this post but needed to vent.... feeling disappointed.

@WantStickyBean hmm not sure bit sounds like you have a good length LT

I can't really compare unfortunately as my cycles are so irratic

CB is giving me flashing smileys too but then came on so think it was just detecting oestregon who knows

I would just BD from now if I was you most days

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I'm starting to think I'll stop testing altogether and come off MN for a while

Sorry @WantStickyBean can't help, my flashy smiley on CB are never consistence with when I see peak! Our cycles really like to mess with us! And I can imagine it's confusing seeing your cycles get shorter!

@SomeoneSomewhere1219 it's hard to not feel disappointed when you see a negative especially on a FRER, but they are so many people who don't get there BFP at 10DPO with FRER - try stay positive and maybe test again on Friday? If you can resist!

@ViL89 I totally get that! It really is deflating and do what feels best for you! Some time away may be just what you need!

II have had 2 months 'relaxed' (I say relaxed but just more so then before) and it did help, although I am still obsessing - I am going to start actively trying again for next 2 months with temping etc and if I haven't got my BFP I'm going to have the rest of the year until feb time not actively ttc e.g of MN and away from everything TTC. - my docs said I have to wait another 6 months for test and I have a nice holiday in September so I will start actively trying in February again, hopefully I get my BFP before that though!

@purpleskyssssss @Itsjustme20 @WantStickyBean Thank you, I did another test today with digital and it’s bfn. Going to wait til Thurs to test again🤞

@SomeoneSomewhere1219 we all know exactly how you feel. It’s really hard not to symptom spot. I’ve done it every single day. Lots of luck for your next test🤞

FFS. Just had an afternoon catching up with a close friend. Knew they'd been TTC (and she knew about us), but I wish she'd warned me in advance that she was 6 weeks pregnant rather than when we were in public. Lovely to see her, and I'm genuinely thrilled for her but also .

@WantStickyBean oh no I’m so sorry! You’d think people would be a little more sensitive but maybe she just really didn’t think about it. Don’t let it consume you too much xx

Hi everyone ! Today I’m either 6/7 DPO. I was feeling extremely tired today and did a FRER this evening and I swear I see the start of a line . My husband can’t see anything but my eyes know what a complete negative test looks like - I’ve done a lot ! I’ve sent hubby down to the pharmacy to get more tests for me to use in the next few mornings . Hoping it’s the start of a BFP . This is my second cycle TTC after mirena coil removal . I had my second vaccine right around ovulation so thought maybe that would mean I was out this month. It may be nothing it’s the faintest line but I feel like that coupled with my exhaustion means it’s the start.

PS here is a picture it’s a very squinty line !

@MrsBridge Thank you, best of luck for your test later this week.

@WantStickyBean This exact same thing happened to me. You are happy for your friend but can't help but feel envious.

To the lady who just posted the frer test, I see a line....

@ViL89 @WantStickyBean sorry for the late reply. I've been crying non stop.

I ordered a PCR today so I've done that and praying it's negative but I know what it's gonna be.

I'm so upset as I was meant to be a bridesmaid this Saturday for my best friend.

I feel totally depressed and know it's gonna take a lot for me to get out of this black hole in my head x

@WantStickyBean Sorry. It is really hard to hear that sort of news, particularly in public. Hopefully it will be your month soon.

I’m still feeling pretty rough with this bug. Tired, lower abdominal discomfort and a bit of brain fog. It can’t be pregnancy as it is much to soon after ovulation but they are the same symptoms I had early in my last pregnancy, but they didn’t start until after I missed my period. I’m trying not to obsess or get my hopes up. I don’t have any tests at home to try but did do one of my ovulation tests and got quite a dark line. It is one of those clear blue advanced ones so could just be the normal oestrogen rise in the second part of my cycle.

@Capricorn8990 What you're going through is absolutely shit, I'm so sorry. Keeping everything crossed it's negative x

@Capricorn8990 I'm so so sorry. That's beyond shit. Will be keeping everything crossed that your PCR test surprises you - but we're always here for you to chat to when things are rough .

@Tjsmjs @SomeoneSomewhere1219 @storkstalk thank you. I genuinely am pleased for her. But I know my reaction was lacklustre, and feel really guilty about that.

@SaraKitty I can see something!!

@WantStickyBean @SomeoneSomewhere1219 I suffer badly with mental health and i honestly feel on the brink of a mental breakdown as bad as that sounds. I struggle with managing my emotions and I have been so looking forward to this. The bride means the absolute world to me. I feel like I've let her down.

Thank you so so much. Im speaking to my Gp tomorrow. Xxx

@Capricorn8990 Sorry just caught up on your posts . Main thing is you feel better . Take care of yourself . Don’t worry about any others . It’s everywhere hard to escape it right now ! X

@Capricorn8990 It's not your fault, lovely. Your friend knows that and deep down you do too, even if your brain is telling you otherwise.

Speaking to GP is a good idea. I also suffer from fairly severe mental illness and really get how much losing "just" one thing that you've been looking forward to can make life feel impossibly hard. Especially when you add the continual disappointment of TTC on top, it's hard to see much light. But if you just keep taking things hour by hour, they will seem brighter soon.

@Capricorn8990 I have my fingers crossed that the PCR is negative. Look after yourself and focus on you.

@SaraKitty thank you - I am trying to eat well though I've lost my appetite completely 😞 xx

@WantStickyBean I must keep reminding myself of that. I just feel that I should've done more. Moved out or stayed in a hotel for that period.

It's horrible isn't it? My partner doesn't quite understand how one little thing can trigger me completely and I just lose it. This month is probably out cos I feel too unwell to DTD and not in the mood either.

Thank you for your kind comments xx

@Tjsmjs thank you very much! I'll keep you all posted xx

@Capricorn8990 please don’t focus on the what ifs, there wasn’t anything more you could do. Moving out or staying in the hotel is unlikely to have made a huge difference and you were following the guidance by isolating with him. Unfortunately it is everywhere at the moment so you could of moved out, been out of isolation and then got it elsewhere. Please don’t lay any blame on yourself at all. It is rubbish and it is understandable that you feel sad but don’t blame yourself for catching covid. Please keep us updated and if you need to rant, go ahead.

Hi ladies. I just wanted to come on and have a bit of an offload 😢
This past week I have felt really really anxious. I work in a school so currently off with summer hols. Im finding it so hard to be out of routine and structure, and I have too much time to think!
In December I had my 12 week scan with mine and my OH first baby. He wasn't allowed in due to COVID. I had to go through the scan by myself and be told that out baby had 'something wrong'. Later, my OH was brought into the consultant room where we were told we had to travel hours and hours for more tests to conclude what was possibly seen on the scan. Long story short, we lost our baby in January. This past week I have been having the same reoccurring nightmare of those moments in the scan room, alone, having my world shattered. It makes TTC so much harder as I feel so anxious about it happening again, I haven't had those dreams in a few months. Does anyone have any coping strategies for TTC anxieties? Ive never wished the summer hols away, but I need my work routine back 🤦🏿‍♀️

Sorry for the long message ladies. Im just feeling a bit daft, emotional and tired xxx

Hi all,

Catching up, congratulations to all those wonderful BPF its nice to see on here.

Unfortunately AF has made her appearance this morning :( last month I had a chemical and also my second jab so I am grateful that it doesn't seem to have affected my cycle maybe a day or two. I did have sore boobs, nausea and felt knackered this week so was hopeful that I could maybe be pregnant but it wasn't meant to be this month.

Thinking of going to my GP to get some tests done as we have been ttc since April last year. Does anyone know where you can get them done privately as I know it will take months! I live up in Scotland.

I've got a few things on this cycle to keep me busy and feel I might just take a relaxed approach with no opks this month and see how things go.

Morning all, I hope you don't mind me gate crashing?

We have been TTC for nearly a year now, every month is just one big disappointment it feels. I am pretty certain we didn't conceive this month as we both just felt abit exhausted to be honest!

Feeling very alone currently so would love to get involved with this group, looks very supportive!

Thank you 😊