TTC #2

[MamaSJ15]

Hello,
I couldn't see a thread for ladies trying for baby no 2, so I thought I'd start one.
I'm nearing the end of cycle 3, 12DPO today, AF due on Wednesday. Having all sorts of symptoms that I don't usually get.
My first LO turned 2 a couple of months ago.
Look forward to hearing others' stories 😊

@coles85 @Laureatus if we'd have started trying when DH wanted, about 18 months ago, I don't think we would have had the energy as DS wasn't sleeping through the night reliably and was often up extremely early, we were shattered!

I wonder if that's a bit of nature's contraceptive - if you're under the weather or not getting good sleep, stressed etc

@darcey87 no I didn't have covid, I had the second vaccine on Monday last week and I'm not sure if it was a side effect or just something I picked up but I started with a sore throat on Wednesday which gradually got worse and worse, felt awful over the weekend, then lost my voice, now I feel I have a bit of a cold. But my DD has a cough now too so there's something definitely going around!

Thanks @coles85, I'm sure I'll be right as rain soon 😊 it's awful isn't it! If it was month 1 for us I probably wouldn't be too bothered about starting late but in cycle 4, I feel like I'd be wasting a cycle if we didn't get a chance to try!

I've had a bit of a stressful day at work today, really need a bit of a break.
I've heard a bit about flooding near London, I hope no one here is effected by it. I'm miles away, so safe up this way 😊

Evening all, hope everyone is safe and well.

Today has been a bit of a one for me - af finally decided to show up on cd53! God knows where she’s been, but had our hopes up for no reason…onwards and upwards.

Got myself some seven seas conception support vitamins, the conceive plus in the hopes that helps, and going to try as often as possible this cycle. See if this could be our month 🙏 x

Fingers crossed this is your month @Josephine2021!

I think I'm out. 10DPO and not a whisper of a line. I'm going to wait til Friday to test again. Tbh I'd like to know so I can have a drink at the weekend if I'm not! I really regret testing early this cycle, it's made me a bit insane. It's still 6 days til AF is due and I'm just wishing away that time.

@Josephine2021 that was an epic cycle! Fingers crossed this next one is your lucky one 🤞🤞

AF finished for me yesterday so I will start OPKs in a few days! Going to try and DTD every other day now but I'm also away with a friend for most of my predicted fertile week 😭 may just manage to DTD the morning before we leave and again the evening I return! (OV day!)

Sorry AF arrived @Josephine2021 but I guess a new cycle is a new chance 😊 that was a very long cycle though, do you usually have long cycles?

@darcey87 there's still chance for you, don't give up hope too soon! But yeah, maybe wait a few days before testing again. The 2ww is the hardest part isn't it, you just want to know! Try keep busy!

@SLT90 you're still in with a chance, even if you only manage to DTD once 🙂

I was hoping to DTD last night but my DD isn't very well, poor thing. I think I ovulate in the next day or two so hoping to get some time with DH tonight if little one will stop coughing! Not holding out hope that she'll stay at nursery for a full day today! 🤦🏼‍♀️

Hi @SLT90 @darcey87 @MamaSJ15 it was rather mammoth for a cycle! Genuinely thought we’d see our bfp by the 3rd week, had all kind of hopes that I’d ovulated later so my positive would take longer to show, blah blah blah…but alas, this is a new month and we can go again!

It’s really unusual to be honest, I’ve been like clockwork for all but one cycle since they returned (the month I lost my mum they went a bit crazy). But really no idea why so long this time.

I started seven seas conception support on Monday, and hope that along with the conceive plus will give us the helping hand this month.
Good luck to everyone for this month, have my fingers crossed for us all x

Wow @Josephine2021 that was an epic cycle, how frustrating for you. Our bodies are strange beasts at times. Let's hope this next cycle is a shorter one 🤞

Big fingers crossed too for all you lovely ladies who are in the TWW...there's still time to get a BFP!!!

Take care of yourself @Dollface20 and (this isn't meant to be patronising) well done for making choices that are good for your mental health

@Josephine2021 sorry to hear about you losing your mum, that must have been extremely difficult.
I use seven seas trying for a baby vitamins. Don't think it helps with conception as such but has all the vitamins needed to be healthy an ready to carry a baby 😊

@dollface20 sorry to hear that. We're here for support whenever you're ready 😊 hope you're feeling better soon!

Hope everyone is doing okay today! I feel a bit stressed at work today (currently on my lunch break), and I've been getting calls from the nursery about my DD 😕 hope she's feeling better soon!! Think we all need a good night's sleep!

@Dollface20 I think you're doing the right thing for your own health. Good on you. Lots of people should take your lead and have a social media break. Hope you're ok and I'll look forward to seeing you back online in the future.

For everyone else, I feel like I should move on from the chat because I don't want to trigger anyone who hasn't gotten their BFP...But equally I'd love to support everyone through TTC #2 and hopefully all your BFPs! I also joined another thread for March/April due dates but there's a lot of first time mum chat that just isn't where I'm at (oh god, I'm one of the people I hated as a first time mum!!)

Would it be ok to hang around? I promise not to take over with pregnancy chat!

Thanks @MamaSJ15, that’s what I’m hoping for, that they don’t necessarily help with conception, but they’re in my system to help support healthy growth when it happens.xx

@coles85 more than happy for you to stay on this chat! It’s lovely to hear about your journey and so pleased for you and your bfp!xx

@coles85 of course, please stay 😊 it's nice because we're all at a similar stage and we all have one child already so know the struggles we each go through! How are you feeling by the way?

@josephine2021 yeah, I used the same ones for TTC #1 and had a healthy pregnancy so as far as I can tell they have everything you need 😁

I think I'm CD 14 today, haven't felt any obvious ovulation feelings yet but I'm usually somewhere between CD14-16. Still haven't used the app this cycle which I'm really proud of myself for! No stressing, just going with the flow! Finally got some time to DTD last night, LO is finally starting to get better, but she did still wake crying a few times, poor thing.
How's everyone doing today?

The seven seas ones I found that they have improved my cycle - I have a slightly longer luteal phase when taking them, from about 12/13 days to more like 14/15. 27/8 day cycles vs 25/26.

Glad you're still having a relaxed cycle @MamaSJ15, and that your DD is on the mend!

You're very welcome to stay on @coles85!

I haven't tested this morning, and I don't really feel inclined to. I think we may have stopped DTD too early and I ovulated slightly later than I thought - possibly on 19th or even 20th rather than 18th. We last DTD on evening of 18th. I think I'm going to just wait and see when AF arrives now.

Next month would be a great month to be trying as I'm going on holiday a couple of days after my fertile window ends and could test the day after we get back - just 2 days before AF so would get an accurate result. Avoid this 10 days of madness!

Do you all DTD every other day or just as often as poss during fertile window? Every other day is fine for DH and he will do twice in a row once in the cycle but he's not up for more frequently than that - he works really long hours in a stressful job and I think it's a lot of pressure. Is that enough to get pregnant? I guess it was last time, but I'm 3.5 years older now.

Thanks everyone! 

@MamaSJ15 I'm feeling fine, thank you. Other than a little bit tired I've got no symptoms at all. I was the same last time too so not looking into it too much. Well done on not checking the app and keeping your cool. I bet it's making things much more enjoyable!

@darcey87 if you DTD on the 18th but ovulated on the 19th or 20th it still doesn't mean your out! They say up to 5 days it can last!

We DTD every other day but then on a couple of occasions we had 2 days in a row (because of my long cycle I had no idea when my fertile window was so I just assumed it was over a 2 week period which is why we didn't do it every day haha!)

Morning everyone,
I'm just catching up on the thread.
I hope everyone is feeling OK?

I'm CD20, my fertile window starts in a day or 2. It's abit annoying having such long cycles, I wish they were back to 28 days like they used to be!
I have a short luteul phase too, its about 9/10 days so I've been taking taking vit B6 and vit C to try and lengthen it slightly.

I'm still bf my nearly 2 year old, I'm certain that is why my cycles have changed and are alot longer.
This will be month 2 of ttc. We are trying to take a relaxed approach at the moment. I started using opks for the 1st time last month but have decided not to use them going forward we, I find it more stressful, although it was good to see when I got to peak ovulation as it was on CD 28! We are just going to dtd alot and see what happens.

Good luck everyone x

Thanks @darcey87. Yeah, you've definitely still got a chance, some people say they only DTD once a couple of days before ovulation and that worked. It doesn't always have to be a lot of swimmers that works, just the right one 😊
We were DTD every other day except this cycle has been a bit off because DD being poorly and other plans but generally every other if we can.

Glad to hear you're doing okay @coles85, yeah I didn't have many symptoms at the start of my first pregnancy either, think that's pretty normal isn't it.
Being more relaxed would have made it more enjoyable, except I feel quite stressed this week with work and poorly DD. She's on the mend now though so hoping I'll feel a bit more relaxed now!

@ItsSunnyOutside I bet it is frustrating having a longer cycle. Good luck with the relaxed approach, I'm trying that this cycle too. Not using the usual app to track things.

Off topic slightly, has anyone had any problems with their LO being constipated?

@coles85 yay definitely stay! I didn't have any symptoms at all first time round. If e weren't actually TTC it would have taken me a while to realise (except for being late, obv). I never had any nausea or anything. I did carpal tunnel a bit later on (and a bump obv!) but I was very lucky in my first pregnancy. Curious how another one might/will go!! 🤞🏻

How are you all doing? Anyone testing this weekend?

My DC has been unwell all weekend so looking like a day of WFH tomorrow and juggling childcare...joyful

Hope everyone is well and for anyone ovulating hope you're having fun!!!

@coles85 CD 11 here and at the in laws this weekend so I haven't been doing opks yet this cycle. Will try and start them tomorrow and see what's happening! Premom doesn't predict OV until CD23 but last month the OPKs did shift the predicted date earlier so will see what happens! On Fri we DTD unprotected for the first time this time round and I think it's brought DH and I really close again after months of wading through toddler madness! Plenty more of that ahead 🤣

Good luck for your day tomorrow!!! That sounds exhausting, hope he gets better soon!

@SLT90 the toddler madness is a real libido killer isn't it

Did you say you were away on holidays during your ovulation this month? Or was that last month?

I'm now in the fun period of seeing what we have on between now and my scan so I can figure out what lies to tell to avoid drinking.

Do you find the OPKs helpful?

@coles85 a massive mood killer!!!! We never have enough energy 🙈

Yes, I thought I was away, but I got the dates wrong!!! I'm actually away the week after predicted ovulation (phew!) but I feel like I may ovulate a bit sooner than predicted anyway. My cycles are still all over the place!

I've only used OPKs last cycle for the first time in preparationfor starting TTC again this cycle. Didn't use them for TTC DS, but wanted to try them this time because my cycles still aren't back to regular and I'm bf still so I wasn't sure if I would get a peak! So far they've been useful because if I had just used the app predictions for fertile last cycle then I would have missed ovulation!!

@coles85 thankfully covid has limited all our social engagements right? 🤣🤣 silver linings!

I had to go to a wedding when I was 11 weeks pregnant and I just avoided getting into drinks rounds and got my husband to buy me tonics without the gin! He asked the barman to put it in a big G&T glass so no one was any the wiser 👍 although i was so bloated I was certain people would guess!!!!

@coles85 oh no, I hope your little one is better soon. I had that last week, but I didn't work from home, just took an afternoon off with her.

So I'm not 100% sure when I ovulated, I'm guessing I'm 2dpo today. We managed to DTD twice over the fertile period. I had a couple of little twinges but nothing major to say I ovulated but I'm going with it. AF due 12th Aug (always a 28 day cycle, apart from a weird one a couple of cycles ago!).

How's everyone's weekend been?