TTC #2

[MamaSJ15]

Hello,
I couldn't see a thread for ladies trying for baby no 2, so I thought I'd start one.
I'm nearing the end of cycle 3, 12DPO today, AF due on Wednesday. Having all sorts of symptoms that I don't usually get.
My first LO turned 2 a couple of months ago.
Look forward to hearing others' stories 😊

Ah thanks both, the TWW is hard! First you have your period, then daily ov testing and DTD, then.... nothing.

It's good to know those work @coles85, I got some easy@home because I want to use their ov tests next month if I don't get pg this month. Pack of 20 which is enough for the next week!

How are you doing @coles85? Do you have scan/midwife dates yet? I guess going by LMP isn't very helpful for getting your due date if you've had a long cycle?

That's good @Rachy11! I did have a busy weekend so could only start obsessing last night 😂 well done for planning to wait for your period. Wouldn't it be helpful if we didn't have home pregnancy tests and could only confirm via the gp after a missed period - then there wouldn't be any temptation!

Wow lots to catch up on. I've been a bit absent from this chat all weekend, apologies! I've not been feeling very well if I'm honest, had a sore throat (really badly) since about Wednesday, gets so bad at night, then a cough (not a major one) has developed now too. Hoping it will finally pass in a day or two.

Welcome to all the new comers, so nice to see lots of ladies joining the thread 😊 @dollface20, @ter2021, @SLT90, @Josephine2021, @Rachy11. Hope I haven't missed anyone!
Update for the newcomers - I'm 30, I have a DD who's not long turned 2 and were in cycle 4 now of TTC our no 2 🙂

@darcey87 I really hope you get you bfp this cycle, it's so hard to wait isn't it!

I'm still keeping it casual this cycle, I must be CD11 today, ovulation will be creeping up in the next few days. So far we've DTD once on Friday which would be too early for fertile window I think. DH is out till late tonight so hoping tomorrow/Wednesday to have a bit of fun!

Any updates today? How's everyone feeling?

@darcey87 I'm feeling ok, thanks for asking. Not feeling pregnant yet but was lying on my tummy earlier and it was uncomfortable so I'm guessing something is changing. I imagine second time round it might happen faster? Going to call today to get my booking appointment but I'm positive they'll think I'm further along than I actually am. Curse of the long cycle 😂

My first DC was REALLY late and I kept telling them I thought they had my dates wrong lol eventually she was forced outta me! So the last thing I want is for my due date to be earlier than it actually is.

Wishing everyone lucky this cycle 🤞🏻 ☺️

@coles85 can you just say you don't know when your last period was? Then they'll have to use the scan dates which will be fairly accurate.

@darcey87 I called them today and they're fully booked til mid September anyway haha! So no need to worry about it, it would seem!

But yea was thinking about just adding a week to my period date. My gestation is like an elephants and I'm likely going to have a section, which I hear they schedule for 39 weeks, so would like to hold off as long as possible. Although I'm sure my scans should rectify any discrepancy in dates.

Mid September! Crumbs. It's not even the busiest time of year for pregnancies!

Also I don't think it's mandatory to be 39w. My friend had her first by elective c on her due date and second at 39+3. There might be some budge, depending on your consultant.

How was your last pregnancy? Did you have any extra care? I have other health issues so if I do get pg this month it probably wouldn't be ideal to wait until 12-13 weeks to tell them about those.

@darcey87 that's good to know. At least I can ask. Last pregnancy was (thankfully) very straightforward. No additional care during pregnancy, but didn't have DC until over 42 weeks and that was with an induction.

Very true though, there are things that could be missed by having that first meeting late.

Will you be under consultant care second time round?

@coles85 I think if they hear you went late last time that might be influential. But I think it also depends why you're having a section (not asking btw!) as if it would be unsafe for you to go into labour then they are more likely to insist on an early date.

Fingers crossed you have a nice straightforward pregnancy this time.

Yes, at least a couple of consultants, but that's normal unless your health issues are exclusively pregnancy-related. I'm quite glad as last time my midwifery care was really inconsistent and it was quite unsettling and definitely added to my anxiety. At least with consultants I'll have some consistency because I'll be with named people. I'm probably the only person who looks forward to consultant-led care!

Ah that's a good point. No, no medical reason for having one. Totally elective. I had such a good recovery last time from the emergency section, I figured I'd just skip the uncertainty of a "natural" birth and ask for one. If I went into labour naturally there would be no issue (that I'm aware of right now).

That's really sad you didn't get the care you expected last time round. I'm sorry to hear that. Hopefully this time will be a better experience.

@coles85 how far along do you think you'll be mid September when you get to see a midwife? I remember with my first, they said they don't see you till you're about 8 weeks.

So I think my 'casual' cycle is going well so far. I only went on the app today because it sent me a notification saying my fertile window was ending, which is impossible! So it turns out that because it had only reported my period lasting 2 days, it had my fertile window all wrong. I don't trust it anyway to be honest. I'm just gonna go with my bodily feelings 😊

@MamaSJ15 I think I'd be about 11 or 12 weeks by then.

Sounds like a good plan to just trust your instinct and ignore the app. Keeping my fingers and toes crossed for you!

Glad your casual cycle is going well @MamaSJ15! Do you feel more relaxed?

Well done @Dollface20 for holding off on the testing. It definitely just makes you a bit loopy to see constant bfns but without your period you never know for sure.

Another bfn at 9DPO this morning, although I was expecting that. If you stare directly into a bright light then squint at it you might see a very very faint shadow where a positive line would be but I think I'm just imagining it. All I dream about it positive tests, it's awful. I definitely should have held out until Friday before testing and got really engrossed in a good book or something

Hi! Can I join? My lb is 21m and we're ok cycle 1 TTC no 2. According to Glo I'm 11dpo with AF due in 4 days. I had some sensations at 6dpo that were like the implantation cramps I got first time round but I cracked this morning and did a FRER, got a bfn obviously. I know I'm not totally ruled out for this month but trying to accept I am. I've been off the pill since January so was hoping my cycle etc would be sorted by now and we'd get lucky (I'm 35 and we've already waited longer than I wanted because of Covid). Last time I went off the pill for the first time in 14 years and we conceived on cycle 3. So I was hoping we'd be in a good place now but we'll see. Baby dust to all!

That sounds like a lovely day @dollface20
It really is crazy how quickly some people can get pregnant. Then there's others who try for years, it's heartbreaking for those.

@coles85, ahh yeah that is a bit long to wait for your first appointment isn't it. I hope you manage to see them before that!

@darcey87 yeah I am feeling more relaxed to be honest. Obviously I'm very aware that I'm in my fertile period so I don't want to miss an opportunity, but at the same time, I'm not too worried, as long as we try once or twice. I'm hoping for tonight and maybe tomorrow. DH was out till late last night so no chance then!
Haha, the bfp dreams... It'll come true soon! Are you testing daily at the moment? Sorry it was a bfn but it's still early days 🤞

Welcome @laureatus. How are you doing? Sorry you got a bfn, but like you said, you're not totally out yet. You're not out till AF shows! Fingers crossed 🤞

Have a happy Tuesday everyone 😁

Aww thanks @MamaSJ15 I'm alright really, I'm totally aware many people go far more cycles in this way than we have so far, so I don't mean to grumble. I just had a feeling we got lucky - I had pains at 6dpo which were like the implantation pains I felt last time, but admittedly last time I didn't test at all until AF was a good few days late. Damn symptom spotting!

PS sorry if tmi but I did have some pains and then more ewcm yesterday, so I wondered if maybe Flo is just totally out and we should keep dtd anyway 🤣 we have anyway but who knows what's going on!

Still testing daily @MamaSJ15, just leaning into it! But I am not going to be too upset if it's not this month, as I am feeling really guilty about having a couple of drinks and not eating healthily and I've made no progress with losing weight so I kind of don't feel I deserve to be pg!

Glad your casual approach is more relaxing 😌 they do say that helps.

Welcome @Laureatus it is hard not to symptom spot! You're not out til you're out.

@Laureatus I know, I feel like I moan too much sometimes when I think what others are going through, but it's still hard.
Last cycle I was convinced I was pregnant, I had every symptom under the sun, but bfp day before AF, I should have just waited and not wasted a test 😂 yeah, maybe you ovulated later than you thought then! 🤞

Don't be too hard on yourself @darcey87, we're only human. That doesn't mean you don't deserve to be pregnant at all. Chin up, it's still early days 😊

Thanks, I didn't think I'd be able to stick to a relaxed approach but I think I'm doing really well so far! Feeling ill for the last few days has probably kept my mind busy though! 😂 My throat is slowly starting to get better now, thank god!

I meant bfn... 😂

Good point @MamaSJ15 I probably was being a bit harsh on myself!

Did you have Covid? Glad you're on the mend!

I think those who are trying for a long time do have it hard @Laureatus also so much is about expectation isn't it? If you expect it to take e.g. up to 12 months and you're pg in cycle 6 you're probably really pleased, if you expect it to take 2 months and you're pg in cycle 6 it probably feels like ages and months 2-5 have been quite hard. Then if you add in fertility issues, or low libido, or lack of opportunity, short/long/irregular cycles, it's a minefield.

@darcey87 you're so so right about the expectations thing. I think first time round I was so naive to it all I had no expectations but this time, my god I put the pressure on.

@MamaSJ15 glad to hear you're on the mend. It absolutely sucks being unwell. We had planned to try to TTC a month earlier but I had a killer kidney infection and it wiped me out! Needless to say we did not end up starting that month. Hope you're back to 100% soon!

@darcey87 you're absolutely right. We've definitely struggled with energy and opportunity so that makes me frustrated.

I hope everyone's having an alright day - it's nice and sunny where we are now ☀️