Newbie looking for some support

[Peachycream]

Hi ladies,

I’ve been lurking for a few days, just seeing what the deal is, trying to work out some of the terminology used, mostly going to post but then getting scared and carry on lurking haha.

I don’t really have anyone I can talk about the TTC journey with in my real life as we aren’t telling anyone as it stands so I’m hoping maybe I can make a few friends here that I can obsess and stress out with 🤣

I’m currently CD 7 in my first cycle so tracking with OPKs every day right now so that I can get a clearer picture of my cycle each month.

I’m 30 and this will be our 1st,

If anyone has any advice/is in a similar position to me or just wants a natter I’d love to hear from you 😊

Xx

To be fair, you’re only supposed to be having 300mg of caffeine a day anyway, which is about 3 cups of coffee and during pregnancy it only reduces to 200mg so it’s not hugely different from what they say you should be consuming anyway. And green tea has the lowest caffeine content of them all @GingerTea333 with it being around 50mg so as long as you’re not drinking it excessively it should be okay 😊

This is why I haven’t cut my intake down, I only drink 2 cups of regular coffee anyway which is within limits of both either way 🤷‍♀️

Since my mc ive decided to limit my caffeine. Ive tried to cut it out but on weekdays it just doesn't work for me if I want to get any work done. I have one shot of coffee or one cup of tea. Any others I try have decaf. But I have the occasional Diet Coke, dark choc which have caffeine but I think they're minimal and you're allowed 140mg (I think) while pregnant so I'm just trying to follow that. X

I think I would struggle cutting it our completely, sometimes there's nothing more satisfying than a lovely tea or coffee :)

I'm in the TWW @GingerTea333 but only about 3DPO and not googled yet, got a busy few days so thats keeping my mind off it lol going to try and wait until (if) AF is late to test this month. How is everyone else doing?

I’m trying to eat a little healthier and drink a little less. More for my self not just because we’re TTC!

This week is going super slow for me. 8DPO.. AF is predicted Mon/Tues next week. Trying to hold out testing if I can but it’s hard work 😩

@HRP1990 you can do it!!
Tbh this week has properly dragged. I think it's because there's not much planned for the weekend, just DTD 🙈

Hopefully the weather stays nice so we can go the beach... along with half the UK 😅

@HRP1990 echoing the above with you can do it :)
Fingers crossed on the weather indeed, I might pressure wash the yard lol not the most exciting but needs doing.

A week of DTD does drag 😂 joking.

Thanks girls @SareBear87 @Aries491! God the beach is so busy here when it’s Sunny! I might make like you Aries and do some gardening in the sun.. Anything to keep me away from testing lol

@GingerTea333 - I’m impressed with your green tea drinking! I’ll have a mint tea (or a ginger tea ) sometimes though. I didn’t think green had any caffeine so I’ve learnt something new there!

@Aries491 - yep can’t beat a good cuppa (Yorkshire tea for me!) I can taste a difference with decaf tea, it has a milder taste.

@HRP1990 - we’re rooting for you! Hopefully you’ll be our first BFP? I’ll definitely be holding out testing this month. Not going to make the same mistake with testing with a FRER only to get AF later that day

I forgot to take my temp as soon as I woke up this morning, but remembered just after I got up, doh! I’m also using OPKs and haven’t got a peak yet at CD15. I know I ovulate a bit later though so hopefully this weekend is ‘go time’ .

Boy this TWW is killing me! I've given up trying to analyse everything lol .. feel like im having a real down day and so fking tired (probably hangry lol) .. could do with a massive cheesy pizza and a gin and tonic! Was thinking how will everyone avoid drinking when we get our BFPs?

It’s dragging isn’t it!? @Dannii892

That sounds like the perfect meal pizza and a g+t!

I’m not a massive drinker to be honest. What I’m concerned about is when we get BFP how are we going to keep the secret and avoid drinking when out/social interactions now things are opening back up again!?

@Dannii892 I totally misread what you said and repeated it in another way 😂 sorry (baby brain!?🥴)

A friend of mine used to say she was on antibiotics so couldn’t drink, it was genius really cause everyone was too worried to ask what the antibiotics were for, and then everyone eventually forgot she wasn’t drinking until she announced and then it was like “ahhhhh yeah!” 🙃

Also, alcohol free is virtually everywhere now, so providing you order your own drink (and with the apps in pubs and restaurants now) it’s probably a lot easier to get away with

@HRP1990 😂😂😂😂 so funny.. when do you think you will test.. ive been looking at FR on amazon but can't being myself to buy one.. I have a CBD in my nicker draw but apparently they aren't that sensitive?

@Peachycream that's genius!! But my family are so nosey they would deffo ask why I'm on antibiotics lol

Yeah I don’t think the antibiotics trick would work with my family either - my sister would suss it out straight away. I’d probably tell her early on anyway

I’ve just been having a little squizz back through the thread as I wanted to remind myself of something. We have a lot of people that seem to have dropped off. I wonder if any of them have tested yet or how they are doing.

If you see this and you haven’t posted in a while, let us know how you’re getting on xx

I don’t think antibiotics would work with me either lol but good idea! Perhaps it would work on the first occasion lol. That’s a good idea though about ordering your own drink on apps when you’re out!

I’m hoping I can have a busy weekend and forgot about testing (unlikely🙄) my apps say AF is Mon/Tues so fingers crossed I’m not bless with a period and I can test then 😬

Where are you both in your cycle now? @Peachycream @Aries491

If I was going to family/a meal with DP I'd probably just say to him to have a beer and I would drive then I'd just be the driver. Also probably say I have work to do over the weekend so can't drink or need to drive somewhere early the next day or on a health kick xx 5dpo here think I'm due AF next fri xx

@HRP1990 @PurpleCat88 @Dannii892 I’m not sure what she did with her family, but I know with her friends when she was at the pub/out for meals that’s what she said, it’s probably easier to get away with when it’s friends that it is family.

Fingers crossed for you HRP and I hope you get your BFP 🎉 🎈 🎊

I’m currently 5DPO, I’ve felt waft all day to be honest but nothing that would be unusual for this point in my cycle, I always get exhausted a week or so before AF so I’m not expecting anything to come from this one. Generally just feeling down in myself to be honest so I guess that isn’t going to help anything.

How are you getting on? AF is getting close now (if she turns up) how you feeling? Xx

Thanks @Peachycream send me all the positive vibes!!

I think if you think that you’re not in with a chance, it’s almost better because you’re preparing yourself for a negative, so when the BFP comes it’s like 🎉 that’s the way I like to think anyway. Then you’re not disappointed.

Is anything the matter to make you feel that way or that’s how you feel at this time in your cycle?

I feel okay. I’ve read that the chances every month of getting a positive is 20% so if I just think like the above I can just move on and get going with next month. Saying that I’ll probably have a cry, eat and cheese, down a g+t and tell myself to suck it up 😂

@HRP1990 I’m sending all the good vibes your way lovely 🥰

I’m really excited to see our first group BFP.

That’s a great way to think of it to be honest, if you just assume it’s negative then anything else can only be a bonus!

Not really no, I think it’s just one of those days to be honest. I’m not sure if it’s a cycle thing, it’s not something I’ve ever really noticed before but it could be worth noting to see if I feel like this again same time next month. This month has been a bit emotionally draining for me though to be honest, I’ve found all of the tracking quite stressful so I think once this cycle is over I won’t bother next month. I’m still using the cheapie OPKs now past O 😂

I’m glad you’re doing okay, 20% is that it? They could at least spring for a 50/50, I’d be happy even if it was 60/40 😂 I’m glad you’re keeping positive about it all though!

I keep thinking it's such a small chance so I agree prepare for a bfn and if you get a bfp all the better!
I think people have dropped off probably thought to have a break during their TWW.. im not strong enough lol I did think earlier I should leave this forum for a bit because I just get into a thread tunnel but erm.. here we are lol.
I'm going to test on the 20th I think will be 15dpo .. or should I wait for AF on the 23rd.. aaaahhh!

Not to depress anyone further but I read a stat about women in their 30's conceiving. Each month for me (aged 33) it's only 12% chance. So I figured statistically at least, I should catch within the year! Which made me feel a little better.
My friend put it this way (which made me chuckle), you have more chance of getting pregnant than winning the grand National 😂

It is stressful @Peachycream I agree. I’d like to take it easy next month and DTD every other day in the FW.. maybe😂 not sure I can commit to not using OPK’s encase I miss O for whatever reason!

It’s deffo worth logging it in an app. I have the Flo app aswell as the Premom app but with flo you can log your mood and symptoms?

I know it’s so low isn’t it!?

I can see why people need a break to be honest @Dannii892. Sometimes TTC just consumes me and it’s all I can think about, so a break from here is probably a good thing when you need to switch off!

@PurpleCat88 Yorkshire all the way definitely, nothing beats it:-)

On a weird note ladies I have just had a static smiley on my cb opk (?!) Thought I would give it another go since I didn't see one when testing when apps said I would ovulate. Currently CD20 so I suppose it is possible I have ovulated later this month, will DTD all weekend anyway to cover bases just concerned it means my luteal phase is only about 11-13 ish days based on my 29-32 day cycles I've had across the last 6 months, so hoping that doesn't affect me in anyway. Anyone else had short luteal phases? Xx