Newbie looking for some support

[Peachycream]

Hi ladies,

I’ve been lurking for a few days, just seeing what the deal is, trying to work out some of the terminology used, mostly going to post but then getting scared and carry on lurking haha.

I don’t really have anyone I can talk about the TTC journey with in my real life as we aren’t telling anyone as it stands so I’m hoping maybe I can make a few friends here that I can obsess and stress out with 🤣

I’m currently CD 7 in my first cycle so tracking with OPKs every day right now so that I can get a clearer picture of my cycle each month.

I’m 30 and this will be our 1st,

If anyone has any advice/is in a similar position to me or just wants a natter I’d love to hear from you 😊

Xx

@HRP1990 just seen you tagged me, my phone hasn't been refreshing for some reason. Currently CD20 which i thought based on apps was 4ish dpo but this mornings static smiley has thrown a massive curve ball haha! I do vary in cycle length from 29 to 32 so possible I am just having a longer cycle so ovulated later than i thought, that or i have a short LP. BDing this weekend then!! How are you getting on in your cycle? Xx

My last cycle was 25 days, however this month I got a static on day 19! And my luteal phase is only 11 days so same as you @Aries491. This is such a long month for me. I would have been on day 4 of AF if I had last months cycle lol.

I’m 9DPO, AF due Monday 🙄

@HRP1990 I haven't tracked my LP properly yet this is the first month for me so depending on cycle length I'm not sure how long it is. Assumption would be 11-13 days, I did some googling and below 10 isn't "normal" as they say so fingers crossed ours is long enough for everything it needs to do. Bodies are so...frustrating!
Hopefully AF doesn't show for you lovely! When are you thinking of testing?

@Aries491 my luteal phase has been 10 days for the last 2 cycles I came off the pill in November so hoping my cycle is still just settling down. Were you on the pill previously?

@HRP1990 There’s a couple of us with slightly shorter LPs then. Hopefully it doesn’t affect anything for us.

@purplecat88 I was on the pill yes and came off last August. Had 2 AFs in one month and then they settled to around 27 days for a bit but then shifted around so now I would say cycle wise I am 29-32 based on more recent tracking. I have seen it takes some time to settle after the pill so I guess we will see what happens and hopefully doesn't affect us. I will know based on when/if/hopefully not lol AF shows up this month. As I said I've only been using opks this month so first time tracking really, this could be the norm for me who even knows :)

I’ve seen people on here get BFP’s at 6DPO so I can’t see 10 being a problem @PurpleCat88 😘 it might lengthen as your cycles get back into a normal pattern after being on the pill

@HRP1990 @PurpleCat88 fingers crossed for our BFPs :)

I wouldn't say 11-13 days is a short LP? I think mines is 12 x

Hi ladies,

I decided to put my phone down last night as wasn’t feeling great.

I’m not going to tag anyone (I remember what I want to say I just don’t remember which tag is which and I don’t wanna offend anyone and you can’t read back and not lose your message 🙈)

I get what you mean about the tracking and not doing it being stressful, I think I will probably feel that way too, but my problem is that for us OH and I are like ships in the night more often than not, he also works away at times and I think knowing when O was coming just floored me cause he wasn’t here until the last day (if I didn’t miss it) and there was nothing I could do about it. So in this situation I think ignorance is probably bliss for me cause if it happens again next month I think I’m going to full on break down 😂

How is everyone getting on? Has anyone tested yet?

I’m 6DPO today, still feeling gross, couldn’t even finish my coffee this morning which was an absolute outrage, cramping on and off but mostly a feeling of pressure? If that makes any sort of sense. I think it’s all usual AF on her way symptoms for me (apart from the coffee, I’m still upset about that now!) as 6DPO is way too early to know anything and as I’ve only just started tracking it could all just be usual and I’ve just never noticed it all before. The only AF symptoms I actually recognise for myself are sore boobs and occasional cramping.

Hopefully over the weekend/start of the week we will being seeing some BFPs! 🎉🎊✨

Also, forgot to add, my premom app says that a “normal” LP range is 11-17 days. I think I saw it in the Q&A section, if you have it in the cycle report bit it should tell you how long it thinks each phase of your cycle is and whether your in the “normal” range

@justwant2beamum that's good to hear, I'm so new to this I'm just not sure. If AF shows this month I will then have a good idea of how long it is but I have adjusted my apps to show positive ovulation today and they're now predicting a 30 day (flo) and 34 day (fitbit) cycle so we shall see. Of course ideally AF doesn't show and a BFP does instead but who knows :)
@Peachycream I think ignorance is bliss is the new attitude I am trying not to think too much on it and really did a opk out of curiosity this morning (kinda glad I did or I wouldn't have known!), just gonna make the most of the weekend lol and see what happens. Hopefully your symptoms aren't AF, keeping my fingers crossed for you and sending baby dust :)

Also with all this ttc stuff I'm thinking what is normal anyway tbh...women's bodies are miracle makers and confusing as hell!!

Xx

@Aries491 sending baby dust back to you too and thank you 😊 although, it would be a freaking miracle for me this cycle as we would have been right on the arse end of O if we even made it at all.

Lucky you did the OPK then, maybe it’s meant to be. Good luck for over the weekend.

You’re right about the normal thing, there’s just no such thing as normal. There’s so many variables in the human body you can’t possibly say normal surely? Maybe average. But literally anything can throw you off, stress, illness, too much water, too little water, standing on one leg with one hand in the air and a finger on your nose 😂

@Peachycream I’m sure that’s a symptom, being put off my certain foods/drink and cravings! Got my fingers crossed for you!

Has anyone got any nice plans for the weekend? (Apart from all the DTD’ing haha)

I’m trying to cram in as much as I can to stop me testing 😬

@Peachycream thank you :) haha im a massive believer in fate so maybe who knows! Hopefully you made O, fingers crossed:)

Haha i know! Literally so much can alter our bodies it's crazy! Not worth worrying about although that's easier said than done!

@hrp1990 haha DTD a lot lol! We are having a bbq since weather is nice and seeing family, how about you? X

@HRP1990 I’m not getting my hopes up, I’m still sticking with “it’s not possible, I missed it” mindset 😂

Will you test Monday? I’m so excited for you! All my fingers and toes are crossed for you 🥰

I’m working most of the weekend so nothing exciting for me. What are your plans? (Apart from trying not to test)

@Aries491 you never know, even if it isn’t fate, it’s excellent timing on your part 😂.

That sounds like a nice weekend planned for you, hopefully it’ll take your mind off it all for a few hours at least

@Dannii892 @HRP1990 @PurpleCat88

Create a fictional ‘dry month’ challenge. Say it’s a work charity type thing. Then at the end of the month say “I felt so good not drinking and saved so much money, I’m going to keep it up for a while I think!”

(I don’t drink so this part is super easy for me…cutting out caffeine however )

@glasspaw thats not a bad shout.. I did join the gym 3 weeks ago and have been going 3x a week so could always say I'm having a dry month and taking the gym more seriously ..
Tbf I LOVE LOVE a coffee but naturally gone down to 1 cup a day BUT I've been napping so hard lol so I may need to increase that intake if I ever want to have a normal life lol

@Dannii892 there we go! Perfect set up for a health kick :)

I’m the same, I’ve cut back to one a day and I am basically falling asleep at my desk by 4. Hopefully we both adjust quickly!

@glasspaw yes! Or I'll be missing this summer completely lol
.. but I love a good nap lol had one today with my OH - heaven x

@Peachycream I think that’s the best mindset and then if it’s positive you’ll be over the moon, if it’s negative you’re prepared for it! Thank you 🤞🏻 I’d like to hold out for AF to show or not.. but may be tempted on Sunday as my boyfriend is off work!

I might use that excuse @glasspaw! I’m not drinking too much whilst we’re TCC so I’m usually the one driving, not sure that will one will hold up for too long though!

@Aries491 a BBQ will be nice! We’re driving up to london Sunday for the football eye roll but as long as I can bask myself in the sun I’m not overly fussed lol.

Good Morning all!!!! What a lovely Sunny Saturday! Just got my peak on my clear blue tracker a few days earlier than both premom and flo predicted (so I probably ovulated earlier than expected last month since I didn't test a full month).

Just sat in bed with the dog lay on me reading through all your messages befor OH wakes him and I tell him DTD is the priority for the weekend 😂 maybe I'll go downstairs and start making him a bacon sandwich ... that smell will soon wake him up!

I feel like we need a joint calendar so I can keep track of your cycles... how weird does that sound... however I find it really reassuring knowing your all going through the same. @HRP1990 due Monday, are you waiting to test until Monday? That's some willpower!!! Whose next then is it you @Peachycream??

@HRP1990 if I was you I'd be testing now 😂 keep us updated please!!!

Mmm bacon sandwich 🤤 my dog is laying next to me on the sofa snoring his head off lol.

That’s exciting @KayL1988! I was in such a good mood during my FW, fingers crossed this is your month!

We do need a calendar haha like google docs so we can all update with our cycles and symptoms 😂

I don’t know what’s more disappointing.. a BFN or AF? I think the longer I leave it the more optimistic I am lol. Wishful thinking 😬

@KayL1988 can I have a bacon sarnie too? 😂

Bacon and DTD all weekend, I mean what more could he ask for in all honesty?

I second the joint calendar, let’s set up an ICal so we all know what the deal is 😂 I agree with having people in the same position, it’s nice to know that you’re not alone.

Are you getting up to anything nice this weekend?

I’m not sure who’s next, I’m 7DPO today so testing at the end of next week, I’m gunna wait and see if AF is late though just because we were so close with my window it would be almost miraculous if I caught it xx

All my fingers and toes and arms and legs are crossed for you @HRP1990! I’m excited for you! But if it’s not what you are hoping for we are all here to comfort you (and have a cheese party)