Newbie looking for some support

[Peachycream]

Hi ladies,

I’ve been lurking for a few days, just seeing what the deal is, trying to work out some of the terminology used, mostly going to post but then getting scared and carry on lurking haha.

I don’t really have anyone I can talk about the TTC journey with in my real life as we aren’t telling anyone as it stands so I’m hoping maybe I can make a few friends here that I can obsess and stress out with 🤣

I’m currently CD 7 in my first cycle so tracking with OPKs every day right now so that I can get a clearer picture of my cycle each month.

I’m 30 and this will be our 1st,

If anyone has any advice/is in a similar position to me or just wants a natter I’d love to hear from you 😊

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@ConfusedNewbie21 personally I would wait until you get the FRER, otherwise you’re just going to drive yourself crazy, it’s quite possible that you’re far too early to get a result anyway. I’d wait until the end of next week. You say it was only in the last few days that you’d even had sex, to get any sort of a definitive you’re better off waiting until your 14 days past that point, by then you’ll know either way, I know it’s easy for me to say but you’re just gunna drive yourself mad lovely. Or, go to your GP and tell them that you’re getting test results that you can’t interpret, they’ll do a urine test and/or blood test to confirm either way.

@KayL1988 phew! So what we’re saying is the cheeses that no one really cares about are fine but all the good ones are out? I’m not sure I’m a fan of this 😂

Cheesecake for dinner it is then 😂

I've not ovulated yet - so I'm making the most of eating everything!!!

@Peachycream @HRP1990 😅 what can we make our other halves give up when we finally get our BFP?

@KayL1988 I can think of 1000 things, but I can also think of the 1000 different responses I would get that all mean no, and none of them are that polite 😂

@HRP1990 we can make cheesecake for 3 meals a day for months work right? I mean there’s loads of different flavour options 😂

@KayL1988 I’m pretty sure all my suggestions would be followed up with a “fuck off” 😂

@Peachycream absolutely! But why make it.. where I live there are plenty of deliveroo options for cheesecake 🥴

There’s no cheesecake delivery near me @HRP1990 😞

Everything we have to go through in life as women and then they take away our cheese!

I am dying for a baileys and white choc cheesecake now!

I mentioned the idea to my other half and his response was.... he completely understands that having a baby affects a woman a lot more than a man.... but why should we both suffer? 🥺

@KayL1988 😂😂😂 I mean, it’s a fair response, wouldn’t you have said the same if it was the other way around 😂😂

There is a way around it though, you could try training him with negative reinforcement techniques, like every time he eats something you can’t, lick his face 😂

Some men would actually enjoy the face licking @Peachycream 😂😂

I didn’t think of that, although, they say positive reinforcement works better than negative reinforcement, when a dog is good you treat them right? 😂😂😂

positive reinforcement everytime he doesn't eat a medium rare steak, sushi or cheese? 😂

Also.... anyone else feeling more emotionally since they made the decision to start trying? I honestly feel like an emotions tap has been switched on

Yes! @KayL1988 films with weddings/pregnancies/anything emotional sets me off!

I’m also so much more aware of what’s happening in my body, any tiny pain/bloat/sick feeling (definitely no sick feeling here lol) since TTC!

@HRP1990 oh I hear you on that! I’m really wondering if I’m always this crampy and nauseous or whether I’m bringing it on myself by hoping that I get some sort of indication of a BFP in the TWW haha!

I bought my first pregnancy tests today. I’m 32 and I’ve never taken one before so this is possibly a silly question… but do you just pee straight on to them? I got a combination of FRER and the one step paper ones, and the paper ones look more like the kind you need to dip into a sample. Should I have ordered something to pee in too? (And that right there shoots to the top of the “questions I never expected myself to ask strangers on the internet” list).

@glasspaw I'm 32 and I'd taken a pregnancy test before but only expensive ones when I was worried I'd missed my period and my contraception had failed (oh if only I knew the chances of the sperm getting through at precisely the right moment was so low 😂).

However last month I tried pregnancy testing - the plastic stick ones you can pee on (see instructions but usually just a few seconds) but my peeing skills aren't good enough for those little thin sticks! I just tend to dip now (you have to dip for longer but I feel like there is less risk of peeing on my hand..so I'll take that 😂. Soooo last month I used a little disposable takeaway Tupperware type thing which worked beautiful (I have however now invested into a proper pee pee cup (aka cheap plastic cup that isn't see through) I just keep with the bathroom cleaning stuff.

@HRP1990 glad it's just not me! I honestly don't know where all these emotions have come from! I also definitely am over thinking everything happening in my body!

@ConfusedNewbie21 sending you lots of positive thoughts! Peachy nailed the advice definitely try to hold off until your first pee with your FRER or go to the doctors or your really struggling.

@KayL1988 that sounds like a very sensible approach! I did think that the paper ones could be a real challenge otherwise haha! The plastic ones are so expensive though so I figured I’d use the cheaper ones until there’s a suggestion of a BFP, then FRER to confirm.

Yeah definitely @glasspaw I have some cheap dip sticks and then a couple of plastic ones in case I have a melt down and need one of those too! Also I figured if I pee in a cup... if I dip cheapy and it's positive I can then dip the expensive (as long as I don't through pee away straight away). If you pee directly on the stick... and it's positive... you'd have to wait until the next day for the first morning pee pee! 🧐

Are you testing now????

Hey ladies, hope you don't mind if I join‽.. ive literally just read this whole thread and giggled quite a lot of the way! I'm 29 and have been trying to conceive naturally with my partner for 4 months now and this is my 5th cycle and 1st time using CB digital 20 stick ones.. I ovulated a week earlier than I thought I would so that was a surprise..
1st stick was a O .. 2nd stick was a flashing smiley .. 3rd stick flashing smiley .. 4th stick am flashing smiley/pm static smiley!
Me and my partner DTD on days 3 4 5 (all AM) and on the 5th day I had ovulation cramps on my right side in the evening.. i think today I am 1CPO .. in for a horrid TWW now 😥 .. just keeping my fingers crossed!

Welcome @Dannii892
It looks like you and I are on exactly the same cycle! 😊

Hi @Dannii892 fingers crossed for you this cycle! The TWW goes so slow doesn’t it!?

So I had a dream last night that I did a random OPK and both lines were as dark as the control line 😂 as if I’m thinking about these things in my sleep!

@HRP1990 honestly I dream that I get a bfp almost every night it's constantly playing on my mind. So tiring

@Peachycream oh that's nice to know!!! Do you have any symptoms?
My boobs are feeling quite heavy but not sure if that's because I slept on my back 😅 or ovulation? I can't deal!
It's not letting me tag anyone else but yes the TWW is torturous! Just wish there were a specific symptom that aloud you to know the little guys atleast met up with her you know 😉
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Welcome @Dannii892 - glad you've joined us!!! Seems like your in a similar boat to us all

How have you found TTC so far?

The TWW is awful, last month was my first month and I symptom spotted so much!! I agree I wish there was a test that you could take at home was like 'yup they've met up.. let's see if they make the journey down to your uterus and set up home... '

It just feels like we don't know anything during TWW which is why I became so hyper aware of my body!

@Dannii892 to be honest, I have no idea if I missed my window or not, as you’ve read the thread you will have seen my meltdown about it 😂 so I’m just going with the relaxed approach right now, it’s only day 2 so even if I did hit it, I’d never know by this point anyway 😂

@ConfusedNewbie21 may I ask how your partner feels about all this? Will you start trying if it doesn’t work out the way you’re hoping it to?

@KayL1988 thanks hun, up until this month I had been way off with when I ovulate.. I was using the app clue but also just trying to dtd every other day. Also trying not to test too soon but af symptoms are so frigging similar.. its stressful isn't it especially getting a bfn after the long wait..
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@Peachycream call me crazy but I've actually kept this to myself until it's certain. Which is probably why I'm being so full on with the questions in this thread!! I know that in general he goes back and forth with the idea and I know he'd be an amazing parent, so you could say if nothing else this experience has encouraged me to start yes of course that's a convo that we need to have.

I've really psyched myself up that it could be real so I know I'll be so upset if not. FRER on their way to me later today fingers crossed