🦕 Catching up - ttc after miscarriage part 5 🦕

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On to thread 5 Ladies!

@Annny27
@Nuggetlover27
@27DONFIN
@Babyghirl

Please tag anyone I’ve missed from the old thread.

I’m currently enjoying my first glass of wine in about 10 weeks. Will happily give up alcohol for a baby but no baby I need alcohol 😂

Really hope that’s the start of a BFP for you @Babyghirl let us know when you test in the morning.

@Annny27 Sorry it looks like AF has arrived.

@Nuggetlover27 Fingers crossed for a positive FW

Thank you @justwant2beamum x
@27DONFIN thank you! I've been keeping well thank you! The anxiety has eased a bit, but I've started getting severe migraines which has been quite hard to deal with. I've taken a week off work on leave this week so I'm hoping that will help! hope you're keeping well? Xxx

Thank you @Miscarriage39 xx

@sweetbabydust1989
The cramping could be down to ovulation I sometimes get ovulation pain but it bes on the side the egg is coming from lasts a few how's them disappears hopefully that all it is with you 💚

@Babyghirl yes you're so right it's pretty much gone now so I believe I probably ovulated on either the 7th or 8th and not the day I got my peak as I barely had any CM before those dates xx

How's everyone doing? I'm still getting tiny bits of pink/beige cm when I wipe - 13dpo so technically af due tomorrow but who knows as it's the first one after the mc?! Fed up of the spotting now this is day 6! Argh. Anyway. Feeling slightly more positive today just need to get af over and done then we can crack on again! @Babyghirl hope you enjoyed your evening alone!

@sweetbabydust1989
Yea they say the pain can come before during or after but the day after I have it my temp goes up lol so they say you can't use that to say when💚
@kiwi17
I did indeed bck to work tomara a days overtime 🙈🙈🙈🙈🙈🙈 what we do to pay the bills lol 💚 hoping you get an answer to either the bitch or a bfp hopefully the second one thou 💚💚

@Babyghirl spoke to soon the cramps and back ache are back bubble bath might be needed 😂 absolutely gutted I was gifted a fertility bracelet by my other half's aunt she is really into crystal healing i am on the fence but wore it as it looked so pretty it was kinda gesture when I had my ectopic and the thing just snapped while I was eating my tea the thing must be a omen lol xx

Hello everyone, I spent the last hour looking through this thread in awe with how positive and supportive everyone has been with the ups and downs of our TTC journeys. My husband and I got married last year October 3rd and a week later I missed my period and found out that I was pregnant. We were over the moon, we hadn't planned the pregnancy it just magically happened. 4 weeks later I started bleeding which unfortunately resulted in a MC. Those few weeks were the most exciting days of my life yet quickly turned into the most devastating days I had ever experienced, I've always so badly wanted to be a mum. After December AF arrived so we decided we would try again in January, each month I am driving myself crazy symptom spotting, it's seriously like an addiction. I don't want to put the pressure on my husband because he believes everything is in gods timing. I'm doing everything I can OPKs, taking prenatal vitamins that I need, exercising and eating well, tracking my cycle like a hawk. Last cycle I truly believed I was pregnant, had all the signs there but I didn't want to test until I missed my period. My cycles are normally 29 days so once I was a day late I seriously thought I would get a BFP but it was a negative. I didn't get AF until CD32, I was so let done and upset about it because my body has always worked like clock work, never less or more than 29 days. I put it down to stress and over obsessing lol, so I decided to stop everything and give TTC a rest without tracking. I guess I relaxed too much and ended up not knowing my fertile window because of my unexpected longer cycle I just had. I actually cried thinking I let a cycle slip through my hands. Hubby said we will still DTD when I get EWCM because when i tested with OPK I couldn't find a strong peak. So I am currently 12DPO, I had brown and pinkish spotting from 6DPO to 10DPO only when I wiped and had mild cramping and back aches. Took a test this morning and it was a BFN. Feeling confused and so discouraged. Just wanting to be a mum so badly and I'm feeling like the odds are against me... it's so nice to see a thread of supportive ladies who have been battling for a much longer time but are still so optimistic and hopeful. I have been yearning to find a group of women who are feeling what I feel each month. No one in my family has had a MC so I can't have open conversations about it with anyone as I feel like they don't understand me or think I'm being dramatic. Sending baby dust to you all who are pregnant, actively trying or are waiting for more answers through fertility. Wishing for our rainbow babies this year!! Love and light to everyone.

@danisaui31 I’m sorry you find yourself here. Everything you have said we have all done it’s only natural to try take control of the situation. There’s no point in me telling you want to do as I honestly think we all have to go through the whole consuming side of it to the naturally relax as telling you to relax isn’t going to work. the whole ttc it frustrating and emotionally draining especially after Mc. Personally for my the best thing I did was spot tracking and ovulation testing I may not have fell pregnant yet but am not longer letting it take over my life or relationship which is a positive to me. Xx

Morning! Boobs have shrunk, combined with the spotting then that's me out!

@27donfin got high hopes for you this month! When are you due and testing?

@danisaui31 sorry that you also find yourself here. I have done the obsessive tracking and the relaxed cycles too and honestly I feel so much better when I am not peeing on opks every couple of hours, obsessing over if a line is getting darker or not! So I am not buying anymore LH tests (unless I need to for medical reasons e.g. i need progesterone checked on a certain day for example!

@kiwi17 so frustrating isnt it getting spotting but no AF! I am 13dpo now and reckon she is due very soon as I feel cramps and very period like haha

@babyghirl any news on your AF??

@Annny27 nah night sweats started last night and had a few hot flushes so she’s on her way. Due tomorrow Iv been early the last few months think maybe b6 has put me back on track.

Aww well here’s to a 2022 baby for us x

@Annny27
Nope still here waiting 😂😂😂😂 but she will be here very soon lol have thought that nw for 3 days lol she may hurry up. 💚

@sweetbabydust1989
I got this one bought to me by my oh sis I love it love how pretty it looks even if it does nt work 😂😂😂😂💚 xx

@Babyghirl that is a pretty bracelet 😍 I have this one ... I just think it's weird how it snapped during my 2WW lol... cramps are barely there now which is good still got loads of CM how are you today?? X

@sweetbabydust1989
I love that bracelet it's gorg, yea I'm ok nearly time to get sorted for work thou 😭😭😭😭😭 on a 2 till ten gs, fingers crossed the cramps r implantation cramps 🙏🤞🍀💚. X

@danisaui31 welcome and sorry you have had to join us :( I am no shining example for a successful ttc- try to start off on cd1 being like ok this month will be relaxed and by 3dpo I'm googling every little symptom. I do use opks as find it hard to pinpoint ov otherwise but I only use them for about 5 days and once I get my peak I stop. I have dabbled with recording my bbt but to be honest I resent having to wake up early on my days off to match timings with my work days so my temps are quite patchy 😂 I don't know whether relaxing comes with time or whether some people are just better at being chilled about it but I would love to know the secret! @Annny27 tell me about it - sorry to hear about you. I'm completely out now, my bbt did drop this morning and af has fully arrived now. Feeling fed up and miserable about it not working straight away and having essentially wasted 6 weeks since the mc and any supposed 'extra fertility'... oh well I'm sure once the hormones subside I'll be a bit more rational sorry for the rant! Even more annoyed that we are going away for the first time in ages tomorrow to stay in a cottage and see my parents outside (They live 6 hours away so haven't been able to see them throughout the mc) and now I'm going to be miserable bleeding and in pain the whole week. It all just feels very unfair :(. Anyway rant over!

@Babyghirl thank you lovely little gift... oh I am back tomorrow I don't work weekends I stopped doing them a little while back... well I am due on soon would be nice to know what's going on my CM usually dries up but nope I feel like I have wet myself lol xx

@sweetbabydust1989
I work for the NHS so I do rota shift but today's overtime covering my mates shift she off and won't be bck she has lung cancer worked together for 19 years 💚 I'm due today and she on her was it norm starts bot 7 or 8 at night so will be here tonight lol hope yours does nt come 🙏🤞🍀💚 xx

@Babyghirl so you're one of our bus heroes that have kept us all going... I work in a supermarket... I hope she doesn't turn up but I do find them to be a good clear out lol xx

@sweetbabydust1989
You one off them hero's to without u everyone would of starved I don't see me as a hero thou I love doing my job, oh she deffo on her way feel the heavy period feeling 🙈🙈🙈🙈🙈🙈🙈 but you having loads of cm sounds promising thou xx

@Babyghirl oh I am only doing my job just for the verbal abuse over loo roll and pasta for a few weeks lol... I can't stop falling asleep poxy cramps are back that's spread to my back I wish I new how far past ovulation I was not even sure when to test xx

@sweetbabydust1989
Wait till the morning lol what cycle day r you on nw x

@Babyghirl I am on cycle day 19 with a peak ovulation test on cycle day 12 flo app calculated ovulation on cycle day 13 xx

@danisaui31
Sorry you find yourself joking us but glad you found us for support 💚 this thread is full off wonderful ladies all going through the same thing so no question is ever to much so ask away, this whole ttc journey can be a long one for some people but in the end we will all end up with r rainbow babies just taking us longer than normal to get there. I have had 4 miscarriages and 1 cp now been put on the waiting list for ivf but hoping I will not need it and I fall and carry on my own. 💚💚

@danisaui31
That is meant to be joining up lol 💚